I have a lot of the signs of being pregnant. Im 17 and I'm no longer with the person that would be the father. If I am, how do I go about telling him? I dont think he will like it at all.
Also we werent together the last time we had sex. We had been broken up for a month and then we decided to have sex on Valentines Day for the hell of it. At that point, I had been off my birth control for 1-2 weeks. Any advice or info you could give me would be awesome! Thanks.
2007-03-06 02:05:10 · 8 answers · asked by Holly g 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
First, find out if you are or aren't.
Second - if you are - involve an adult you trust (e.g., your mom) and discuss what you want to do.
Third, discuss strategies of how to tell him, particularly with regard to the amount of involvement you want from him.
Make sure you don't do this on your own. You need someone who is at least somewhat detatched to keep you on track.
2007-03-06 02:11:58 · answer #1 · answered by IVF Expert 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First and for-most, find out if you ARE pregnant. There is no use getting yourself stressed out if you're not. Secondly if you are then, you are, there is no point getting all stressed out over something that has already happened. You're not the first and won't be the last 17 year old to get pregnant. Then you will need to arrange to meet 'the father' and you can just explain what has happened. It's not the end of the world. If you are make an appointment with your GP and they will put you in contact with all the relevant agencies, i.e health visitor, mid-wife etc... Thirdly if you are NOT pregnant then next time you have sex use protection, there are other methods than birth control pill!
Good Luck whatever the outcome!
2007-03-06 10:19:05 · answer #2 · answered by Mummy B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am 17 as well and i am Pregnant. me and my baby's daddy is not together either. We were just friends now we aren't even that. But i would find out first and if you are then call him and tell him you need to talk with him and be sure to tell him where to meet. Once you see him tell him that you went to the doctor and you find out you were pregnant. If he looks shocked just tell him exactly how you feel right at that moment. When you leave tell him you will keep in touch. And you turn around and leave. He should call you that night or in the next 2 hours. He might apologize but let him. Tell him you need him to be there for you. But you need to go to the doctor and find out first. I did not know i was pregnant until i was 4 months and 2 weeks. i went only for a physical and came home pregnant. trust me it really ain't that bad but no birth control works effectively. i was on the shot! Now i am 7 months and due in May of this year i am going to have a boy and the father does not even care but i have my mom and my new boyfriend who cares for me and my unborn child You need anything give a shout out to me!!!!!! love ya!!!
2007-03-06 10:20:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a test that is the only thing we can say...and just tell him for the hell of it like you said ... if you are tell him to be a man and face it that he will be a father...get a blood test done if not just go to a dollar store and by alot of pregnancy tests that cost a buck each you can by 15 with $15 and thats how much 1 cost at a grocery store (expensive ones) i also got pregnant at 17 and im not 19 pregnant again
2007-03-06 10:11:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should probably find out if you are pregnant first before you start putting additional stress on yourself. If you are then the right thing to do is tell him. There is no gently way of dropping this kind of bomb on someone so just flat out tell him. Don't let him pressure you into making any decisions in what to do about. Good luck to you.
2007-03-06 10:15:04 · answer #5 · answered by CeeCee19 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
very first thing, go get a home pregnancy test.
if its positive make an appointment for the dr to recieve prenatal care and vitamins.
then tell those closest to you who you know will support you, even if one of those ppl isnt your ex, your parents, bro/sis, friends anyone.
tell the father, no matter if hes been an idiot, he needs to know, if he doesnt like it, its his loss, not yours, then you really see what sort of ''man'' he is. if you have friends/family support, you dont need him but give him a chance he may surprise you.
if he doesnt wanna know, he can be forced in some places to take a paternity test to determine he is def. the father and can be made to pay child support.
good luck!!!!
2007-03-06 10:14:59 · answer #6 · answered by Şơƥɦɨȩ'ȿ ♡Μυɱ˗Μυɱ♡ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First make sure your pregnant, so if you aren't you don't look bad. Second make sure you know what you want to do first and come up with a game plan, so when you do tell him he has options too. Third you need to figure this one out on your own, you are now an adult and if you are pregnant you are going to have to make decisions that feel comfortable to you and no one else.
2007-03-06 10:11:43 · answer #7 · answered by Jan R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take a test sweetie and see then you will know for sure-and whether he likes or or not if its positive just wait till your ready and tell him-regardless I hope you choose to be a good mother and raise your baby right-you can do it girl lots of people do We don't need a guy to get by-and if he is any good he will want to be in his babies life-give him a chance at least-good luck--
2007-03-06 10:11:35 · answer #8 · answered by ♥fungirl♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋