would you allow your 15 year old?

Question

to go Californa with a friend to visit that friends grandpa?

my mom and dad are allowing my little sister to go. they would never have let me?

Answer 1

Totally depends.
Is the child generally responsible?
What about the friend? responsible?
How well do you know the family?
How well do you know the Grandpa?
Are parents going too?
If I didn't know the family and the Grandpa well, I probably wouldn't let them go. Out of state, far away.... too young.

Answer 2

Well put it this way, Just think if you were 15 years old, and your friend was going to California to visit her grandpa and you really really wanted to go, but yet your mom said no. How would you feel if your mom wouldn't let you go? You wouldn't really like it would you? People may say oh no you're to young to go do anything, Honestly, that's all 14-17 year old hear, You're to young to do this or you're to young to do that. You have to grow up one day and experience life, and you'll never be able to do that if you have someone telling you that you can't. So if I were you. I'd let her go, I mean take risks you know?

Answer 3

YES! YES! YES!

Oh my god you crazy parents with the no no no! I'm sick and tired of hearing the excuses "Its a different world we live in" and "Oh, what about the pedophiles" and "Oh, we must protect the children". Give me a break.

Years ago, many moons before I was born (I'm 27), Kids were working out in fields helping parents out on farms, washing clothes, DRIVING!, etc. The girl is 15 folks! 15. She is old enough to have her period and have sex, i'm sure she has breasts, and she is smart enough at that age to know right from wrong. Restrictions, restrictions, restrictions! You parents always want to restrict. Whats the deal?

If she is going out all hours of the night, having sex with boys, getting bad grades, yes I could see that some restrictions would come into play. But is she is a good student and you know in your heart she's a good "YOUNG ADULT, NOT CHILD", then what is the problem. Let her go. Let her do what she wants to do. You still have supervision over her and have the power to tell her what she can and cannot do. But stop trying to be the boss.

I think at an early age, I would say as early as 9, kids should to be allowed to make their own decisions. I wouldn't say give them a drivers license or allow them to vote. They still are not adults. But when you restrict them in this manner, you restrict their ability to trial and error in decisions. And when you restrict that, they will always look to you or their peers for help making decisions. Where later in life, they will probably be living in your basement because they couldn't make the decision to go out on their own.

So guys, you are wrong with the whole "no" thing. If she wants to go to California, let her go. If something happens, it will happen. As long as she keeps in constant contact with you, there shouldn't be a problem.

If you do not trust your kids and keep restricting them, they will not be as productive in life. Just remember, you are raising america's next generation. Don't screw it up. Being a great parent isn't just laying a great foundation and spending time with your kids, its also knowing when your time is up and its time to start to let them go. Being she is 15, the parents should have started with her a long time ago.

If they did, she would have been able to make her own decisions with what airline to take, who is picking them up, how much the trip will cost, etc. Adult decisions a 15 year old can handle if they are taught something you parents maybe need try. Its called self-reliance. If a 15 year old can learn calc and physics and in South Dakota and Wyoming... can have a drivers license (YES, THT IS TRUE!), then they can easily figure out how to make adult decisions like an itinerary. They should also be working, within labor laws ofcourse. If not, you are floating the bill. Why isn't she working anyway? Oh, thats right, to protect them. Oh ok. I'm sorry.

Answer 4

Tough one as this is a long way away, if anything occurs, and if you know the family/ grandfather well. Its also a wonderful opportunity , how mature is this 15 year old are they responsible, does he/ she deserve this opportunity , well behaved. you have to take all these things into consideration. If the answer to all that is no. then maybe your answer should be no, If its all good then look into the area that he/she is going to, make sure that he/she knows where to get assistance if needed, police, medical care, safe place, and top up the mobile for regular contact. But ultimately its down to you and your family. good luck. P S I have a distress password that can be used in conversation with my kids that only we know, means come and get me.!

Answer 5

I would have to speak to the Grandfather first and it all depends on how well you know the family and the friend that has invited your child. Not saying that you don't trust your child, but come on, we've all been 15 at one time and we were also adventurous!! I'd just rather be save than sorry. If you do get the chance to talk to the adult...if you have certain concerns then voice them too....that's your child's life and I can't think of anything worse than losing it b/c you didn't voice yourself.

Answer 6

NOPE. i have two 15 year olds (boy and girl). i'm not even o.k. with school dances! they are BOTH so immature! when they turn 16 they will be able to go to dances... when they are 18 they can give me a respectful phone call to let me know what their big plans are... for example, going to California... once they are legal adults THEY are responsible for THEMSELVES and must live with the consequences of their actions BUT, until then the law says i'm responsible... so i keep close tabs on them!

Answer 7

I would let my son go. It could be a good experience for your sister. (This is assuming you live in the US. I don't know that I would allow my child to leave the country.)

Answer 8

i just told my 17 y/o foster daughter last week that she could not go to a Seattle with her friends to visit there uncle its in the same state we are its only about 600 miles but she can not be that far away from me i would worry to much

Answer 9

no way, no how, no., not even if she begged, not even if she called me every minute, not even if she took a web cam with her.

simply NO.

@ that age no child should be allowed to travel that distance w/o thier OWN parent. To many things going on in this world

Answer 10

I'm not sure. If I knew the parents and the 15 year olds are good responsible kids..I might.