2007-03-06 02:50:35 · 30 answers · asked by BKelly237 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
IF my husband committed adultery, and was sorry, ashamed, felt horrible about it, then I could forgive him. Once.
2007-03-06 04:30:10 · answer #1 · answered by Kari R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and No. It actually depends upon the person who commited the adultery. Are they capable of change? Did they get caught or fess up out of guilt? Are they sincerely sorry? I don't just mean "uh, I'm sorry honey". We're talking "I'll do whatever it takes to right the wrong kind of sorry, even if it includes being accountable 24/7 and years of therapy to rebuild what I tore down".
Those that are capable of change, show sincere remorse and an interest in making it right, can be given a second chance. Those that are only feeling guilty because they got caught need to be kicked to the curb....they'll only repeat the behavior.
Like I said, it all depends upon the individual honey.
2007-03-06 03:01:09 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will never be forgivable. But I have known people that had this come up in their relationship and they worked through it. I don't want to believe that your partner would just cheat for any given reason, there must be problems or your not getting fulfillment. Those who choose to work it out will always struggle to try not to remember the past....that is why it is never forgivable.
2007-03-06 02:58:55 · answer #3 · answered by Ladybug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contrary to what some people claim, YES it is.
It all depends upon:
- how much you love the other person
- how much of a sense of forgiveness you have.
These people who insist that they can never "forget" the incident do not fully understand the concept of forgiveness.
To hold a person's mistake over their head indefinitely is just plain evil.
Google the term "statute of limitations."
2007-03-06 03:17:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything is forgivable as long as the two parties love each other and talk things through. IT will take time to earn the trust back but it can be earned. Good Luck.
2007-03-06 02:57:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is forgivable but unfortunately will probably happen again. If the relationship is otherwise good it may well be worth the risk. The trust may never completely return and the cheating will never be forgotten.
2007-03-06 02:59:59 · answer #6 · answered by dano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the people involved and the situation. I would have a hard time forgiving but I love my husband so much I may give him one more chance. If he repeated his mistake he had better run and hide real good because he don't want me to find him!!!!
2007-03-06 02:57:41 · answer #7 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can forgive , but life is never the same. The trust is lost. You never forget, it will always be their when things come up that make you questions what is really going on. Trust takes years to earn back and it is never full gotten back.
2007-03-06 03:08:55 · answer #8 · answered by springer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be forgiven the one who did the betraying has to accept responsibility that they hurt the other, and be willing to give up the affair, and mean it. they have to show by their actions they mean what they said. they will have to be patient with the one they broke their trust, because it takes time to get past it, and learn you can trust again. yes it is forgive able if it has only happened that one time, but if its a pattern of behavior with that person it isn't likely to change, no matter how much someone promises.
2007-03-06 04:26:43 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
EVERYTHING is forgivable, if the offender is truly repentant. Working through the emotional trauma after deciding to forgive / being forgiven is another issue though....
2007-03-06 03:13:57 · answer #10 · answered by Romans 8:28 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋