2007-03-05 20:50:46 · 22 answers · asked by DarkLily 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i have left out some major details in this. i wanted to be vauge. i guess i was alittle to vauge cause alot of you have got the wrong idea on some things. but thats ok, all of your advice has been good so far and i thank everyone for answering. to explain this would take more time or space than desired. and i dont think anyone would be too interested
2007-03-05 21:34:22 · update #1
I would keep my distance from him . It happened to me actually and I kinda got the point when I read your question . We often see each otehr by the bus stop and he'd look at me but won't say anything . then one time my friend passed by and we chatted after that he spoke and said that it was the first time he heard me speak . He'd smile at me since then and I found myself maybe crushing on him i guess . So what I did was I went to a different bus stop . After a few days he did the same . So I went back to the old bus stop and after a few days again he was back there . I have been ignoring him since then . My married life is too precious to waste on something that is just temporary .
2007-03-05 20:52:25 · answer #1 · answered by asphyxia 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Been there, done that - you took a vow for better or for worse, unless your husband is truly a terrible man you need to get away from the other guy. Tell hubby what's going on, cut off all ties with other guy and get professional help!!
The biggest thing I learned from my experience is this - the feelings of love will come and go - true love is a decision and a commitment. You'll get over the other guy.
2007-03-06 09:10:57 · answer #2 · answered by Zabes 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would ask myself if I was actually in love with this other person--or if it was just a simple attraction (there is a huge difference between the two). I would also ask myself how I would feel if I lost my spouse (and family, perhaps).
If the 'someone else' is just a sexual attraction or fantasy, I would definitely get right out of it, and not ruin my marriage. If I found that I was truly 'in love' with the other person, I would need to get a separation, and file for divorce. I would not sting my spouse on.
2007-03-06 05:15:38 · answer #3 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had to deal with this and spent months agonizing over the feeling before realizing that getting married doesn't mean you stop having crushes. It does mean that you stop acting on them. You'll have to learn that indulging it in the slightest is a dreadful mistake because affairs don't start in the bedroom, they start over coffee.
2007-03-06 05:01:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
love is something you decide. now, if you decided to love someone else when you know you're married, then there's something wrong with you. you have to develop your sense of commitment. cause if you'll choose to leave your husband today and go with the one that you have just fallen in love with recently, it is not impossible that the same scenario is gonna happen again after you get tired of your partner and fall for someone else again.
2007-03-06 05:19:31 · answer #5 · answered by ... 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would shoot myself and really, sincerely hope that my husband would get over me......
If I loved someone enough to get married and then cheat on them then I would hope to die an unforgiveable death and hope that he could go on with happiness. I could never cheat on my husband, especially since I was cheated on previously, it hurts like no other pain in the world, it hurts your heart and soul. What you are doing is toying with your fantasies if you think anyone will stick with you when all you have is an affair or big boobs to gain his affection......
2007-03-06 04:57:35 · answer #6 · answered by kaliroadrager 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I followed my heart...lol...only to be heart broken...in the end...my husband forgave me and I have been with him ever since...some days I wish I never met that person..though I wouldnt swap the feelings he gave me for anything in this world...lol..it also made me see who I was and what real love was...real love is being there for that person..forgiving them...and building a better relationship...the other guy was just a crush/infatuation...
2007-03-06 04:58:37 · answer #7 · answered by dewdrops 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i dont think u are inlove with dat person i think it's infatuation and dat is just temporary,stay away from him,he's a distraction from ur marriage,but pray day God gives u the strenght coz he's the only one dat can help u not to fall in temptation.
2007-03-06 05:04:34 · answer #8 · answered by tersy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I am gonna get married only when I'll meet the man that will make me forget all the other men! There is no possibility for me to let this happen! Otherwise I won't get married!
2007-03-06 04:53:33 · answer #9 · answered by Roubini 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I know this girl who is married but she ran away with another guy. In the end she divorced her husband who is really a good man and got dump by the guy she ran away with.
This is call retribution. what goes around comes around.
2007-03-06 04:57:26 · answer #10 · answered by larisnotme 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋