I have a great relationship with my wife but we just cant seem to agree on the name of our future baby. I want something sounding a bit Middle Eastern just in case like Ridjeeb, but she wants a more traditional name like Oscar, or Slim.
We've now been fighting since the day the baby was conceived, and the both of us have reached breaking point.
What really annoys me is my wife is deaf so she wont be able to hear the name anyway. Am I being insensitive to her needs?
2007-03-05 22:19:49 · 50 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Go puncture your eardrums and re-discuss this with your wife. You're an idiot.
2007-03-05 22:58:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are crazy to even consider divorce over such a small thing. God says in the bible that divorce is only allowed between a husband and wife when there is adultry, but this goes into greater detail, alcoholism, abuse, etc. Read up on it.
You made this committment, "for better or for worse."
If you both cannot agree on the two names chosen you need to work on other names. Talk to each other. There is plenty time before the baby is to be born.
And because your wife is death does not mean she doesnt have a say in the child's name. You are husband and wife, love each other. Put the other before yourself.
Choose a name together since you cannot agree on the ones given.
Deaf or not your wife is still a human being, she only lacks her hearing. She will always remember your childs name, just in a different way. Signing, if she uses that way of communication.
Sit down and think this through. Love you wife and your unborn child. Don't fret over a name.
2007-03-13 15:29:58 · answer #2 · answered by Momma Bear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's so cruel of you to say not to be mean or anything. But I would comprosmise let her have the first or middle name and you choose the other. This is no reason for a divorce. If you plan on having another child you can always do soemthing with that name. But dont be so cruel towards your wife especially because she is deaf. Just because she cant hear the name doesnt mean she shouldnt have a right to it. You both created that baby you both made such a wonderful miracle happen why would you want to ruin your marriage over a miracle? Please find someway to compromise with her if you love her think about she is carrying that baby inside her for 9 months. She should have just as much right to that name as you.
2007-03-11 20:49:47 · answer #3 · answered by Princess K! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to chose a baby name and it is really hard if you want something and your wife wants another name. I've got a hyphined name my dad had one name picked and my mum had another one picked so the put it together (eg Oscar-Ridjeeb) play with a few names combined.
Also even though she is deaf she will still have to call her child and her heart will know and say the name so i think that you are being a bit insensitive to her needs sorry - think about what if you were deaf?
Maybe wait untill the baby is born - my friend had a name picked out but changed it 5 times untill it got is actual name!
2007-03-05 22:27:05 · answer #4 · answered by waltzing matilda 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Jacob- 7/10 Mason- 5/10 William- 3/10 Jayden- a million/10 Noah- 6/10 Michael- 3/10 Ethan- 3/10 Alexander- 3/10 Aiden- 4/10 (i like Aidan or Aaden more suitable positive) Daniel- 7/10 Sophia- 6/10 Isabella 7/10 Emma- 4/10 Olivia- 6/10 Ava- 6/10 Emily- 7/10 Abigail- 5/10 Madison- 7/10 Mia- 6/10 Chloe- 8/10
2016-12-05 07:48:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES YOU ARE! But not only to her needs but to the baby's needs as well! Right now the two of you should be working together and worrying more about if your wife & baby is healthy instead of the baby's name. On that matter both of you are being very selfish. And because she is not wanting to name the baby what you want to name it you think that that is a reason to divorce her and have your baby growup with out a father! That sounds like complete selfishness & stupidty to me! Why don't the two of you compromise and give the baby both types of names one for the first & middle name.
2007-03-12 03:25:32 · answer #6 · answered by bigred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are very wrong in this hon. Let her have some say in the babies name. Like you pick the first name and let her pic the middle or vice versa. Divorcing over a simple name is kinda stupid and you are being way to controlling on this issue. You need to relax and love her even if you dont totally agree on this. Stop the fighting and seek counseling for the marriage and help. Yes you are being insensitive to her needs and you know it. I think this is mean!
2007-03-05 22:36:23 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you had a great relationship with your wife you would not be considering divorcing her over the name. Maybe you need to re-evaluate what is really bothering you in your marriage before you make a rash step like divorce. In the mean time try compromising with a middle name or nick name and then the child can make his/ her own choice when they are older
2007-03-13 09:26:54 · answer #8 · answered by teresacmt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are being very insensitive she is the one that has carried the baby for 9 months, she is the one that will be in labor for many hours. So what if she can't here if you are looking for a reason to get a divorce find someother reason this is just wrong, Name the boy something he will be able to live with, Sam, Mike, Ethan, so thinking of yourself and think of the kid and wife
2007-03-05 23:37:46 · answer #9 · answered by emma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Giving a divorce for your future baby is very silly and imature . It takes two hands to clap so one of you should agree , try to be patient and understand your wife. A baby brings love into the family , when you 'll have a baby then keep a name . Dont think negative . A baby is a blessing to the family so dont fight about giving a name to your baby , all the best .
2007-03-13 23:01:09 · answer #10 · answered by Hope Summer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to divorce your wife over a name there are either some deeper problems you need to consider or yea you are being insensitive.
If you are truly set on the middle eastern name how about coming to a compromise by giving him/her a middle name?
2007-03-13 18:42:28 · answer #11 · answered by iceycalm101 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋