2007-03-06 01:58:32 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I used to have this problem when my husband gave me this advice, be slow to speak. What I mean is, think more about what you want to say before letting it out and give it time to see if it sounds right to you and how it'll sound to the other person.
You can't decide what you want to say versus what you should keep to yourself. The dilemma may not have one correct answer. You feel like you're on a seesaw as you swing back and forth between expression and retreat. Try not to go too far in either direction as you reveal yourself gradually.
My husband told me that if I wanted to heal myself I had to learn my own personal knowledge. He told me that I had to think of myself as valuable (in a conversation and around people), to think about what my self valuables, and that once I see this others will see me as valuable as I do. Others will see my attitude which will allow them to see me as who I know I am. He told me that my first impression is my last because that's how people will see me each and every time I'm in their presence because they're judging me off of what they observed of my appearance.
Take a look back in time & evaluate my actions, don't try to relive it again but pick up warning signs from people & their reaction to the presence I had, and what made them not like what you had to say.
The last question I had was "How can I use this Now; he responded that I should be a leader in persuasion, common sense, have a different opinion, and explain it to articulate a mental picture of scenes that I'd like to portray to others.
2007-03-06 02:21:03 · answer #1 · answered by Dimples 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two of the most healing words in the English language are "I'm sorry". Try giving her an honest, heartfelt apology and things should settle down and foot should come out of mouth fairly easily.
2007-03-06 10:03:02 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You must be tired from standing there all this time! First back up. Now retrace your steps. Then begin again with brain fully engaged. That should work. @8-) Good Luck!
2007-03-06 10:58:35 · answer #3 · answered by Dovey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually helps if you put your head up your xss beofre removing the foot.. ;-)
2007-03-06 11:58:43 · answer #4 · answered by noonehomebutlightsareon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋