2007-03-06 01:37:31 · 16 answers · asked by MiMi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It doesn't HAVE to be....it just IS!
2007-03-06 01:42:48 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Marriage becomes difficult, and hard work over time. All that lovey dovey stars in the eyes crap tends to demur over time. So something must take its place to ensure that the marriage survives. Respect honesty and caring as well as true love help to fill that void. The problem is also that it is always hard to get two people from differing backgrounds to agree and compromise when they dont agree. Thats why marriage takes work. Some find the work easier then others. These are the people who made the right choice in a spouse.
2007-03-06 09:45:11 · answer #2 · answered by Devdude 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just because it is difficult and hard work, does NOT make it bad. Anything worth having is worth keeping. And if it's worth keeping it WILL be alot of hard work. Just like raising kids...suppose you had been trying for 5 years to have a baby and you finally have one. It's what you have wanted for a long time. Are you going to "just give up" on being a good parent just because your child is going through his terrible two's in the worst of ways? No. No marriage is easy. If it were, there wouldn't be the divorce rate that there is. There are just people who are not willing to work H-A-R-D. The exception to that would be abuse of any kind, or cheating.
2007-03-06 11:04:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Marriage is two people coming together to share their lives, but your not always going to agree and when you don't that's when it becomes hard. You have to learn how to compromise and admit you may not always be right. You also have to hold your tongue and not say anything you may regret, no matter how mad you are. You also have to be willing to say you are sorry if you should be. And pick your battles wisely. Not every disagreement needs to turn into World War III. Don't sweat the small stuff.
Just remember, that nothing worth having comes without some work. Marriage isn't bad, you just need to recognize that your partner is a person too and they need to be treated with respect, just as you want to be treated with respect. If you can do that, you are on the right track.
2007-03-06 09:51:45 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Marriage is difficult and hard work but that doesn't make it bad. Peopel who think marriage is easy and don't want to work at it will end up divorced. You have to work to keep a marriage alive and loving. If not you take your partner for granted and then they don't feel loved and want out. I have been married 12 years and it is hard work. But I tell you I wouldn't trade my wife for any woman in the world. Marriage is well worth the time and effort it takes to keep it alive.
2007-03-06 11:27:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Marriage DOES require some effort on the part of both partners, but in my opinion, this is not "difficult" if the partners have a sufficient sense of compromise, sympathy, forgiveness and tolerance.
If people are too self-centered, then yes, I can see why they'd think it's "hard work."
2007-03-06 10:33:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because it is. Any relationship between humans is going to be difficult and hard work. That is the nature of human interaction. Difficulty and hard work do not always equal bad. Part of loving someone comes from that work. That's life.
2007-03-06 09:46:40 · answer #7 · answered by me! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
marriage is hard due to the fact that no 2 people agree all the time we have our moments when we do and its wonderful.the thing is the more we go through as a couple the more closely our thinking becomes. its not as hard as some make it sound but when it fails and the children are involved its awful for the kids.
2007-03-06 09:50:33 · answer #8 · answered by patbgone 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not that bad. In fact, if you're willing to work at it, it's usually very good. It's naive to think that when you get married that things will always be good, you'll always see eye to eye on everything, there will never be any bad times or rough times (could be emotional, physical or financial).
Case in point, my wife had thyroid cancer, had to have several surgeries and a massive dose of radiation. She felt horrible for a long time and was a bear to live with. However, we dealt with it, tried to be as understanding about it as possible and took care of her. We got through it.
Years ago, I lost my job (the company down sized and I was one of the folks that lost their job) and while we weren't destitute, things were kind of rough financially and emotionally. I was out of work for about 7 months and it left a lot of emotional scars on me. However, we worked through it.
You just have to have a sense of perseverance, a work ethic and look at things long term and realize even the bad times don't last forever. Besides, I truly believe you had to have seen some bad times to truly appreciate the good times.
It's worth it.
2007-03-06 12:16:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
we sometimes marry for all the wrong reasons, we marry the wrong people, have too big of expectations, and get too easily frustrated when the problems do come. some may not have the tools or knowledge to work out the problems, we may not be mature enough. our choices in life determine our destiny. u may need to seek therapy to save the marriage, but if both partners aren't wanting the same thing, it won't work out.
2007-03-06 09:45:51 · answer #10 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
what in life is not difficult or scary? what in life doesnt need extra effort and patience to succeed? marriage is part of life but it has some special nature, like it shall not only be ur life involved, it shall be urs and that of ur husband and of kids if any. but humanbeings were created with the ability to make it work. trust that, with the right partnership, it shall a very beautiful part of life..and nothing is without a challenge
2007-03-06 09:43:44 · answer #11 · answered by kate07 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋