there a lot more to it we don't charge her room or broad, she drives one of our cars and the only thing we have asked of her is to be in by 2:00 and not priece any other part of her body, well she did it anyway what should we do now?
2007-03-06 01:59:10 · 6 answers · asked by ASgross 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Everybody is right she is 20 and has the right to do what ever to her own body...but i guess i don't know theres alot more to it thanks
2007-03-06 02:52:35 · update #1
I know she lives in your home but that request has nothing to do with living arrangements. The curfew is logical but not forbidding her to do what she wants with her own body. Don't get me wrong, I myself don't care for piercings. It is your choice to give her the use of your car so don't put that on her, she can take the bus. I say M.Y.O.B. on the piercing.
2007-03-06 02:08:11 · answer #1 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There really isn't much you can do about it. I don't personally like piercings or tatoos, but that is just my preference. She is of legal age and can do much as she desires. It may that she is rebeling against whatever authority you or she feels you hold over her. Or she may simply like the piercings. Young people feel a lot of peer pressure to "fit in" these days and piercings are one of the "in" things to do. I would change my policy of not chargeing her rent, and give her a period of time to get a job (if she doesn't have one) and find her own place. If she is in school and must live in your home, I would set some ground rules of what you expect from her with punitive actions if those rules are broken. But I wouldn't include personal choices such as piercings. Those are personal choices that are really none of your business. (didn't mean for that to sound rude). And get your agreement in writing so that there are no missunderstandings. Good luck.
2007-03-06 10:24:34 · answer #2 · answered by sarge 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not up to you any more. She's nearly 20, and you can't control her. Plus, making a curfew for someone over 18 and making rules that are arbitrary like not piercing her lip are silly and will not make her respect you. Make her pay the electricity, or at least her portion of the utilities, or pay for the car. Those rules would make sense, but not anti-piercing rules.
2007-03-06 10:36:24 · answer #3 · answered by Year of the Monkey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 19yr old sis who walks all over my folks. Lay it out to her like this(i wish my folks would)
She's 19 you can't control her but if she refuses to follow your rules while living under your roof she either needs to move out or pay rent. Make her sign a lease if nothing more than to let her know your serious.
Sometimes the best love is tough love.
2007-03-10 03:46:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since she lives in your home and drives one of your vehicles she has to follow your rules concerning your home and vehicle ... but her body belongs to her and her alone, not to you or your husband.
The choices she makes concerning her body are none of your business.
I'm not a big fan of piercings either, but I would never be so presumptuous as to try and tell someone what they may or may not do with their own body.
2007-03-06 10:40:47 · answer #5 · answered by BoomChikkaBoom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since she is 19 you can either ask her to leave, take the car away or you can live with the piercing and chalk it up to inexperience.
2007-03-06 10:15:53 · answer #6 · answered by selena d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋