My husband is deployed to Iraq but befor he left he asked me to periodically check his email for him incase he didnt have the chance to respond to ppl on how he is doing. well I just got finished checkin git when I saw that he sent an email to another woman with pictures of his privates in it.. what should I do?
2007-03-05 19:08:59 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
May be he was showing his rifle. Why don't you write him back and tell him that you are acknowledged about his exposition? Don't keep the doubt in your mind, is better for you to know now what was he thinking when he did that.
2007-03-05 19:11:55 · answer #1 · answered by Javy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't jump to conclusions. A "buddy" in his unit may have gotten on while he was logged on and pulled a prank. Guys do this all the time in the military. I'd ask him about it and find out whats up.
Give him the benefit of the doubt. Believe me, being a Veteran, I know what kind of stuff "Buddies" will do to embarrass them.
Find out the facts first. Remember he is in a combat zone, and his most treasured support system is you, and he has to deal with life and death situations everyday. If you honestly think he has either the time or the desire to be messing with another gal when he doesn't know if he will come home in a flag draped casket, you need to weigh the reality of this from other than an emotional position and perspective.
Wait til' he gets back and don't feed these doubts. It can all be handled then. If he did do such, then address it when he comes home, and that is when you should also confront him about it. Until then, put it on the back-burner and don't put yourself through any agony. It's not worth it.
2007-03-06 03:21:04 · answer #2 · answered by The Sylvan Wizard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok reading some of the post before mine.....He posted pictures of his junk as a joke?? yea....truth or dare...right. Even so it is still wrong. It is on the Internet! People seem to think that since you cannot touch the person it is not cheating. Cheating is the frame of mind you are in. If you have feelings for someone else you are cheating your emotions for your spouse. Not saying it warrants a divorce. But I don't think you can justify it being ok just because it was in an email. Of course ask him about it in person and then see how his answer makes you feel. You will know if you think he is lying or insincere. Good Luck....
2007-03-06 03:18:45 · answer #3 · answered by UntamableSmurf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd send him a letter and ask him about it. Many men are getting addicted to porn on the net and are engaging in fantasy play with other women, too. I'm sorry this happened to you, you must feel devestated. Do what your heart tells you. If you love him and don't want to divorce over this, the two of you need to discuss why he's engaged in it. Many men do it because they're bored or want a little thrill and they really don't take it seriously. But if that were MY husband, I'd divorce him. I'm the type of person that can not get over any kind of betrayal, no matter how trivial it is. But if you want to work out any problems in your marriage you weren't aware of, seek marital couciling. Go by yourself until he comes back, then you can go together. Whatever you decide, I wish you the best. Take care.
2007-03-06 03:15:52 · answer #4 · answered by Gayle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There must be some misunderstanding here. If he asked you to check his email then of course he will be aware of what in it unless it was long time ago or some porn site. That he must be forgot about it. I don't think he is intentionally try to hurt you, especially he is over there. Should be a little smart when you confronted him if you got a chance, because his mind need to clear for survival over there. If he is be honest and truly sorry, give him a chance to explain it to you. Don't try to jeopardize your relationship and his life, if you still do care. Be smart and don't take everything for granted.
2007-03-06 03:45:42 · answer #5 · answered by Lilian 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is asking you to check his email I dont think its that big of a worry. It could have been something as simple as a truth or dare game he was in. Personally I would wait till he was back, then talk to him in a non accusing calm way and find out why he did it and if there was something you two needed to work on as a couple or if it was just a goofy one time thing.
2007-03-06 03:12:23 · answer #6 · answered by Katt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that certainly interesting. He forgot about this? You said he sent the pictures, did anyone respond back? It would be interesting to know what is going on before you confront him. Then I would forward him his own pictures and ask him "what's up with this?" I hope you laid down the ground rules when you got married. Zero tolerance.
2007-03-06 03:18:51 · answer #7 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a bad thing to find those kind of photos in your husbands e-mails. I feel bad for you. Especially since hes not around so you could at least strangle him.What possessed him to do such a thing! He will probably deny they are his pics, but I'd make copies of them before he deletes them and says you were mistaken. You might want to get some counseling for yourself to decide how you will deal with this. I know i would feel hurt, angry and deceived.
2007-03-06 03:18:34 · answer #8 · answered by chicklette0008 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was one of the Privates girlfriend, wife or mother you shouldn't worry at all a lot of the officers send photos of there privates back to the states.
2007-03-06 03:23:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send a reply on that very email to your husband, asking him to explain.
2007-03-06 03:11:24 · answer #10 · answered by Speedy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋