How do you tell the difference between love that is eventually nurtured and "love at first sight" kind of love? Is there no such thing as the latter in reality? I know of couples who start off as fireworks and always remain as fireworks..and couples who eventually start to have sparks after learning to love each other..(for example, in arranged marriages) is that not true love then?
2007-03-06 02:28:52 · 6 answers · asked by rainbowcello 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can have "sparks" from someone that you are not married or committed to. Has nothing to do with true love or learning to love which I think are the one in the same. Because once the sparks leave, you have to learn to love.
2007-03-06 02:34:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think no matter what if you have been with someone or around someone long enough you began to care for them and love them but not be "in love" with them. Even on arranged marriages and people who marry just because of a child. People who "fall in love" and are together are way different than those who don't. But that don't mean one will fail and the other strive. In every relationship it requires work and communication.
to tell the difference would be: in the beginning you have butterflies in your stomach and become excited to see that person, this would be that you like and/or even love that person. If you do not love them then that excitement usually isn't there.
Can it develop? possibly with time.
I do think that people can "fall in love" after being with someone for long amounts of time, that is why some people fall in love with their friends.
Following your heart is the best way to go but if you have to have an arranged marriage, open your mind up to this person and you never no, fireworks could happen.
2007-03-06 02:40:12 · answer #2 · answered by 2shay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I definitely believe in "lust at first sight", but definitely not "love at first sight". The journey to truly know someone and love them unconditionally takes time and real life experiences. SO many people throw the word "love" around, but do they always truly mean it? or are they trying to get something to their advantage? I met my husband in our 11th grade Chemistry class, sparks flew, we dated for seven years, and finally last year we got married exactly seven years after our first date on St. Pat's Day 2006. we are celebrating eight years together and one year wedding anniversary this coming March 17, St Pat's Day 2007!! There were definitely many obstacles, but together we have gotten through them all. I think both people have to always be on the same page for a relationship to work, and moreover, there are always gonna be things that you have to learn to love about that person. There are gonna be things you don't like about a person, but you learn to unconditionally love that person, no matter what. So, I think I can sum this up but saying, no matter what, the love has to be unconditional. I truly believe that we are exactly where we are supposed to be in life, otherwise, God would not have made it possible. I am not holy-roly person, but I do have faith. Hope you find the answer you are searching for...
2007-03-06 02:42:38 · answer #3 · answered by behind_green_eyes82 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you all..love at first sight is mainly lsut..onyl after you get to know a person you really fall in love with them. I have been in arrangd marriage for 3 yrs and half noww, and i met my wife once for1 15 min then 3 days later said eys to marry her. Today i am not sure if i love her, the lvoe you see in everyday couple who went to love marriage...there are no sparsk...i dunno why i cant feel that love that she feel for me and i dont know what to do..if it is lost case and if we should divorce becuz of incompatibilities or no love? i was told falling in love will happen eventually after marriage...but it didnt happen...on my side..and on top i was told i have sexual behavior (obsessive compulsive disorder), but even without this i do feel this absence of feelings....someone can tell me something?
2007-03-08 06:04:48 · answer #4 · answered by aminf31 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe in love at first sight I think everyone falls in love with time...they learn to love the other person by experiencing and growing together...I don't think you can meet someone for the first time and say oh Im in love or I love you..How do you love someone if you don't even know them...?? makes no sense to me..
2007-03-06 02:32:48 · answer #5 · answered by Alejandra2008 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Love at first sight" is usually LUST, but once in awhile, two people actually "connect" mentally, emotionally, and spiritually right away. TRUE love is a CHOICE and you will find a complete & accurate definition of TRUE LOVE in 1 Corinthians 13.
2007-03-06 02:38:56 · answer #6 · answered by Romans 8:28 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋