When a man lives with a (enlightened, misled, part-time) feminist, does he get to gripe about women as much as she does about men? If he's a good man (but still a man), how can he not occasionally be the victim of fallout from the average feminists' anger towards men in general? If he's good looking, he could have been a player and not judged a slut. If he's confident, he gets to be assertive and not risk being called uppity. If he's got a great career, he never have it threatened by maternity leave. How do these conversations usually go in the home between thoughtful men and women about the battle of the sexes?
2007-03-05 23:17:57 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
I am an enlightened, full-time feminist. I have a wonderful relationship with my partner. I am not angry towards men. We do not have a "battle of the sexes." Guess what?? He's a feminist, too.
2007-03-06 05:07:32 · answer #1 · answered by stormsinger1 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First of all there is no such thing as a part time feminist . Ever heard of a part time racist? And feminists are not necessarily women. I consider myself a feminist. And I would consider it a pleasure to be with someone that knew their own mind, knew what they wanted and where they were going. And as far as conversations between men and women concerning the "battle of the sexes" when intelligent, gender educated people converse, there is no "battle", only a fullfilling and thoughtful exhange of words and ideas. And what was your intent with the term "missled feminist"? Finally, yes, I do sometimes feel obligated to appologize for some men's words or actions.
2007-03-06 00:14:40 · answer #2 · answered by sarge 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
There should be a balance in the 'griping'.
Women tend to absorb more 'grips' as 'grips' toward themselves. You could be poking fun of someone on TV, and she might hear it as your way of indirectly telling her that somethings wrong with her.
Men can also suffer from this absorption - however, they seem to be thicker skinned than women. Dunno why. However, if you felt that her 'griping' was in fact hurting your desire towards her ----> you got problems. It's so nice that u'll listen to her and this should help you relationship. On the flip side, you have to maintain a strong worth of self & strong worth for your relationship. If her griping is damaging this, speak up before it's too late.
2007-03-06 03:43:27 · answer #3 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Port Whine - your whole post is riddled with contradictions.
1)Enlightened feminists' who are "part-time" and "misled"?? Oxymoron
2) "He's a good man,(but still a man)" Huh?
I'm having trouble understanding what your point or concern is. Is this because you're not quite sure of it yourself?
2007-03-06 10:11:28 · answer #4 · answered by Rain 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Is that from a personal experience?
Because any woman who loves her man and is rational and reasonable wouldn't subject him to such rubbish. Whether or not she's a feminist.
2007-03-06 00:01:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Believe me you can be a feminist and still be rational.....people have distorted notions of a feminist to mean man-hater.......it is not so, otherwise she wouldn't agree to live with a man.......it is only when men unnecessarily victimise the females of the species that get their goat....other men are safe......
that is my opinion of a true feminist.
2007-03-06 00:08:59 · answer #6 · answered by P'quaint! 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I lived with a professional feminist (Sociology professor) for four years. Never had that kind of treatment. She was bitchy to fight with but that's normal. Otherwise she was very sweet.
2007-03-06 03:45:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
There's no such thing as a part-time feminist and she wouldn't hook up with a guy with so many issues.
2007-03-05 23:29:25 · answer #8 · answered by Debra D 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Well, there's really no "battle" going on between my husband and me, when we talk about gender relations, we talk about it like we would anything else; politics, current events...and he doesn't "apologize" for the bad behavior of other men...why should he? And I would never expect him to.
2007-03-06 01:12:56 · answer #9 · answered by wendy g 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
No such thing as a 'part-time' feminist. What you have, is a selective feminist -- wants equality only for the good things such as equal pay -- but doesn't want the responsibilities such as equal military draft.
2007-03-06 00:07:09 · answer #10 · answered by Brian J. 2 · 1⤊ 4⤋