recently, alot of people in my life have been having problems, but whilst trying to help them, i feel i am over-looking my own problems, i want to keep helping them though...any ideas on what i should do?...
2007-03-05 21:11:49 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i have don ethis in the past,in a way helping other people feels better because we are not allowing ourselfs to grieve for our own problems..we trymto escape..doing something for yourself also helps you and your self-esteem.
take care Janine.
2007-03-05 23:42:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If You want Friends, You have to be One. As Ben Franklin so wisely Observed, "A Friend in Need, is a Friend Indeed". As to Your Own Problems, it's entirely up to You to Strike a Balance between the Two. You can do this ! Just Write down Two Columns, (1); What are the Needs of Others that Require My Attention , (2) What are My Needs that Require My Immediate Attention ? If You allow Yourself to get so Run-Down, and Behind on everything, then You'll be of little Value to anyone, including Yourself !
2007-03-05 21:24:48 · answer #2 · answered by gvaporcarb 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem you first have to understand your own problems and try and talk to someone about them I'm all ears even though you want to help people how many of them want to help you try to back off a little and start to think of yourself first this will be very hard to start with i should know but it will work good luck x
2007-03-05 21:35:03 · answer #3 · answered by flickerboo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must set aside minimim an hour a day to reflect on your own needs. helping others is only bad if youre suffering or if it goes against what you believe. Take time out and sort out your matters first, that way youre in a better position to be level headed to help others.
2007-03-05 21:17:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep helping them, but make they understand that you also need their help, regarding your own problems.
2007-03-05 21:18:11 · answer #5 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you think youve got problems don't help other people look at your own life before advicing others.
2007-03-05 21:15:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
its just the type of person you are (helping everyone but yourself) there are no rules on this subject, just remember you too are a person just like everyone else, someone will be there to help you you just need to ask
2007-03-05 21:18:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just remember this "No good deed ever goes unpunished"......
2007-03-05 21:21:28 · answer #8 · answered by kautolo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are hurting yourself.
2007-03-05 21:26:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
help people who will help you thats all..
2007-03-05 22:41:50 · answer #10 · answered by THUG LIFE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋