i love life, and i'd like to have sex although i'm not in a serious relationship. is it wrong? i dont think i will regret this... but is that important to have sex with the guy you love? where is the fun? am i too young?
2007-03-06 01:02:14 · 83 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
first thing. don't take too much notice of what as_it_is says - he (i'm presuming) seems to have a bit of a bee in his bonnet about teens and sex... and some of what he says is bull...
second thing. i really admire you for asking questions, making sure that you know your mind, rather than falling into it without thinking about it first.
so. is it wrong? no
is it important to have sex with the guy you love? no
are you too young? no
BUT
it is important to have sex with someone you trust. practically - that they will use precautions. emotionally - that you will not walk away thinking you have been used. socially - that they will not *tell tales*, brag about it to their mates etc.
and to know that sex can confuse things. it can blur the boundaries between *friendships* and *relationships* - it is a very intimate thing to do with someone, and can kick off feelings, lead you into being boyfriend/girlfriend when that's not really what you want.
so, ideally, i would say that having sex for the first time with someone you are in a relationship with - that you have kind of built up to it with - would be the best way to do it.
but we don't live in an ideal world with ideal realtionships, so it may not be that way for you.
you seem mature enough to be making your own decisions about what is right for you. just try to make sure that the boy (or girl lol) involved is mature enough too...
2007-03-06 04:07:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
No you are not to young and no your feelings toward sex are normal. But you have a long life ahead of you and accidents do happen. Decide what you really want in life first! Wouldn't it be better to pursue your education and meet that special someone along the way a little later. I'm a guy that has seen to many things go wrong in relationships, and even without a child the lady put to much of her life on a back burner! It never killed anyone to wait a few years. Then keep on loving life to the fullest, you deserve it!
2007-03-06 01:15:09 · answer #2 · answered by dude_port 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Personally,I think that you are too young. You have the rest of your life to have sex. You say that your not in love with anyone and you didn't sound like you were really into anyone so what is the rush to have sex? Virginity is something that you cannot get back once you loose it. You need to sit back and carefully think about the risks and why it is your asking this question. Good luck to you and if you do have sex now be very careful and use protection and make sure that it is used right.
2007-03-06 01:09:30 · answer #3 · answered by ws_422 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes you are too young, and no it is not important to have sex with the one you love, especially if you are not committed long term to that person, ie are married to them. There is too much at stake when having sex that can come back to harm you if you do not do it for the right reason, ie to enhance that special relationship. Doing so at 16 is way too young. Give it time, there will be more opportunities for hat kind of special relationship as time goes on for you.
2007-03-06 01:11:06 · answer #4 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly it's really not about your age its about how mature you are. Can you handle all the bull crap that comes with having sex? Sure, it's fun..but if you got pregnant- could you deal with it? If you got an STD- could you handle it?
Also, sex complicates things. You may not think you dont want a serious relationship but then you have sex with a guy and you start to fall for him hardcore!
Trust me, take it slow. You have the rest of your life to be an adult! Have fun by hanging out with your friends and doing things that teenagers do. There is no rush!
2007-03-06 01:07:10 · answer #5 · answered by Suki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I waited to answer because I wasn't sure exactly what to say, but after seeing everyones posts I have to say something. Even if that means getting thumbs down.
It bothers me when people say sex is wrong.
Sex is a primal instinct. Every single living thing on this planet has sex. It is NOT wrong.
At 16, you are *legally* ready to have sex. However, with sex come a major responsibility. You need to protect yourself against STD's (many of them incurable) and protect yourself against unwanted pregnancy. I know first hand (and I am sure I am not the only one) how difficult it is to say no to the person you are with when there is no protection present. Are you prepared to stand up to that, and say no in this situation? Ask yourself these other questions...
Do you feel you are mentally prepared to start having sex, to choose partners with care and consideration, to put your reputation in jeopardy if you choose carelessly? Are you prepared if you do get pregnant, and is your partner prepared for a baby?
I would suggest waiting a little longer, until you are absolutely sure you are ready to deal with the consequences of having sex.
But I was 16 once too...
2007-03-06 01:23:28 · answer #6 · answered by NicotineFit 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
At 16 you are legally allowed to have sex. But the answers lies with you as to whether you are ready - dont be pressurized. Just remember, look after yourself and protect yourself from unwanted pregnancy or disease - you cant tell if someone is HIV by looking at them and the younger generation dont seem to be very informed about it. Some diseases can leave you infertile. Have Some self respect by not jumping into bed with everyone you meet, having sex does not make you grown up. Believe me your views will change as you get older, dont do anything now that you might regret later. You have your whole life ahead of you. I think initially it might be better to wait for someone you kind of love to begin with, and as you get older choose to have casual flings, but some people are left feeling let down by flings. Boys have a very different view on sex than women - most men are trying to get in your draws - save it for someone special, and be proud of that. Sex can be a horrible experience if rushed into - and it is supposed to be enjoyabe by both parties.
2007-03-06 01:10:30 · answer #7 · answered by Helen C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think you are too young, there's no harm in waiting a while. especially at that age you ought to be in relationship before you have sex. And have you thought about what happens if something goes wrong. Most of us have times when in the heat of passion we've slept with someone we regret or not used protection. How would you deal with that (it's easy to say you'll never get in that situation but it really is far too easy. ) What would you do if you fell pregnant by accident, either way that could ruin your life, please think about it very carefully it.
2007-03-06 01:50:31 · answer #8 · answered by Skippy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE WAY TOOO YOUNG! WHAT IF YOU GET PREGNANT!? No, you shouldn't. I don't think your ready, and sixteen is waaaaaaaay too young. Try waiting until your married, that's the way God likes it. Plus, if you have sex with a guy, he will either 1) Not talk to you at all in school, on the phone, etc. because it will be too awkward. 2) He will constantly call you, want to come over, want sex all the time! And your parents will get suspicious/find out. I'm waiting until marriage for religious reasons, but I think you should wait too.
2007-03-06 05:11:52 · answer #9 · answered by bria. 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
For God's sake, don't rush into anything. Believe me, sex without deeper emotion is a waste of your time, energy and self-respect. I'm not saying "Don't", I'm just saying don't do anything without thinking it through first. (And, obviously, if you are going to do it, use a blooming condom, no excuses, OK?)
There's no shame in being a virgin, you know. (and before anyone accuses me of being a religious freak, I am not religious, I've just lived a lot longer than 16 years, and have some life experience!) I don't know why the pressure is so much more on young people today to have sex. It's sad.
2007-03-06 01:08:59 · answer #10 · answered by lululaluau 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't rush into sex. you can only lose your virginity once, so i'd say wait until you've found someone you really trust, who you're really comfortable with and who you know won't just use you.
My friend lost her virginity on holiday, a one-night stand, and has regretted it ever since.
Also, are you sure you're ready? In my opinion, having sex for the first time shouldn't be premeditated- you should be prepared, condoms, pill ect, but you shouldn't just decide you want to have sex.
Wait until you are in a good solid relationship until you do it, and then you won't regret it. Good luck, and i hope i've helped.
2007-03-06 06:32:35 · answer #11 · answered by Lizzie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋