He has been married 10 years but seperated for 3 years. He went about 5 months ago to have all the papers drew up and things but didn't have the money then. He know has the money but a lot of drama has happened with his son's mother and he doesn't know what all to say to the laywer, he is keeping a notepad of everything he wants to discuss with the laywer but he wants some advice on anything extra. Basically when he gets divorced he never wants to speak to her again unless it's in regards to his son. Any advice from anyone who has been there and knows what needs to be listed in the final decree to avoid any problems in the future? Thanks.
2007-03-06 02:19:59 · 7 answers · asked by A. T. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My suggestion is to tell your friend to grow up, drama or not he made a child to this women so he will have to deal with her. Both parents are going to have to learn to become civil for the sake of the son. AS for telling you what he needs to ask for the Lawyer, No one truly can. You didn't put any information in about the divorce, or things that are going on.
So the only thing anyone can say is make sure she has his assets information and he talks about custody issues also.
2007-03-06 02:24:50 · answer #1 · answered by Issym 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, to answer this question, here's the thing. Documentation is key. I think whatever he has down are the most important things he will want to bring up. They were important at the time which is why they were written down. As he and the attorney talk, I think more questions will come about from their conversation. As far as never talking to her again except for their son, that will have to be his decison for taking control of that. He doesn't HAVE to talk to her about ANYTHING except their son. It's one of those things, the more you react to a bully the worse they make it for you.
If they are filing for a divorce decree, that means they aren't suing one another for anything and want to split everything down the middle. If nothing can be agreed upon, that's why he hired an attorney, because that way, whatever is decided upon and in writing and NOT done etc...the person who doesn't hold up their end of the bargain can be held in contempt of court = jail. No one wants to face that, but if things were to get out of hand, the judge will make a strong decision etc....let me know how things turn out, keep me posted!
2007-03-06 02:27:40 · answer #2 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what is listed in the divorce decree, it is no guarantee that there won't be problems in the future. Your friend has to find a lawyer he feels comfortable with, who look out for his best interests and the best interests of his son. Then your friend should tell his lawyer everything, and let his lawyer work it all out from there.
2007-03-06 02:25:33 · answer #3 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ending a marriage is lousy. He must speak to his former Mrs. at least till the kid is 18. If they had been separated for 3 years, what is taking so long. He needs to give her everything, agree on a fair child support and possibly alimony. Tell him dont forget every time he speaks to the attorney it costs him money. Take the hit in the pocketbook and go on with his life.
2007-03-06 02:26:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-18 06:53:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A divorce decree will not guarantee a person never has to speak to another person, unless it's about their child. That's absurd.
It sounds like YOU don't want him talking to her!! This is between them-I can't imagine it being any of your business.
2007-03-06 02:26:14 · answer #6 · answered by dog8it 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who gets custody, visitations, vacations, holidays, support amount, who gets what, who's responsible for what bills, who gets the house, or does it have to be sold.
It will be up to your friend to only deal with the ex when it concerns the son. Unfortunatley, because they have a son together, they will be connected and have to correspond until the child is graduated from school and or married.
2007-03-06 02:34:06 · answer #7 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋