My girlfriend started using steroids so she could win at the school swimming carnival, but then once she had won, kept using them until the regionals, then the states, now wants to keep using them until she gets to nationals.
Now it was all great at first, she was winning, she was happy, we had a great sex life. But now shes out of control, she wants sex all the time, and she wants it rough, at first it was a turn on, but now its just scary.
I asked her to stop using them and she attacked me and threw me down the stairs. She threatened that if I told anyone she would hurt me worse, she gets in these rages, she is terrifying.
One minute she is happy and delightful, the next dark scary and menacing, you do the wrong thing and she will hurt you. She has terrible road rage, she actually chased someone in the carpark when we went shopping on the weekend.
Its just getting out of control. I dont want to leave her, but what else can I do?
2007-03-06 01:10:05 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
no matter how much they hurt us...it isent easy 2 let em go...( u kno it in u )
u want 2 help her....there wud b chances dat u may end up loosing her...but....maybe u'l also end up givin her a better life..n she might think bout it later dat u were da 1 who helped her...
wen she's there wid u...just talk 2 her n ask her...wat she's doing 2 herself...where is she taking herself ??? Addiction...
tell her u dnt wanna stand alone in end...where u'l regret dat u cudnt stop her from ending her life...
tell her fame matters only wen theres happiness...n if theres no happiness...dat fame doesnt stands newhere...
if she understands u..its fine...though it wud be tough for her 2 stop her addiction....but she'l need ur help...
if nuthn helps...talk 2 her folks...make em understand dat u care 4 her...but shes ruining herself...
u love her n care 4 her...u need 2 take da risk ...but trust me...it would be worth...cos u love her
2007-03-06 01:34:43 · answer #1 · answered by moooooooovin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
K stop thinking about what you should do and do it. You know what the answer is, ya it is going to hurt because you do care about her. If i threw you down the stairs would it be okay. Definately not! Tell her it is over. She is not respecting you or herself. You are not going to watch her waste her life away. Tell her she does not have to win anything to prove she is special. The truth is if she could not get past herself to see what she is doing to you and others around her she is a lost cause. After you have ended it I would inform someone in her family, tell them you are concerned about her and explain. They will understand and they will then try and help. When all is said and done and she is off the roids she will recognize what you did for her. If she really loves and cares for you she would thank you and you would get back together. If not and she is still sore at you then you know she was not the right one. Good luck and Good health to you. Dont let anyone belittle you or think it is okay to push you around. You deserve better, remember that.
2007-03-06 01:21:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get her some help. She is illegally winning competitions and it's not fair to the other competitors. She knows what she is doing is wrong and it sounds like she is on the verge of becoming the incredible hulk. It's time to do an intervention. You don't want to get her in trouble but you also don't want her dead. Everyone doesn't like to be hit on and many road rage incidents turn into fight's than can lead to either injury, jail, and or death. You being her loving boyfriend need to find a way to get this to stop immediately. Talk to her family. You can't be an enabler. Look at where enablers got Anna Nicole.
2007-03-06 01:16:59 · answer #3 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for you both.
It's great that you really want to make this work, that you want to get her help, instead of just get her gone.
You may have no choice, if she refuses help.
A wake up call may be in order.
The next time she attacks you, get the cops in on it.
Explain to her, if not them, that this is about her steroid use, not your wimpiness.
And getting a therapist for yourself, just someone who knows a bit more about her problems than the average Joe, n=might be great. Not that you have the problem, but if you;re sitcking with her, it IS your problem.
And hey, don't become a martyr, emotionally or physically. She's not going to get help unless she wants to.
But I gotta tell you, there was this kid I worked with who was special. He used to beat me up, as I was his one-on-one aide in school. Well, at the summer school, he hit me and got sent to redirection room. He hated it,
so finally he learned to verbally express his troubles, instead of hitting me.
You gotta put people in that spot between the rock and the hard place, you know?
Just do it.
2007-03-06 01:15:49 · answer #4 · answered by starryeyed 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the best thing for you to do is to have her face her problem. tell her a story about a "friend" you have that has a boyfriend/girlfriend that abuses steroids. get her advice on how she would deal with that person. get her to acknowledge that the steroid abuser is hurting the people he/she loves and that he/she needs help. then tell her that your "friend" is actually you and that she's the one that needs help. it's easier for people to deal with their demons when the defensive shields are down. good luck!
2007-03-06 01:17:39 · answer #5 · answered by WreckinShop 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately it seems that your girlfriend is undergoing some of the side effects of taking steriods... she is really boosting up her testosterone which is not a good thing in women and what's worse is she is cheating... it sounds like she needs real medical help and the only way to help her is to tell someone who can help her.. i know you dont want to and you are afraid of her but if she is any kind of person she will thank you some day because she is really hurting herself and her body... Good luck
2007-03-06 01:15:03 · answer #6 · answered by chellysea33 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you moody and speedy tempered, and once you do lose it do you lose it great? Is the actuality that genuine now examining this no longer without delay stepping into your nerve? Are you like your previous female with PMS...( that would get you genuine there) Are you depressed?
2016-09-30 06:45:41 · answer #7 · answered by barile 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she needs an intervention. you need to tell someone and get her help, you are only enabling her to use them by staying with her and being afraid.
2007-03-06 01:15:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
take a handful of Viagra and bang her like a screen door in a hurricane til you wear her out.....
2007-03-06 01:14:59 · answer #9 · answered by muffbro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sooner then later the health issues will come up..just be there when she collapses and her health gives out..she is out of control
2007-03-06 01:14:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋