we have ben together for 4 years we have a great relationship we were close friends in middle school and high school with secreat crushes for eachother & now being engaged 2 mo. after dating= to 3 years of being engaged with 2 kids & step child from him & a house ready to move in, why havent we got hitch yet??? i dont want a big wedding i dont mind getting married in court but he is always saying "yeah we will go soon" he says that every year & yes we had a lot of problems NO DETAILS but it changed everything, but only good has came out from it we are stronger then ever this BIG problem happend about 6 mo. ago & he said this was the reason we didn't get married earlier now that everything is great in life im waiting in vain...i haved talked to him but i dont want to push him & he says what he always says "yeah , ...soon..." finacially we are i guess normal; bills here & there but it only cost 50 bucks to do it in court & our familys will always help w/ parties/food thanks!!!!!!!
2007-03-05 19:54:19 · 13 answers · asked by on roller coaster called LIFE 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no he wasent married, and we moved to another state and we both felt before we ever got together we never wanted to get married and like they said the sparks fly and the "i do's" cant come any sooner , yes we are very young22-23 our kids are 7, 3, 1 and we should have fun but we already call eachother husband and wife i just want it offical, he knows his best man and all that stuff but maybe i am a lil hard on the push side but before like 3 years ago is was the other way he pused me and i back away now its i am ready and he is taking his time....tick.......................tock!! thanks
2007-03-05 20:13:18 · update #1
Well has he been married before (the step child)? Maybe he wants to make it right, it is hard for some men to give up thier freedom. Just take it as...it is only a piece of paper...you have him and you love each other, now isn't that what matters? oyu said yourself you would goto the court and do it, most girls push because tey want taht fancy wedding. Dont waste time worrying and treasure each day like there is no tomorrow. So dont worry about it, when he wants to, then do it. Pushing him one way may lead him the other direction.
2007-03-05 20:04:44 · answer #1 · answered by Twinboymom22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though he is in no rush to get married and maybe he realizes he doesn't want to be tied down at present. Marriage scares a lot of people for a lot of reasons but it seems for him to hesitate at this point after the fact of children is not very understandable. You do realize that since you are not married he could just walk away and never come back? This is a fact and you would have no legal claim for anything he may possess. In other words there is no legality behind your "living together." You actually have no options if he does choose to go away and if he is having an affair or affairs on the side you can do nothing except talk to him. You are in a catch 22 situation and I feel sorry for you. It may be that he has no intention to marry you at all and if so there is little that can be done about it except to talk to him. I wish you good fortune and I hope things work out for you both.
2007-03-05 20:02:52 · answer #2 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what us men are like. We are in the World War that we call the ´dating game´, and we want to make as many kills as we can before surrendering to the communist-terrorist that we think the wife is going to be. The kills being the sleeping with as many beautiful women as possible, and the surrender being the marriage. Cuz after marriage, she can stop doing the things that she was doing before, and gain weight, and insult us more openly without negative consequences. Hey people, if (s)he ever becomes like that, that is why there is divorce and separation. So basically, that is how some men feel but not me as I am 28 and married. He sounds like he is stalling. He is obviously taking you for granted. The rest is up to you, what you will do about it. Good luck. Love and Respect.
2007-03-05 20:06:20 · answer #3 · answered by nassim420 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-05 07:47:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know 3 couples..
1. got hitched after living together for 12 years..
2. got hitched after the baby was born...she has lived with him since 18....she was still asking me at 32 years..how to get him to pop the question..they got married when she was 33 years after birth of their first child..
3. got hitched but not official till 2 kids and 10 years of living together...they finally fronted up in a celebrant's office to sign the marriage cert... he ran out of excuses...lol..
there goes...when they are ready they will marry...
2007-03-05 20:50:17 · answer #5 · answered by dewdrops 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesnt want to commit to you or your kids. He obviously thinks that there could be an alternative plan that involves commitment to someone or something else. You had kids with this guy without the commitment so why does he have to commit now? he already has gotten what he wants from you.
He will move on one day.
Good luck
2007-03-05 20:08:04 · answer #6 · answered by Jolly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he isn't sure if that's the right thing to do now. He may have heard of bad marriages. Keep trying and don't give up. Someday he'll realised the importance of marriage.
2007-03-05 19:59:47 · answer #7 · answered by SGElite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he likes to procrastinate
he may not like your family and dreams about telling them to shove it ( hard to do after marriage)
scared of commitment
scared of commitment
scared of commitment
or he might be planning on taking the money and running some day
good luck with this hon
2007-03-05 20:33:06 · answer #8 · answered by UPbeachbuggy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
quote "our kids are 7, 3, 1 and we should have fun but we already call eachother husband and wife i just want it offical"
why don't you just say that to him
2007-03-05 20:19:08 · answer #9 · answered by deny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are scared to be involved long term. They do not want to be bolt down with problems from family, relatives, children..etc. If possible, they want freedom in whatever they do.
2007-03-05 20:04:35 · answer #10 · answered by Ashley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋