Speaking personally I was very happy single, but most of my friends were single too so thats probably why. I am married now with one child and one on the way. I guess I am not too happy right now but that is not because of the person I married, but because as a result of becoming a full time mum, the other side of me, my career and ambitions have had to take a backseat.
There are advantages and disadvantages to both lifestyles. I could go back to a singleton lifestyle because I am that sort of girl, life goes on. However, i love my husband dearly, and couldnt manage life without him. Now that i have met him, the feelings are established and I am 100% sure i would be considerably less happy without him.
2007-03-07 07:52:47
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answered by Chimera's Song 6
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I think only about 10% of relationships (married or not) are happy & healthy relationships, and anything else you hear is pure bunk.
Out of the nearly 50% of marriages that do not end in divorce, then, that means that roughly 80% or so aren't exactly a bed of roses (are they better or worse than being married--who knows? Maybe those people would be unhappily single too: you can't expect a partner to fix a bad attitude or character flaws in yourself).
I think your assumptions are biased, however; women, from what I can tell, are not a happier lot than men. They have a lower incidence of Narcissitic and Compulsive Personality Disorders, but way higher rates of Borderline and Dependency Personality Disorder. Now, since the rates of dependency issues are higher among females, it may be there are more women who seek out controlling males than the other way around, but that says very little about the institution of marriage and a whole lot more about the two genders.
All-in-all, I'd say good mental health is kind of rare out in the REAL world. There are a whole lot of functional yet dysfunctional people, and they are the majority. So the next time you wonder why some strange new fad is taking ahold or some political weirdness is afoot, just remember, most of our fellow citizens have some sort of diagnosable dysfunction.
I'm never marrying unless I find a sane one. Took me too long to be this together myself. I do not intend to backslide into the craziness of the majority.
2007-03-06 01:07:19
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answered by Anonymous
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I dont think this is always true. I much rather prefer being married then being single myself as i am much happier and more content in my life when i am married. When I am single i was down alot more and lonely. I love my husband and am very happily married and not depressed at all and do not have a mental illness. I know of some men who are better off single instead of married as well. This all depends on the person and how they choose to live and what makes them happy in life. I know some men who are miserable in their marriages and would much rather be single again. These feelings are choices that men a women make every day. You can choose to be happy with your life or you can be miserable and unhappy with things. Happiness and contentment is a choice. We are to be content with what we have in life and not always be unhappy and unsettled just because things are not always exactly the way that we want them.
2007-03-05 22:30:15
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answered by Lady Hewitt 6
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Having done some marriage counseling I have observed that both women and men WANT to be happily married - especially women.
However, the wives (of the couples) I counseled tended to be more unhappy. Their emotional needs/wants were more complex, thus more often unmet - and therefore were more frequently unhappy.
The husbands tended to be a little easier to please in terms of their emotional needs/wants, but sometimes not understanding of his wife's needs.
Happily, I was able to help the majority of them - 10 of the 12 are still reasonably happy.
If it's accurate, wives may suffer depression more because they may have a keenER need for a close emotional connection - and become depressed when that is missing.
Close personal contact promotes mental health. So, I doubt that married people suffer more often from mental illness.
2007-03-06 00:13:38
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answered by Carl 3
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I guess it all depends on the partner. Since I managed to persuade my lying, cheating, depressive, abusive, adulterous husband to move out I have been so happy, and each day I recover a little more of the true me. But I would like to think that men and women are swans rather than baboons, and that if two people who are right for each other get together, the sum of human happiness must be increased!
2007-03-05 21:58:01
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answer #5
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answered by clio 4
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2016-04-15 05:12:09
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answer #6
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answered by Anonymous
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Men are happier single, I've been both married and single, and I know alot of other guys in the same position. A steady partner helps bring contentment, but marriage traps you.
2007-03-05 21:53:21
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answered by Anonymous
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I am married and definately choose being married over being single! When I was single I felt like I was prey to the men out there... the ones my moms would warn me about. Now I have my whole life to spend with an awesome man and I couldnt be happier. I think that article was maybe talking about hollywood people..... definately not real people.
2007-03-05 21:53:04
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answered by Anonymous
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I am happier when i am not single.... and i would be super happy if i was married :) i prefer to suffer than being single... coz end of this suffering happiness might come and end of the day i have got someone to talk to and wake up in the morning with....
2007-03-05 21:51:10
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answered by :( 4
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Hahas. And here I was thinking it went the opposite way! Anyway, women do have problems, we hate nagging at the guys and all. Housework is also a big issue, while all the men have to do is rest. these days, we girls work too, so we have to manage that on top of housework. Now you can see where the stress comes from
2007-03-05 21:52:43
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answered by Cara 2
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