any one got any ideas on how to get my love of my life back!?
2007-03-06 02:18:26 · 14 answers · asked by princess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we were together two years,he lived with me and works with my dad..i think it all got a bit to much for him n suddenly one day he told me he didnt feel the same towards me he said he loved and cared 4 me but not it that way..we were perfect together and i think we just got ourselfs stuck in a ruck...i no he isnt happy at the minute but i need to do something to remind him of the reasons we loved each other/
2007-03-06 02:23:49 · update #1
He told you he did not love you in the same way anymore.You can not make some one love you or come back to you.Reality check sweety..Its time to move on..he did..
2007-03-09 01:09:31 · answer #1 · answered by annie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As he works with your dad then it is not a decision he would have taken lightly because of the awkwardness. This leads me to believe he means it when he says it is over. He is saying he is not 'in love' with you and obviously does not think the same as you do that you were 'perfect' together. Sorry to be so brutal and I know you are desperate to get him back, but he has made his feelings plain and it must have been very hard for him to come to that decision. Let go. In time you will realise that the relationship was not right for either of you and, yes, you will meet someone else. Believe me, you will then be glad that you split with him because the new relationship will be the right one. I know, I have been there. Good luck for the future - it will take a long time to get over the hurt and rejection, but you will. Try to get yourself out with your girlfriends rather than mope at home. Hard I know, but you will feel better for it. x
2007-03-06 10:58:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you obviously weren't perfect together were you love? He's not the love of your life, he's just a frigging bloke. And us blokes are stupid, shallow, penis-led idiots. We're just not worth it. I'm sometimes ashamed to be a man. But not very often, and not for long. You're thinking "but you don't know him." And "he's different." Well, I know him, and he's not different. I reckon you are practically begging him to come back. Well, I think that is pathetic. But I will give you some Golden advice. The more you chase ANY man, the faster he will run away. Fact. Be distant and indifferent without being rude. Never, NEVER ring him. Men will never try to hold on to anything unless they fear they are losing it. And my guess is that you are as available to him as air. And look how we all take that for granted. Good frigging luck. Judging by how you idolise an idiot you are going to need it.
2007-03-09 17:36:27 · answer #3 · answered by lloydwaycott 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Theres nothing worse than being rrejected, you need to handle this in the right way - for your own self worth and sanity.
You need to feel a bit angry and say - "fine - u dont me - you know me but u dont want me - well i dont want you either !"
It sounds harsh, but he knows your number - he knows where u live , let him come to you, the more u chase him, the more he will run, let him go. Its hard, but you need to start making plans for your life without him. You need to be very matter of fact about it. Evry time you feel love for him, kick back n say - NO! he dnt want me, i dnt want him. Let him do all the running, and if he dnt come back, console yourself with the fact that that at least you werent married or didnt have children when he decided to change his tune.
You need sum1 who really loves you, if he dont , you cant make him. Im really sorry you are heartbroken, but it's out of your hands and you've got to think of yourself and your own future * All the best.
2007-03-06 10:48:00 · answer #4 · answered by Claire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you two need to do some of the things that you did when you were first dating. Going out, long talks, dinner, dancing, etc. I know that once you have been with a person for a long time you get comfortable with them and don't try as hard. Relationships are hard work. Contiue to work at it. Do something special for him. He should do something special for you as well. Taek each day as a new adventure together. Make it special.
2007-03-06 10:47:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give him some space, in a week or so text him and ask if he fancies meeting for a drink. Being on his case or trying too hard is just going to push him away.
2007-03-06 10:33:20 · answer #6 · answered by monkienutz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't expect miracles hun. He has told you how he feels about you so leave it at that for the moment. What's for you will not pass you by. If it's meant to be it will work out but don't let it eat at you, go out and enjoy yourself. Life is too short so enjoy it. xx
2007-03-08 07:43:00 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Isis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry but I think you just need to wait and see whether he comes back to you.
If he's unhappy at moment maybe give him his space and see how much he misses you. If he doesnt come back to you then I'm sorry that you have to get over it because he doesnt want to be with you.
Good luck
2007-03-06 10:41:33 · answer #8 · answered by Lady Claire - Hates Bigotry 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
make him, realise that you love him and explain what went wrong in between you.Dont just let go ,tell him that he is the love of your life and you can't just let him go .tell the truth pour your heart out onto him and hopefully it'll work good luck..
2007-03-06 10:28:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
five years with the second husband i gave all and got sorry i don't love you Ive try-ed but its not working am leaving why i don't know two days ago he left me why ...
2007-03-09 17:44:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋