Can we ever be friends again?

Question

We booked 2 holidays with another couple and their children and recentley went on the first hol.We all shared the same accommodation!BAD IDEA!
We have a 2half year old son and they have a 3 year old daughter and our 4 day hol turned out to be awful.The whole duration of our holiday our little boy was being told off by the little girls dad,he wasnt allowed to touch her toys in case he broke them and the bloke spent most of his time saying how wonderful and clever his little girl is and how our littlen has a long way to go.It became very annoying.Needless to say our friendship has gone stale.They have offered us our deposit back for the 2nd hol and we,ve accepted however they are not forthcoming with it and Im getting tired of ringing and going round and not getting it.Such a shame that I actually did get on with the woman in the couple just not the man.Do you think I should salvage my friendship with her? or let it go?and any ideas on how to get my money back?

Answer 1

Hi, I think there is a possibility you could stay friends with the woman just to say hello or go for a coffee, but i don't think you could be the best of friends again. By offering you your money back they obviously don't want you with them on holiday again, (it's their loss) because with the attitude of the husband they will never have close friends, you do not compare children, i suppose theirs is prefect.! 6 months difference in children is a lot. If they do not send you the money i would put it down to experience. Go on holiday with your husband and son and enjoy yourself.

Answer 2

Boys r more boisterous by nature - i have 2 - n my sis who has a girl used to cal mine the tournados - lol

Your friend should know this and shld explain this to her hubby. If your friend is serious about your friendship, she will help to mend this rift, life is long and it wld b a shame to fall out over something that is completely natural.

Her hubby mayb doesnt spend enough time around other children to see the differences btween young boys and girls.

Tell your friend that you think her hubby was being a bit harsh on your Son, stik up for him, he's too young to stik up for himself and u cant let the blame for the bad experienc lay on your Sons shoulders when it was her hubby's lack of child experience which caused it , these situations r always really difficult to front out , GOOD LUK * * i would do it now, or your Son will always b sen as the culprit who spoiled the holiday, and possibly the friendship - and it's not tru.

Answer 3

Appeal to her better nature and compromise on the money, at least you might salvage something financially. If you are that concerned about maintaining a friendship with the female, be honest with her and say that your grievance shouldn't effect you two being yummy mummys! If you have done all the phonecalls & failed, get yer hubby to speak & say that the money (returned deposit) will be put towards something special for your son. Failing that write a letter from your son, that should tug on the heartstrings!

Answer 4

Well I think you should try to salvage your friendship with the women. Just don't take trips with them. Men generally don't do well with other children than their own(in my experience anyway). All parents think their children are the best and especially daddies and their little girls. Don't over react, just tell them that you prefer to take holidays alone with your family and that you would really like to have your money back. Just be polite as you can and be the bigger person.

Answer 5

Maybe you should arrange to have just the parents round for a meal and leave your lilttle boy with your parents for the evening. Without the pressure of parenting you might find out what made you friends in the first place. I think there sounds like there may be a little parental jealousy on the other couple's part. Do you have a good relationship with your boy and they are just focussing on how "smart" she is? Maybe she is not living up to their ideals???

Answer 6

If you were really good friends with the woman then you shouldn't end your relationship with her just because her husband's an a**hole! ... Maybe you should go on the trip and whenever the man says anything to u or about ur kid then just tell him to F off! In all reality, his kid is probably not a wiz kid like he puts on. If you really don't want to go on the trip then go over to their house and tell them that you're not going to leave until u get ur money back...if there is a problem call the police!

Answer 7

I'm sure you can be friends with her. Get the men to look after the kids while you go out on the town.

As for the deposit, it denepnds how much it is. Perhaps it could be worth letting go in order to keep the peace.

Answer 8

I'm afraid i would have to say no , as your one friend will always probably side with her hubby if she let a four day holiday be soured by him , nothing will change , just try and put it down to experience and move on , she knows where u are .

Answer 9

I'm sorry, WHY did you let this go on?
You teach people how to treat you, and your boy. Shame on you for letting this continue.
You got your money's worth- you got a life lesson.
Please stand up for your child at the first sign of distress.
Polite, my foot.

Answer 10

just go to her house when he is at work, and talk to her. say that you came by to pick up your deposit, and that if she cant get it to you that day, that it is important that she get it back to you asap. by the end of the week or something.
then tell her how you feel, just be like "sorry that we had to back out, there was just too much chaos, you husband was a little to proud." if you really were friends, she will understand. if not, then i would say, move on.