I have a girlfriend whom i totally adore, but i also have a couple of female friend (platonic) at uni, i often find myself fantasising about them? Is this normal? Does it make me more likely to cheat on my girl given the opportunity?
2007-03-05 22:52:19 · 11 answers · asked by londonboy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It makes you completely normal and right on schedule. Men fantasize about most of the women around them, some good and even some bad. Your hormones are talking to you and your mind is making pictures to match them. It doesn't mean you are a cheat, not at all. And I suggest you keep these things a secret. Your girlfriend would not understand because she is new to the game also. Be well.
2007-03-05 22:58:42 · answer #1 · answered by Pamela 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So far a fantasy is just that a fantasy, they are called this because it is something that is never likely to happen nor expected to happen. Usually people fantasize about celebs or the one they love...lol...the latter is more likely to happen and it is probably because your really turned on and can get release right away . The first would only happen if you were only fantasizing or in bed at night or day dreaming.
Seriously though I would be very upset with my boyfriend if I knew he was fantasizing about any of my friends. You know the saying about look but dont touch ....well this would be fantasize about a stranger but not anyone I know.
My bf is crazy about me cuz if I am not in bed and he is dreaming while I am sitting in the chair reading .....lol..this is not very nice of me but I love him also ...so I am allowed to do this.
When he dreams he also talks in his sleep and I can get him to have a conversation with me while he is dreaming about sex.
So far the only name he has said while he is sleeping is mine, and even though he doesn't get any that night except in his dream he can never remember anything when he wakes up.
He himself would go nuts if I told him I fantasize about his buddies, but I heard how men think about sex every 5 minutes in a day .......soooooo If your getting rid of some frustration .....hmmmm let me think .....NO SORRY ..still won't work, It might mean that you will cheat or it might mean that you realize you dont love who your with so get out before you do cheat
2007-03-06 07:42:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are human aren't you?
There is nothing wrong with fantasizing, just as long as you do not act on it.
Also do not yell out her girlfriends names during love making. She will become very suspicious. It can end bad.
I think it is normal.
Sometimes I even do it. In my dreams I sometimes dream about other men. But you know what eventually happens, the other guy fades away and my husband becomes this guy.
See what I mean.
It is called acting out or role play.
Introduce this to your girlfriend and maybe the fantasies will stop.
Be her Tarzan and she can be your Jane.
Eventually she will consume your dreams and you will not be able to keep your hands, eyes, body and MIND off of her.
It works for me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-06 08:21:15 · answer #3 · answered by ANJANETTE C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell, yes! It's quite normal. Just keep it at that, and you'll survive. Make a wrong move, and you may fall on your face. Or you may be lucky and have a whale of a time.
2007-03-06 06:58:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT NORMAL. As long as you recognize it for what it is--a fantasy--no I do not believe it make you more likely to cheat
2007-03-06 06:59:57 · answer #5 · answered by firefly06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fantasizing is normal; *ALL* men do it, whether they cop to it or not. That doesn't make you any more likely to cheat.
2007-03-06 07:00:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody fantasizes, its either you act on them or not. Heck she probably fantasizes about being with other guys.
2007-03-06 06:58:08 · answer #7 · answered by glazer_098 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its normal to wounder and Dream of another.
2007-03-06 06:57:16 · answer #8 · answered by Jeffery F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we live in an imperfect world so nobody is perfect! but don't let your fantasies get out of control!
2007-03-06 06:57:43 · answer #9 · answered by jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm, don't tell your girlfriend, for sure
2007-03-06 06:57:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋