I'm Celebant for two months now and love it.
2007-03-05 23:25:13 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
WHAT! You just doing the wrong person!
2007-03-05 23:36:21 · answer #1 · answered by mosrider2002 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why do you get married? , so you can be with that one person for the rest of your life , so you can have the security with that person for the rest of your life , so you can give and have it returned and shared for the rest of your life , remember if you cannot share , or there is an area that either is lacking especially on this kind of scale, then there can only be the same sort of thing which will be returned for you , and something simple as in sex can have the other partner lose interest in you alltogether , and then move on , because sex is the way that both in a relationship share each others soul to the deepest level , and if you dont feel or dont wish to get this close anymore there has got to be a reason for it , if the reason is created by your partner , then he may deserve it , but if he has done nothing to have this happen , then this is an avalance to your relationship , you must re-esatblish the root of the problem , in order to understand why this has happened
2007-03-06 08:08:02 · answer #2 · answered by DSV 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
But how does your spouse feel about it? If they feel the same way, than I guess you have a happy marriage. If you don't know, than you should ask. Sex, in marriage, is a way for 2 people that love each other to feel closer to their spouse that with any other, not just physical gratification, which can be the reason at times. Part of being married is putting the other persons needs in the fore-front regardless of what your particular ones are at the time. Sacrifice, compromise, and communication! Not only that, but just how much physical work can it be and for how long? If we are talking a 3 hour session anytime sex is involved, than speaking with your spouse about lessening the length of the sessions sometimes is in order.
Think of something your spouse does for you that you really really enjoy, that makes you know how much he/she loves you. Now think of your spouse just telling you that it just is a real bummer for them to do it, takes too much time and effort, and gee...they just don't think its worth doing anymore. How would that make you feel?
2007-03-06 07:42:19 · answer #3 · answered by MrsJ S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
[1] The term is "celibate" and you are practicing "celibacy". I would more likely put you in the "frigid" category however, since you seem to dislike sex and are not abstaining for spiritual or moral reasons.
[2] If you truly do not like sex, well, that's rare but it happens. Have you told your physician about your dislike of sex?
[3] Finally, why on earth would you marry someone and mis-represent your sex drive and then start torturing this guy by withholding sex from him? End the marriage and go be celibate in the Arizona desert without mentally abusing someone else. Honest to god it's women like you who really give sex after marriage and marriage in general a bad name. I pity the poor bastard who believed all your lying and has to endure your hideous personality now.
2007-03-06 09:04:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think there are a few possibilities here.......,
1. You should speak to a therapist
2. Your spouse may benefit from a few good technique books
3. You may need to speak your doctor
Or
4. If you really hate marriage so much you should release this poor man and allow him to find someone who is able to fill him more intimate needs.
Unless you just a leech living off his money, do something to improve your situation.
2007-03-06 07:47:02 · answer #5 · answered by tnlongyrs 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you seek advice from your doctor, a therapist or at the very least apologise to your spouse because you're a complete asshole if he didn't realise that he was marrying some sexually dysfunctional asexual being when he married you.
2007-03-06 07:33:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe see a doctor... you might feel this way about sex because of a hormonal imbalance... and if not you need to tell your partner so your partner can decide if they want the marriage to continue... after all it is not just you in the relationship...and he needs a say if he wants to live a celebrant live with you or not
2007-03-06 07:32:05 · answer #7 · answered by debcat76135 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being married is too much emotional work, not physical work. Women like you make marriage suck.
2007-03-06 07:42:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not normal especially if you're still young. You didn't mention your age.Why not both of you see a marriage counselor or a psychologist?
2007-03-06 07:41:53 · answer #9 · answered by s_leopando 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better get out of the relationship than torturing the partner.
2007-03-06 07:54:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋