Husband tells me I need to lose weight but looks at very heavy women on the internet even when I am home help?

Answer 1

Love isn't about images. Love is about respect and caring for one another. You don't love someone for how they look, but for who they ARE! Don't listen to him!!!! If you love your body, that is enough!!!!!!!!! Don't change yourself for someone like that.

First off, I think your marriage is in trouble. If he is looking at Women on the internet at all, let alone when you are at home...something must be up. I wouldn't like my husband to tell me I needed to lose weight. That isn't HIS business, it's mine. I can't explain why your husband would look up heavy Women....maybe it has nothing to do with the weight, maybe it is just that he likes looking at Women on the internet in general.

Answer 2

Look I have the same problem but a little different. I am trying to lose weight, yet my husband has enough nerve to look at skinnier women on the net while I'm there. Does wonders for your self-esteem. NOT!! All I can say is if he is telling you to loose weight than tell him look in the mirror. If he doesn't love you for who you are and not what you look like, what is the point?. Ask yourself what do you think about yourself? That is the question you need to be asking. Oh, confront him on the looking at heavy women thing. Just ask him, what do you want, a heavy women or a skinny one? You can't be both.

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Answer 4

#1 He should not be looking at women on the Internet. That is wrong and very disrespectful. That is a problem all in its own and you need to address it separetly.

#2 When you fell in love were you smaller? Have you let yourself go a little? We are all guilty of letting a few "love pounds" creep up on us when we get settled. He might feel you weight gain is you way of saying you don't feel like he is as important to you as he use to be.

At the same time is he the same size? I am sure he didn't look at porn on the internet when you guys hooked up.

Listen, if you are happy with yourself that is all that matters. However, if you don't like the weight. Empower yourself and loose it for you. Not him.

Answer 5

Oh yes. Been there and beyond!

I never did get this one. When I was pregnant, my husband refused to touch me, actually said he was disgusted by it. He looked at pregnant porn the entire time.

I still need to lose some weight and he makes jokes and yet looks at the same thing on the porn sites.

Men are idiots, and in an argument, I like to call up the sites that he has been on (too dumb to wipe history) and tell him that it can't bother him too much or he would not spend so much time by-passing the cuties that are all over. You really have to search for this stuff!

Answer 6

Men just suck. They always want what they cannot have. If they can have you, then don't want you, so make yourself unavailable, then maybe he'll see what he is missing.
And don't let him screw with your self-esteem. Not one person is perfect; we all have flaws and things to improve on. This does not mean we are not worthwhile wonderful people. If you think you need to loose weight, then go out and join a gym, it makes you feel good, and look good. But if you are happy the way you are, then tell him to look in the mirror and make suggestions to the person he sees there. Husbands and wives ought to be a source of strength and inspiration to each other, not someone they can abuse and take out their frustrations upon. So good luck.

Answer 7

The only way this would make sense is that since he is checking out those women on line, he obviously finds them attractive.

If he is the jealous type and you are fitting the ideal of what he finds attractive on line, then he would want you to lose weight so that others don't find you as attractive as he finds the women on line.

Same idea of when women who do lose weight and their husbands start to get nervous with how good their looking, thinking that other men will really start checking her out and she might end up leaving him.

Answer 8

hmmm this is strange. Im wondering tho, was he looking at these really heavy woman with arrouse, or maybe was he looking at them with disgust, ma ybe he has a complex with really big woman and doenst want u getting to be there size, either way, thats his own dumb complex, its your body, u do what u want to do for Y OURSELF, believe me hunny, been there before, and having someone tell u ur fat, u need to loose weight only makes u feel worse, made me only wanna just go eat more,lol. But if u have a good relationship, ask him, communication is key, and in a healthy relationship u should be able to communicate those things without a big blowup

Answer 9

Wow...that's not nice at all. I would ask him straight up...Why is it you ask me to lose weight yet you continue to look at very heavy women on the internet.?? See what he has to say.
You should only lose weight if YOU feel you need to ...not what your husband says to do*
Alot of ppl are overweight...and want to lose weight...but having a husband tell you all the time then looks at large women on the net...would be quite disturbing*
I would definately ask him what's up with that?? If he's overweight..I would make comments to him also..or go on the net yourself and look at Hot Men* see how he likes it* lol..what's good for the goose...is good for the gander*
GOODLUCK*

Answer 10

how do your clothes fit? are you getting on the scale now and then and checking out your weight against the BMI?

you should lose weight for yourself and not someone else..forget about him checking out the internet...its a guy thing..this sounds like a fishy fishy situation..something don't seem right.but god be with ye