Please give me legal suggestion?

Question

I had sex with my boyfriend before my marriage. After marriage my husband recognised that I was not virgin. Now He has started torturing me. He is always mentioning that his life is finished due to me only because I was not virgin. But I am a committed woman. He is also torturing my parents by words. He is now in abroad. From there he delivered so many slang words to me and my parents over mail. In his mail, he has also mentioned that every bad thing whatever he is doing is due to that reason only. Now he stopped mailing. I told him several times that I am sick. But no reply, no phone. I informed his parents that I am sick. They are not also calling me. his parents and I reside in India. he is in Angola. Tell me whether I should show the documents as the proof of mental torture for filing divorce. I don't want to go for divorce. But I am puzzled now. Again I think if I don't go for divorce, then future might be miserable for me. Please suggest me

Answer 1

You must weigh the pros and cons of a decision, considering your present situation. I wish your hubby loves for whatever had happened in your life prior to marriage. It is also gratifying to known that you are commited to your marriage and you do not want to seek divorce. But, if your husband is adamant and has deserted as you said, you have no option but to break from him, legally.

Answer 2

First of all if you don't want a divorce you need to ask yourself why. If it is because you think you owe it yourself and him to work this out then go ahead, give it another shot. If it is because you areafraid of going through the whole procedure of a divorce adn what comes after that, don't worry. The divorce procedures in India are now rather sensitive to both the man adn the woman (although they are a little extra kind to women, so buck up!). If your husband is a remotely wise man he will understand that a peaceful divorce is much better than a terrible and unhappy marriage because it gives you the chance to move on.
Of course if the marriage is violent i'd suggest you get out of it IMMEDIATELY because experience shows that violent marriages only get mroe violent, they seldom take a positive turn (of course only if you're convinced).
If you file for divorce under mental torture then you might just need the documents (although its not usual practice). Even if you and your parents tell the court that you have been verbally abused your case stands. but keep the documents just in case. please remember don't approach the case apologetically. you owe him commitment and loyalty (and the same goes for him) only after marriage. before marriage (and after marriage too for that matter) your body is completely your own.

Answer 3

Everyone needs to keep in mind that she lives in India and in some parts and in some cultures divorce is taboo and frowned upon. The first step I believe is to seek advice and support from your own family/parents and then speak to a marriage/family lawyer

Answer 4

Premarital, extramarital or unwed sexual activities are not barred / prohibited and are no offence in any Indian law. Wife’s sexual intercourse with other/s is also no offence, hence no prosecution or punishment to her. Even her sex partner also cannot be punished, if was unaware of her wedlock or had sex with consent or connivance of her husband. However the police cannot arrest or prosecute him. After divorce also her husband is bound to maintain or pay till she remarries, even if she is permanently / continuously enjoying sex with all other/s. Pre marital sexual experiences (intercourse / coitus) with other/s cannot be a ground to seek divorce under Hindu/Special Marriage Act. Thus a female’s physical sexual relations with persons/s of her choice (with their consent) is not an offence or prohibited / barred in any Indian law and she is at liberty to enjoy SEX freely and fearlessly. A male’s physical sexual relations with any 16+ female (with her consent) is no offence or barred / prohibited in any Indian Law, unless she is in the wedlock of somebody else and is done knowing her wedlock or without her husband’s consent or connivance. Courts are bound to believe that all children born during the wedlock (or within 280 days of court's divorce judgment/ decree) are her husband’s legitimate ones. He is bound to maintain or pay them expenses; till sons are 18+ and daughters are married. Prostitution (commercial sex trade, offering sex for monetary gain) alone is an offence punishable in Indian laws. Yet no Station House Officer, Officer In Charge or Inspector of Police can arrest, enter, search or seize. Husbands & in-laws subjecting wife to mental or physical cruelty or demanding dowry are liable to be punished up to 3 years jail+fine for this non bail able offence.

Answer 5

You need to dump this bum before he hurts you physically.

I've seen enough husbands beating on wives for a lot less then this. Get the divorce before it is too late.