I don’t drink alcohol much. Not because I have a moral problem with it, just because I don’t like how it makes me feel. I feel like life is short enough that I would like to remember it, and not waste it in a drunken fog, or hangover hell. I do on occasion have a drink with friends, (maybe once or twice a year). My husband on the other hand has a completely different opinion on drinking….he loves to come home and relax every night with a six-pack of beer in his hand.
Then he gets upset when I don’t find him attractive, as he smells of beer, and because I don’t find him attractive at this point, he results to searching for porn on our family’s computer. This has caused many problems in our marriage, he thinks I’m controlling and should just get over the smell of beer and since I don’t its my fault he has to look at porn. I feel disrespected and unloved. We made a rule now that if he drinks we don’t have sex, but now, I feel rejected every time he reaches for the can of miller light.
Does the fact that he drinks mean he is already unhappy? He says he is happy except for the fact that I try to control his drinking? I need to figure this out… please help.
2007-03-06 02:17:28 · 4 answers · asked by ms.underestimated. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I did know of his drinking habits before we got married. But we were young and in school and we both were doing the same things. I assumed at one point we will grow up and out of it. He never did, and doesnt plan to.
2007-03-06 03:02:35 · update #1
Has it ALWAYS been like this? You ARE being disrespected; porn is equivalent to adultery. There's nothing wrong if he wants to have a beer, but if he's coming home drinking a six pack, HE has a drinking problem. He needs to get help with his alcohol & porn addictions, and you should ask him to go to counseling with you for your marital problems.
2007-03-06 02:33:06 · answer #1 · answered by Romans 8:28 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of men like a few cold beers at the end of the day to unwind. But if your husband is abusing alcohol on a regular basis then I would agree with you that there is a problem. I feel you must have known of his drinking habits before you married him but you decided to marry him anyway. Now you find yourself in a very unhappy situation and complain. I am incline to think you made a mistake in the choice of the man you married. Hopefully you two do not have children as this would make leaving the marriage a lot easier. Either way, yours is a problem that I feel does not have hope for improvement. Your husband likes his beer over you and so now it is up to you if you want to stay. Best of luck to you in whatever you decide.
2007-03-06 10:36:49 · answer #2 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can install NetDog Porn Filter on his computer: http://www.netdogsoft.com
It will protect family from internet porn.
2007-03-07 21:32:10 · answer #3 · answered by beyondhelper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds completely selfish and is just making excuses so he can go ahead and do what he wants to do.......
2007-03-06 10:45:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋