Is it o.k. for a mom to snoop in her 14 yr old's bedroom for any "evidence" of nothing in particular?

Answer 1

Honey i would say that if mom is snooping then she is looking for something in particular,good luck

Answer 2

If the 14 year old is giving even a hint that there is something going on then you bet. Mom gets to snoop.

But do remember that if you become the cop in her life youre not going to be the one she goes to for advice and help. Its our jobs to steer our children in the right direction, not sit back and try and figure out what path theyre on. You should already know. Keep talking to your daughter. Dont forget she is still the cute little bundle you brought home from the hospital 14 years ago. Dont let her down, do your job with love,kindness and respect.

Answer 3

If you think you have a reason to YES !!

You own the house, its your rules.
Everything they own you bought !

I have a 15 yr old son, I as a rule dont but I have made it clear I have the RIGHT. He was moody when he came home one day, I asked to see his bag, he said why??? I said im gonna see what you took to school is that a problem? He said nope.... found nothing but an F . He said ohhh man how do u always know.... lol I said mothers always do hahhaa PURE LUCK

I pay for his cell phone He knows I can check the bill. Dont normally but he knows if I ask for his phone I better not find anything I dont approve of.

I have control of my son, and he knows its whats best for him.

But he respects that i never do it behind his back. I tell him And when i see he is being a good kid, i reward his behavior....

( his father is a drug addict I will do whatever I have to to make sure my son doesnt follow that path.)

Answer 4

Only and I mean ONLY if you suspect drug use or that she is having sex or some other detrimental behavior. There's a fine line between protecting your kids and a total invasion of privacy. Yes, it is your house, but she is a person, too, and she has rights. If you have no reason to believe she is doing anything wrong, just leave her room and her stuff alone. I used to HATE when my mom snooped in my stuff. And I wasn't even doing anything.

Answer 5

Hmmmmmmmm. I have a 16 year old son soooo when I go into his room I never purposely look for anything or snoop! I dont look at his e mail and I dont look at notes in his drawer or anything! But I do open drawers to put away socks and closet to hang up clothes so If I see something I shouldnt and its not acceptable Im sure I would definetely talk to him about it. Thank god it has happenned yet but my son and I are very very close and we talk about just about everything so Im sure he would talk to me if something were majorly going on in his life. I trust him and his judgement so no I dont snoop!

Answer 6

Is the 14 year old exhibiting any signs of drug or alcohol use? No, then why check the room? How did you feel when your Mom used to check your room? It's a respect thing. I respect my children enough that I don't go into their rooms. If I have to go and get something, I try to wait until they are home so they can get it for me. If I absolutley have to go in, I try not to look around (or else I'd be in there for hours cleaning!!!! lol)

Answer 7

Well, It's your house, so it's probably OK, as long as you let your daughter know it is to be expected. My personal opinion, is it is healthy for a child to understand that if they are doing something bad in their parent's house, they will eventually be found out.

I wouldn't go so far as to start reading her journal if she has one, there has to be some amount of trust boundaries between you.

Also, teenagers can be remarkably clever at hiding things from your parents when they want to. A better solution, is to simply start *talking* to your daughter on a regular basis. If she feels that she can talk to you about her problems, and that you love her unconditionally, she is much more likely to tell you things.

Good Luck,
~Donkey Hotei

Answer 8

You live in your mothers house. You do not contribute to the household expenses. You are a child, not a tenant. Your mother has every right to access any room in the house for any reason, regardless of how fair you think it is that she has this right. Once you start contributing to the mortgage, electricity, water bill, internet bill, your cell phone bill, or any other applicable bills, then you have some room for negotiation. Life isn't fair. Get used to it.

Answer 9

yes its ok. but mostly if u have a suspision or idea something wrong is happening. If u have nothing concerning u then i would trust ur child until u have reason not to. If u do have reson then by all means search!!!! id believe in privacy but that is still ur child and ur responsibility. Id perfer to know then not know and find out my child is into something that is to large for them to get out of. i dont know.... my kids are 5 and 18 mos so i still have a ways to go. im just speaking out of self experience i guess. I know how 14 year olds are. I was there!!!

Answer 10

First of all it's your 14 year old and you not need evidence to make sure your child is being good with well rounded friends. Okay so here is what happened when my little brother was in school (14). He was a great kid, good grades, smart, into sports well I need a Cd to put a college term paper on and guess what I found in his drawer? He was smoking pot! So just because you don't have evidence doesn't mean it's not your rules and you are paying for the roof over his/her head. Now ifyou are going to go though the room make sure you don't tell them and make sure everything is back in place then the 14 year old isn't upset and you have piece of mind. :)