I'am 21, i live in a rented accomidation with my 5yr boyfriend (He's not 5!) I don't feel ready to have a baby! I'm on the pill Cilest and have still gotton pregnant some how!?? I dont know whether to keep it or not! I'm not ready and am really scared! Please help!
2007-03-06 00:07:21 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
First, it's ok to be scared. Second, please keep the baby, a choice you will never regret. If you do not want to be responsible to raise the child you have options with adoption. Check out the web. You can choose the family and have an open or closed plan. My husband and I have been trying for 7 years and would love to have a child. I also know if I found myself preg. I to, would be scared at first. I wish you and your baby the best. I wish I could give you a hug and be there for you. I hope you have family and friends to give you 100% support. Take care!
2007-03-06 00:59:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
People on here have been REALLY harsh. I know that's not exactly what you need right now.
First, contact planned parenthood or some other organization that can help you with your options without degrading you like people tend to do on this forum. You need someone who can be understanding and discuss multiple options with you.
Second, talk to your boyfriend about the situation. Know that you're not in the situation alone. He is the father of the child and needs to have some say in it.
Third, just breathe. It is a terrifying thing. Especially if you were on birth control and NOT planning on becoming pregnant. I myself am 22 and wasn't planning on getting pregnant. My husband and I are poor, he's a graduate student, we share a car and live in a 650 sq foot apt...just because you're 21 and live in a rented place doesn't mean that you CAN'T do this...because you can!
I was NOT ready for a baby....and there are parts of me that still think I can't handle the responsibilities of parenthood...but now I'm 28 weeks and realizing that I CAN do this...and you can too :)
But talk to planned parenthood and know your options. There is ALWAYS the possibility of giving your child up for adoption. There are more than enough loving and caring families out there that want a child.
Good luck!
2007-03-06 01:50:03 · answer #2 · answered by LittleRoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think seriously about this!
I got pregnant twice while on the pill (once, I was taking antibiotics at the same time, this can cancel the effect of the pill!) also, even taken properly, there is still a risk of pregnancy!
I also live in rented accomodation, that isn't a reason not to keep this baby!! I was 17 when I had my first, and yes, it's hard, but it's also the most wonderful experience in the world!! I now have a happy, healthy 5 year old boy and a baby girl on the way and I've never been happier!
If you realise you really aren't ready, remember you have options of abortion and adoption. I'm pro-choice, and not one to judge, but please think long and hard, and don't make a decision you'll regret in the future! You and your b/f have been together for a long time, are you sure you couldn't make family life work for you??
Good luck!
2007-03-06 00:18:43 · answer #3 · answered by Krissyinthesun 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
#1 if you are pregnant stop taking the pill, bad for you and the baby. #2 go to the doctors and get a blood test done to see if you are pregnant. #3 talk to someone you are close to an look at all you opt. you have a lot these days. I was 34 and really was not ready to be a mom. But I thank god everyday I had her. Take a deep breath and it will all work out for the best. Sometime was the idea for the first time (preg) is very a lot to deal. I hope this helped. Take Care
2007-03-06 00:17:03 · answer #4 · answered by tamara p 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you were on birth control and still got pregnant, consider this as a gift of God, even though you may not be "ready" for the child. If you really feel like you cannot raise him/her at this time consider adoption. There are many couples out there that SO desire to have children but cannot. I am adopted and have 2 adopted children, and I cannot tell you how much we all love and appreciate our birth moms, because they chose to give us life. That child that you are carrying is living- his/her heart began to beat 3 weeks ago, if you are 6 weeks pregnant. The only sure birth control is abstaining from sex. I know that you are scared- that is normal. I counsel women that are pregnant. But let me share something with you about abortion- it does not only take the life of the baby, it can cause many physical, emotional and spiritual risks to you. Torn uterus, infections, excessive bleeding that may lead to needing blood transfusions, etc. Also may not be able to get pregnant when you want to, and abortions can also cause future miscarriages, and puts you at a higher risk for breast cancer. If you want to talk more, please email me,
2007-03-06 03:25:45 · answer #5 · answered by AdoreHim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, it's ok to be scared. That's a natural reaction to an unplanned pregnancy. Second, stop taking the BC. It can harm the developing baby. You can do this. I was taking Ortho Tricyclen when I got pregnant with my last child. I wouldn't change things for the world!!! This is just my opinion but a child is a gift from God. Even if it wasn't "planned". I think all things happen for a reason. I think that you should sit down with your b/f and talk about it. Plan things out as best as possible. You can get through this. I wish you the very best!
2007-03-06 00:31:32 · answer #6 · answered by Crystal 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You CANT abort this late in a pregnancy, you know some babies are born and live this far along in pregnancys. If you dont feel ready, give the baby up for adoption. And ps stop taking the pill it is not safe when pregnant.
2007-03-06 02:54:32 · answer #7 · answered by jade 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop taking your birth control NOW! You could really be doing serious damage to your baby. The first couple of week are the most vital to the babys central nervous system. Make sure you are eating a balanced diet and taking a vitamin each day. Birth Control Pills are not 100% effective. I think you need to talk this over with your boyfriend, doctor, and maybe your families and make the best decision for you and your baby. Good Luck.
2007-03-06 00:19:48 · answer #8 · answered by Cadillac 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well..
the baby is ready to have u as his or her mother
and u might just be scared or nervous
ur 21 so ur not crazy young or anything
and u live on ur own with the father of the baby there is really no reason u shouldnt just have the baby
u will have 9 months to get ready
u will do just fine :)
u never know this baby could be the best thing ever for u and ur boyfriend!!!!
Congrads on the baby
2007-03-06 02:59:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 21, and I think I would be ready for parenthood, but everyone is different.
There is no real way to tell, but I believe your baby is human life, so I would recommend against abortion. Exhaust your resources; see if your family and friends can help you care for him. Usually parents are happy to have grandchildren (they might be mad at first, but they still want them) so see if they are willing to assist you.
when did babies stop becoming precious?
2007-03-07 13:57:14 · answer #10 · answered by Ting 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋