Honestly, I'm really torn between whether or not to get married, ever. I just don't know how to decide. Anyone have any advice?
2007-03-05 19:19:06 · 21 answers · asked by unique_woman01 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I mean this is something you can't jump into, you will know when the time is right even if you are 40, 50, etc. It doesn't matter, take your time.
2007-03-05 19:21:48 · answer #1 · answered by Magic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are torn between getting married and not getting married then I don't think at this time that you should consider it at all. Your indecisiveness should tell you that you are not ready to even consider the matter. Whether or not to get married really comes from the heart and how a person feels about another individual after that person gets to know the individual. It takes time to get to know anyone well and marriage is something that should never be rushed into for any reason. Never think for one moment that marriage is to be considered on the spur of the moment since it is a life long committment by both individuals although there are people today who would say that if it doesn't work then you can always divorce. Divorces can be troublesome and messy and cause a lot of heartache. I am in the middle of one now and it is nothing but misery and worry for me day after day. Be careful choosing a mate if this is your desire and make sure you take the time to know him. Be content to just have fun and enjoy life. Remember, marriage means giving up your life and your wants and needs and refocusing on the needs and wants of another person to make that person happy just as that person must refocus on you and make you happy. It is a partnership where each individual gives 100% to the other. Are you ready to really do this?
2007-03-06 03:27:44 · answer #2 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I you want to, you will feel that it is the thing to do. Not deciding is also a decision, as time passes regardless. You don't have to get married, you don't have to have a child - just find what works for you. It's not so much meeting the right person as it is figuring out if it's a good fit for you
I've been there - it's just a personal choice. No one's advice is going to help really - it's up to you.
2007-03-06 03:26:54 · answer #3 · answered by slipstreamer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it has to do with what your purpose is in life. What are you set out to do? Example: oprah isn't married. but if she was she wouldn't be oprah. and look at all the amazing things she's done with her life. But she is not married. However, some people list their greatest accomplishments as having a long successful marriage and healthy happy kids. I think both are goood ways to live life. You just have to pick which is best for you.
2007-03-06 03:29:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the way you will ever answer the question is by having a relationship, everyone is different and no relationship will be the same because of that... how you set your standards on the person you become involved with, how the relationship goes, you just cant say never, its more like wait and see...
2007-03-06 05:24:37 · answer #5 · answered by Renee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you meet the right person,the decision will be made for you..Until the right one comes along you may feel you don't need to get married.Also,you need to think about whether or not you want to start a family one day.And if so,would you want to do that as single parent ?
When the time is right all your answers will come to you...Just listen to your heart.
2007-03-06 03:26:01 · answer #6 · answered by angelmom 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you truly love someone and is willing to live with him for the rest of your lives..then consider marriage? This is very subjective as it differs from person to person. It is much deeper and difficult to explain. It must come from the heart. Again, remember that in all relationships (with friends, family and spouses) feelings cannot be forced. Good luck.
2007-03-06 03:25:23 · answer #7 · answered by Ashley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not something u can just decide. If u meet the right person, u'll know but I'd advice to not to get hooked up with wrong person. Life can become hell when that happens.
2007-03-06 04:45:07 · answer #8 · answered by Nats 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is a very personal decision that you can only answer for yourself. i can tell you that i love being married. why are you trying to decide. do you ahve a boyfriend that has asked? if you do and you are having to ask us. i think you already know the answer. if you do not have the question put to you then don't amnswer a question that has not been asked.
2007-03-06 03:24:37 · answer #9 · answered by nettie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was once told that everyone who is NOT married, is trying to get married and everyone who IS married, is trying to get unmarried.
The way I see it, God is the creator of Marriage. He gave Eve to Adam before anything else happened in the Bible. As long as you and your spouse make God the "main focal point" of your marriage, then you will NOT go wrong...for God will NOT guide you in the wrong/or opposite directions.
2007-03-06 03:37:04 · answer #10 · answered by s7lmb 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋