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Omg, she is such a %$#*& , my step son had a parent teacher conference at school yesterday that my husband set up , he of course, let his x wife know about the meeting etc.. She was absolutely livid when she found out that i was comming to the meeting.. my husband shares custody with her, and we have the kids every other week. And because my husband doesnt get off work till late im the one that usually helps the kids with their homework, so both him and i felt i needed to be there, to hear whats going on. We've been married 2 years living together a total of 4 years. We go to the meeting, and my husband starts to sit down so i go to take a seat next to him (its in the classroom atleast 30 chairs) as im about to sit down, she trys to grab the chair right from underneath me, saying she needed to sit in that "chair" cause she is the parent.. well because i wasnt fully seated yet more in a croutch position i quickly went to stand and accidently headbutted her in the face lol..

2007-03-06 00:42:47 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

I didn’t mean to, but she literally was trying to pull the chair from underneath me, if I hadn’t had one hand on the rim of the seat she would of pulled it out from under me and I would of hit the floor.. I have never done anything to this woman, she left my husband years ago..the only thing ive ever done was tell her she couldn’t just “walk” into “MY” house with out being invited in.. So I turned pulled the chair that was directly behind me, quickly slid it between her and my husband and sat down right in the middle.. needless to say she was fuming.

2007-03-06 00:43:19 · update #1

But after her acting like a complete idiot in front of the teacher there was no way I was going to let her push me around and I felt he is my husband and I will be the one to sit next to him.. I didn’t say anything during the meeting, I was just there to listen, im not trying to step on anyones toes.. I let my husband and her do the talking, and I just listened to what the teachers had to say so I’d know how to help my step son while he’s over at our house.. Ive seen people act like idiots, but a grown woman trying to take a chair right out from underneath someone.. that’s crazy.. My first reaction was to beat the crap out of her.. but I didn’t, I acted as if it didn’t phase me.. do others deal with this kind of craziness?

2007-03-06 00:43:40 · update #2

For those of u that think i should stay out.. Im not a fixture in my home.. and we run our home as a united front.. she has zero problems asking me to be a step parent when it suits her needs, ie Need a babysitter.. knowing my husband is out of town..so it is her asking "me" to be responsible for the kids, u cant ask a step parent to only be involved with the kids, when its convient for them, its either all or nothing..and when all of our kids are under one room, WE are a family and "she is the outsider" we treat her with respect, we never bad mouth her to the kids, yet she bad mouths us every chance she gets..she teaches them to lie, they regularly miss a total of 23 days a year of school mostly cause she doesnt feel like taking them to school, they are tardy for school constantly when they are with her..she wakes them up at 1 a.m. to take them to her bf's house, she spends her money on "fun" things and her elec. gets turned off on a regular bases.. this is not a responsible parent.

2007-03-06 01:31:57 · update #3

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Oh the stories I could tell! Sending you patience, you will need it. You handled the situation beautifully, especially the accidental head butt, just kidding on that part, but sometimes karma is immediate! On the one hand, it is good that she wanted to participate in her own childs education. Since you are his wife, and you are that involved in their education, than it is crucial that you are there to at least listen to the teacher. Just keep your focus on the importance of the childs education. Possibly have your husband mention (not around the children) what adult behavior is expected, but expect her to say that it was not intentional and just bad timing. I completely relate to your frustrations...just keep being the bigger and better person. It is the better example for the children, and it is also better for your relationship with your husband. Geez...sometimes in their past what were our men thinking! hehe

2007-03-06 01:21:27 · answer #1 · answered by MrsJ S 2 · 2 0

i understand feeling that you are entitled to all rights as your husband is the father of these children but i ask you was it worth the teacher seeing the adults in this child's life act out this way?i am divorced and we are both re married but the way we handle the needs of the children is a little different then most i guess we are the parents period when there are any problems or issues with the kids their father and i work it out if for some reason our mates want to be there its OK but final word always ends with mom and dad. when my mate and i first met and started dating i made the point very clear that i did not need or want someone to help raise my kids i wanted someone to love me and the rest has been a easy ride

2007-03-06 00:57:43 · answer #2 · answered by patbgone 3 · 1 1

yes. they can be so childish. you are married, it doesnt matter how long u have been together but he is your husband and you r now 1. his kid sr your business escpecialy when they spend so much time together. she should be happy that u dont ignore them and treat them like outsiders. it really doesnt matter what u do. they will always have a problem with u. just conyinue to be teh adult. the children read these actions and body language too. ovbiosly u love your husband and i believe u r acting in the proper way. i would have beat her *** too, but maybe after class lol

2007-03-06 00:52:02 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs.Vick 4 · 0 0

As a mom and a stepmother_ I can say you did the right thing by both being there and not saying anything. She obviously feels threatened by you-and hopefully that will go away. You did your job by being there so you could help your stepson. That is what any good parent would have done-Giving in and smacking her would have just brought you down to her level.

2007-03-06 00:53:16 · answer #4 · answered by baseballlover 3 · 1 1

honestly, you are the STEP mother, and since she is active in his life, YOU should of stayed out of it. your husband could of came home and filled you in.........especially since you and she do not get along.

I have to deal with these situations quite regularly, and it is very stressful to have to deal with these triangles. Especially when there is alot of bitterness on ALL sides. Divorced parents squabble enough. Adding one more is just asking for trouble that no one needs.

Do the right thing the next time. STAY HOME! YOU will be a better person for it, and in the long run (if you are around), your step-child will thank you for not bringing added stress when there is no need for it.

***if there is something that is concerning you SCHOOLWISE, you can call and ask to speak with the teacher on your own.***

2007-03-06 00:59:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 2

It sounds like this woman is crazy and jealous over your relationship with your husband and his son. You sound like you are doing the right thing. I wouldn't worry about her. Just keep being you and doing your thing. I am sure your husband loves you for it. When the stepson gets older, he will see what you are going through also. Good luck.

2007-03-06 00:49:10 · answer #6 · answered by Amanda 4 · 1 0

While your husband is her ex her children are still her children and she resents your presence in their lives. This will probably never change. You may need to speak with your husband to have him speak with her regarding her behaviour in public, but she is probably never going to stop hating you. Just keep acting civil and you will be the better person.

2007-03-06 01:02:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

that is very childish for her to be acting that way. it would be something entirely different if you were trying to turn your stepson against the mother and interfering. as long as your husband agrees that you should be there you were right to go to the meeting. especially since you help to care for the child as well.

2007-03-06 00:54:43 · answer #8 · answered by Maddie and Jacobs mom 5 · 0 1

face it human beings obama will win everyother state thats left theres no probability for hillary rodham clinton.. and in the convention he will very own john w mccain for sturdy and obama is going to be the subsequent president of the U. S.

2016-09-30 06:45:01 · answer #9 · answered by barile 4 · 0 0

LOL I WOULD HAVE GONE WITH YOUR FIRST REACTION LOL FOR REAL.. BUT I THINK YOU HANDLE IT GOOD. AND YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY RIGHT.. SHE CANT COME TO YOUR HOME UNLESS SHE CALLS FIRST.. PEOPLE LIKE THAT THEY ARE JUST BITTER BECAUSE AFTER THEY LEAVE OR GET DUMPED BY THE MEN, THEY CANT STAND FOR THEM TO BE HAPPY WITH SOMEONE ELSE.. JUST PLAIN SELFISH. GOOD LUCK.

2007-03-06 01:05:47 · answer #10 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0 0

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