My friends told me later that there are really talks & it's always the wife who is the last one to know. It's really unfair cause i'm in my past 50's already & my kids are all married with families & not living with us.
2007-03-05 20:20:20 · 11 answers · asked by s_leopando 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First thing you do is schedule a visit to your doctor to be screened for S.T.V.s. This is not homophobia, its a simple fact of life that this person has lived a lie for twenty-five years and if he'll lie to you about one thing he'll lie to you about anything else. I realize social pressure has forced many people to live lives they would not have chosen for themselves but common decency demanded he be honest with you and let you decide if you were willing to live his phony life. He deceived you instead. Please know this is nothing to do with you or how good a mother and wife you were. Second, talk to a GOOD lawyer right away and don't sign anything without letting him see it first. And please, it may seem obvious but a lawyer who claims he can represent you and you husband is a cheat and a liar. Get your own lawyer and protect yourself. You've spent a lifetime building a future with someone who doesn't exist but you are entitled to an equitable share of the assets that have been acquired during the marriage even if you were a housewife / stay-at-home mom.
2007-03-05 20:42:58 · answer #1 · answered by tnlongyrs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry
but you two should talk seriouly
1- since the kids are all out of the house you tow can actually live for yourself
2- ask him what does he wants to do
3- think about what you want to do
4- If you guys want a divorce what will you tell the kids?
5- If you don't then it will be your little secret
I know couple that are living together but lead separate lives
and are very happy, but if you choose to take that path
please talk to a counselor, and talk a lot to each other
also you must respect each other
Good luck & Hope you are able to find peace with the situation
2007-03-05 21:23:18 · answer #2 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't care how old you are... You just found out a deep dark secret of this man he is gay, and all of this time he never told you he is very selfish. So if your 50. You deserve to be happy at this time I would leave him and make a life on my own at least that would be real.Don't stay with him just because of your age. Now if you don't mind him being gay then that is something else.hope your hubby is using safe sex because there is no age for H.I.V think about that.. good luck.
2007-03-06 00:12:14 · answer #3 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will be shock of course.. But you need to understand that people are not perfect. ..You promise that you will be together for better and for worst.
If he is not doing anything is stupid, there is nothing for you to worry about. Besides, reacting too much in this case will affect your kids..
Well, I will rather say yes, divorce him IF you dont have a kids..But if you really dont have a problem, why you will make this a problem?
Beside being in 50's, couple are just being friends..
2007-03-05 20:38:12 · answer #4 · answered by just me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go..it's all you can do...it's unfair but that's life...the business next to us is owned by a gay couple..J is in his 50s...left/divorced his wife and kids to be with his present partner..he's a really nice guy...only found out he's gay just recently..
2007-03-05 20:33:14 · answer #5 · answered by dewdrops 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no sense in beating a dead horse but I'd divorce the guy immediately. However, I'd get myself tested for STDs and would want to know how long Hairy Mary has been a rump rider to get an idea how long this has been going on.
I'm sorry for you. 25 years is a long time and I'd be angry at someone who obviously lied to you all this time. If he and his punk are planning on living there, I'd probably have to move away.
2007-03-05 22:05:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would beat him with a straight stick!! Dang thats just mean!You should speak to him, confront him about it and if he says he is gay then you should leave him. Why settle with him if all youre gonna be feeling is hurt. Its never too late to be truly happy my dear.
2007-03-05 21:22:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's big time deciet. Sue him. Sue his partner. Get their retirement funds. Ask him where he intends to live. Join a health club.
2007-03-05 20:40:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
ya know they say they are born that way, they just are gay....... but I am not so sure, I think some of the guys are just SUCKED into that lifestyle.
2007-03-05 21:38:30 · answer #9 · answered by TEXASMALE 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
obviously he's not gay. he just thinks men are hot and he wouldn't mind doing them.
he's just bi. afterall, he's done you, got off by you, and has children.
2007-03-05 20:27:25 · answer #10 · answered by John Becker 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋