who has forgiven wife/husband for cheating?

Question

i just am wondering am i a fool for working it out we have kids and i think what happened was a wake up call for both of us. Has anyone worked it out? Any advise? I need all the help i can get

Answer 1

I forgave my hubby and I am so glad I did. Its had not to listen to all these negative comments on here, but you have to. No two people and no two situations are the same. My marriage has improved 200%. We no longer take each other or our marriage for granted. We feel like we were given a second chance at happiness and thank God for each and every one. Yeah, he screwed up...but dont we all? We are all human. Some may be worse than others but I feel that everyone deserves a second chance. We are happy and secure in our marriage, does that mean, it will never happen again? NO! Nobody knows what situations, circumstances, or hurdles lie ahead. But you have to try to have faith. The icing on our cake....our son has two parents that actually put hard work and communication into our marriage to make it better than ever. We are together and we are happy. I cannot think of a better gift to give a child. Good Luck. It takes guts and strength to take that road less traveled. But the payoff is well worth it. May God bless you and yours...

I know exactly what you are saying about a wake up call. I would not say that the cheating saved our marriage, but all the emotions, communication, and conversation about our feelings and expectations has brought us full circle. It made us both realize exactly what we had the whole time and just took it for granted. These people that say once a cheat, always a cheat, may be speaking from their experience...maybe they did not view it as a wake up call. Maybe they viewed it as a way out of something they were too lazy to put work and effort into to start with. I never thought I would stay with someone who cheated and of course my husband never thought he would cheat. But it happened and we have dealt with it. Walking away would not have changed the fact that I hurt and that he cheated, but it would also add the disappointment of a failed relationship. I beleive if you love each other enough to say your vows, then you owe it to yourselves to try to work things out. Yeah, he broke a vow...but would breaking two (for better or worse) make it any better. I believe that if she is really remorseful and sees the mistake she made, she deserves to get a second chance. People give murderers, theives etc etc, second chances all the time. Why they can tell you not to give the person you love and have children with a second chance is beyond me. I truley hope everything works out for you. Email me if you would like to, everyone needs support and my hubby and I are here for anyone that is willing to work to give their marriage a chance.

Answer 2

Do you love your wife? If the answer is yes, the absolutely NO you are no fool. We are all human and capable of making stupid mistakes. Everyone deserves a second chance. If she is remorseful and has shown remorse, then she has probably learned a valuable lesson about what she has right in front of her. My husband cheated, it was hard, but I found it within myself to forgive him. Our marriage has never been better. Good luck to your family and please do not listen to all the negative comments you will probably get from some people. I never thought I would stay with someone that betrayed me in that way, but unless you are faced with that particular situation...the truth is you just do not know what you will do. So do not listen to the people the say "If my husband/wife cheated I would...." they do not know what they would do. When it happens it is not so black and white. Hang in there.

Answer 3

It was an emotional affair, my husband forgave me - it was 5 years ago - our marriage is better than ever. I think the key for us was that we both took responsibility for it happening - I (obviously) was wrong - but he acknowledged that if he weren't treating me so bad it wouldn't have happened - we have both really changed!!
I don't think you are a fool for working it out - I admire you for taking your vows so seriously. Sometimes we all need a wake up call!!
I can tell you this - I have learned my lesson - it will never even think of happening again!!

Answer 4

Well I cheated on my hubby twice. One was a one nighter and the other an affair lasting 7 months. My husband has forgiven me and we are working things out. "Once a cheater always a cheater" that line is a bunch of bull!

Answer 5

First off, i hate the remark once a cheater always a cheater. That's an incorrect statement. If your spouse has "woken up" like you, and you are both committed to saving and improving your marriage, then it won't happen again. Second, i WISH my husband forgave me because 3 years later, we wouldn't be so sad that our marriage has ended. Stick with it and don't dwell on the past.

Answer 6

It's hard, but if you are both willing to work it out things can get better. Talking with a marriage counselor could really help. You both have to be willing to forgive each other, move on, and start rebuilding trust in your relationship. Relationships need constant care and tending. Good luck.

Answer 7

first of all i need to know the facts were you giving him sex all the time?, by his definition not yours. if you were then hes not gonna change. if you weren't giving him everything he wants get kinky if you have too even act like a porn star and yes you can compete. men want a s lut in the bedroom and a lady outside the bedroom. sometimes for a man its difficult to keep asking for the same thing over and over eventually another opportunity arises (no pun intended) and its off to the races. its not foolish to try to stay with someone you love if its workable. and you need to understand men to know if its workable. we want 3 things 1. sex 2. food 3. sleep. you feed him everyday he sleeps everyday so the question is sex? the analogy i would use is every week i go to the same gas station to pump my gas if i show up and its closed i have to go down the road to the open gas station and pump my gas. some cars can go a week some a day without pumping. get to know your ride and keep it well tuned and i think you ll be happy. if this doesn't work then its time to trade the car in for a new one! good luck

Answer 8

I have forgiven my husband, it took a long time for me to trust him again, But he prooved each day how very sorry he was.
It really depends on what type of relationship you had before the affair. Like my husband who got caught up with his friends and lost himself. I have been married for 38 years, not a day goes by that I don't reflect on the past, I just don't dwell. My life with my husband is one of lots of love, trust, misgivings and most of all forgiveness, but you should never forget how you got there.
Good luck to you.

Answer 9

I haven't forgiven my husband yet cause mine was only 2 months ago and after so many years he betrayed me and my kids. Maybe one day I can but without my trust and respect for him , nothing that he can say or do will bring back what he did to us..

Answer 10

situations would not make it comprehensible for someone to cheat, there is not any sturdy reason to cheat on someone, i do not care what replaced into happening they haven't any reason to easily CHEAT ON YOU! And it do not remember in the experience that they are werk or solid they nevertheless did no longer might want to cheat. being weak is yet another reason they use or you could opt for to apply merely because you won't be able to understand why they cheated so that you imagine properly he/she replaced into weak on the time! no excuse,sorry.