my husband spends all day"working" online with a female, he wishes her goodnight, goes in another room to fone

Question

her, argues with me over her, and im really sad, shes got him wrapped around her effin finger, and she constanatly changes her foto for him im sure, am i being too over or is he wrong, and what can i do, i love him but dnt kno what to do, he also looks at other girls when im with him, when i ask him why hes doing that he says im looking at their characteristics!!!! (so lame) i hate tht b17ch sooooo mch, please help me : '(

the 5lag has a boyfriend too!

or shud i take the tit for tat option

Answer 1

I understand your frustration and anger! This is so aggravating, isn't it!!! I think its time for you to take a good look at the relationship. Talk to him and tell him that you are feeling hurt by these things. If he has no interest in working things out with you or doesnt care to be more open with you, you might want to consider leaving this ***.!! I also feel that it is totally disrespectful for him to look at other women while he is with you - that is so uncool!

Well, I hope things do work out for you - and I also know that you deserve better so you take care and really put some thought into this one - you need to make a change and that change can only be YOU. (To leave or to stay and accept). Anyway, take care and I will pray for you!
Bye!

Answer 2

You can hate her all you want - but the responsibility lies with your husband. She is a problem b/c he is allowing her to be one. If he was completely in love with you and had no interest in other women - then nothing she said or did could change that. Men are stupid, weak creatures and unless they are getting their egos pumped constantly by their wife, they will find someone else to do it for them. Your husband is WAY wrong - if you have a problem with his relationship with this other woman and he does nothing to stop it - then he is to blame. You can't control how you feel. I think he is having an affair over the internet. If you truly do want to save your marriage - then you need to approach it from a different angle. Here's what I suggest. Don't acknowledge the other woman at all - Don't ask about her, talk about her, anything. Act like it doesn't exist. Start paying gobs of attention to your man. Go on dates, fix great dinners, long walks - whatever you can do to get him away from the computer. Be the person that he fell in love with in the very beginning. In the beginning, he will be hesitant - but keep it up. Start doing things for yourself - put on makeup, go shopping, friends etc.... Act like you have a world of your own. TRUST ME - if he sees that you are a strong independent woman, who loves herself and loves him - you will start to look really good to him. You can't fight you way to making him give up this other woman. You will come off as pushy and domineering and she will play this "woe is me" crap that will make him feel sorry for her. Don't sit in the other room and fume about him being on the computer. Grab your purse and leave to do something else. Join a gym, take a class - he will wise up sooner or later. Good luck

Answer 3

That is so disrespectful don't put up with that.. in cases like this men like him are just being asss holes, If you are not happy get rid of him, leave him and tell him why, besides how do you know this two are not meeting somewhere, talking on the phone too!! Yes you better find out because I believe they might be having more than conversations. On top of that he looks at other women too on the computer? Girl claim your pride, tell him to kiss your asss and just leave, I know you don't need anyone to tell you this but I'm telling you anyways, You can do way better than that. Leave him is my advice, and when you leave telling is for a guy you met on line.. a cup of his own tea... good luck.

Answer 4

1. Don't be mad at her, it's your husband who chose to be inappropriate.

2. Don't go the "tit for tat" route because it's silly and will only make your situation worse.

3. Are you mad because he's being more attentive to her or because he's being unfaithful?

4. Sit down and calmly explain to him how this makes you feel. Ask him if this would be acceptable if the situation were reversed. Ask him to go to counseling with you. If he won't, go by yourself.

Aside from the problem of your husband chatting on line with someone else, your biggest complaint is against her. She is not the problem.

Answer 5

First of all, he sounds as if he has no regard for your feelings if he is going to argue with you about her. Not to mention respect. You have to have communication and respect for the one you love. He works with her OK, but he does not need to be on the phone with her after business hours, that is just wrong, it sounds as if they may be into something other than work relationship. I would confront this other woman and let her know how you feel about her on the phone with your husband, and of course don't sound like a jealous freak, and tell your husband how you feel about this, and if he gets mad because you confronted the other woman than i would reevaluate your relationship with your husband, he has no business on the phone with her like that and especially not in another room away from you, sounds very fishy. And i agree with allot of other people, find a male friend and start communicating like he is and see how he likes it. Good luck

Answer 6

Obviously you are jealous.
The only way to combat this,is to drastically change what you are doing.
1.Stop "acting" jealous.
2.Get busy doing things with other people.
3.Give him an ultimatum.Tell himm it makes you uncomfortable that he goes in another room to talk to her,and then if he keeps doing it,get a "friend" of your own(male) to talk to on the phone late at ight and see how he feels.
Two can play this game..Don't let the jealousy get the best o you.

Answer 7

**** that, he sounds like a complete and utter bastard, why is you husband bringing another woman into this relationship, why is is he letting this slag come between your marriage, why does he needto go into another room to speak to her, what has he got to hide. ALARM BELLS. i bet he doesnt even wish you good night! i would give him an ultimatum or just leave, you can do better than him. HE IS SO WRONG!

oh yea and dont let ppl tell you that he is lacking something he should be getting from his wife, or that you should change, thats b*llsh*t. i think youve been pretty leniant so far. its so not your fault. you should talk to him and serously consider your future with or without him.
good luck

Answer 8

tell him: Why do you keep on doing that stuff? if you want to be with someone else, then why did you choose me? this isn't a healthy relationship and you know it.. I'm your wife.. You chose me out of very other person in the world to be your life partner and what do you do? I'm okay with you being nice to her, but you're getting out of control.. who do you consider your love life, me, or her? if you dont stop this, its over between us..

or maybe you could cut some parts out coz its gonna be pretty hard to memorize what I wrote.. :)

Answer 9

No decent married man would allow another woman to come between him and his wife. Dishonest married men do. Do not argue with him about this. Tell him this needs to stop or he can kiss his marriage goodbye.

Answer 10

Uhm, it's just online. Maybe if you were nicer to your husband and other people (really calling her names because your husband chooses to talk to her??) your husband would like you better. Jeez, most women don't want to meet creeps on the internet. Focus on your relationship with your husband not his desire to escape into the virtual world.