I am so stuck. We have a severely Autistic 17 year old who requires 24/7 care. I am the only one working while I depend on my wife to watch our son. We have searched for daycare for him but there is no place near where we live that would watch him. He is 6'1 300+ lbs and strong as hell. He tends to break stuff either by accident or on purpose so private individuals either won't watch him because he is so big or he breaks stuff and they quit. I make not much money and state will not give him any until he 18.
My wife took advantage and started cheating. I walked in on her with two guys doing her at once. She was unapologetic and now does men and women regularly and basically has the attitude of "you can't do anything, who will watch our son?" So she goes on doing this and took up smoking pot.
She has me over a barrel if I leave her I lose my job and have no income....
2007-03-06 01:07:35 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow that sucks. Well your son is 17 so at 18 he will start getting State aid. That may give you a bit of a break. I cant figure out how she found the time to cheat (the *****). How does one smoke pot and take care of a severely autistic child anyway? You rally dont have to live there though. You can still support to the best of your ability if you get out on your own. Get an apartment with a roommate. How much could that cost. Cheating will definately effect a judges decision to award alimony. Child support is your responsibility and you are already supplying that.
2007-03-06 01:19:17 · answer #1 · answered by Devdude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I would leave her, she has to take the time to watch the child. She thinks that she has you over a barrel. You caught her having sex with two men and your still there? Get out, you can always find a new job. Set yourself free, get in the car and drive to another state, just get out!!! I don't know what line of work that you are in, but right now in Mississippi and Louisiana they are in need of any available person for every kind of job imaginable. Spring break is just starting in all the beach towns and everyone needs help. I would hock or sell enough stuff to get out of town and wipe your hands clear of the entire situation, you have given more than enough and deserve better times now. You sound like a good man, you have taken care of the child for 17 years, and in return she has turned into a tramp. Get out asap, and don't look back!!! Go somewhere that you've always wanted to go, like Florida. Good Luck. Remember this is your life, it is not a dress rehearsal, when they put your a** in that box, it will be your a** only, life is short and there isn't a hitch on a hearse. It's time for you to start living!!!! Maybe this time you can purchase yourself a RV and start enjoying life.
2007-03-06 09:25:25 · answer #2 · answered by Cheryl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may want to check your state laws concerning divorce. Infidelity causes that spouse to be at fault and will have to pay you child support and or alimony.
Also, do not be afraid to let friends and family know what is happening, that can be a source of support. If she is smoking pot, you may have to call the law on her. You just have to let her know that you are not in a corner. There are a lot of options.
Lastly, even though this is a bad situation, if she realizes the errors of her ways and changes, you can still go forward with this relationship. Many times I felt as you do and just wanted to get out of the situation, but looking back, I am glad I kept the family together.
Take care and good luck!
2007-03-06 09:22:04 · answer #3 · answered by ringolarry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey i feel for you.If I was you I would be thinking ok if she is doing that kind of stuff she isnt watching our son anyway.So I would leave her try and see if you cant get chils support from her and then see if there is a place that will keep him in the day while you work so you can pick him up when you get off of work it would probably be less stress for you in the end.They have adult daycares that do that and maybe you can get state pay for it also.
2007-03-06 12:59:31 · answer #4 · answered by anntanner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is what we call being between a rock and a hard place.i think you should send her packing,smoking pot around your son is not good for him and having strangers in and out of the house has to keep him in a state it would me anyway so sit down and really give it alot of thought his well being has to come first and i know a roof over his head is as important but it becomes a safety issue with him at this point good luck sir you are going to need it i am sure but keep your head up and stay strong for your son he is the most important person in this drama
2007-03-06 09:20:24 · answer #5 · answered by patbgone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really feel for you, she sounds like a real b**ch. You should have your job and a life after hours. Try to meet someone else and once your son turns 18 let her have the life she has made for herself and you move on. Focus on your son and yourself. In the long run she'll get hers. Good Luck
2007-03-06 09:18:43 · answer #6 · answered by poodlemama1965 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need a divorce and take your son get a sitter to watch your son because she isnt going to change she is walking on the wild side now and she isnt coming back to just one lover now so u sould just let her go
2007-03-06 09:28:11 · answer #7 · answered by ann k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This child is still the responsibility of both partners, weather you are married or divorced. If she is not commited to your marrage, then its time you started looking elsewhere for your needs.
Good luck.
2007-03-06 09:15:26 · answer #8 · answered by ms.underestimated. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave that b i t c h she ain't worth s h i t women like her make women like me look bad...next thing you know you will be taking care of her a s s you can always find another job
2007-03-06 09:13:24 · answer #9 · answered by sexsired 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get another job and get the heck away from her!!
2007-03-06 09:16:49 · answer #10 · answered by Zabes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋