We have been together for almost 4yrs and we just started having sex 5months ago. i love him very much adn we've talked about if it ever happend and he would be supportive and we would raise the child together its not that im not ready to be a parent because i love babies and i dedicate almost all my time to them. its just i dont know how to tell my parents. i've missed my period this past month and im still waiting for it to start idk what to do any suggestions?
2007-03-05 18:34:24 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I'm not in school I dropped out at 16. I am getting ready to attend a communtiy college to get my GED. and my boyfriend does work. I have applied at several places since i posted this for a job. and I am planning to move out on my own soon even if im not preg. and by the way i would never consider abortion or adoption. my parents can't be that ashmed of me I'M not the first one in the family to end up preg at such a young age. but my mom did want me to wait till i was 18. but as long as we love each other and we're commited to each other i dont see why it matters im not some stupid teenager whos gonna dump my baby on my parents im more responsible then that. i would take care of my baby even if he wasnt really commited to me and the baby and runs off i'll raise it by myself. i'll find someway. but alot of your comments are great thanks for the advice.
2007-03-06 17:14:02 · update #1
Ummm, obviously the first thing you should do is a pregnancy test! You are 17, love and your boyfriend isn't mature enough to be a parent either. I do feel for you though. I know what's it's like to be in your position, except for the fact that I was raped at 16 and the choice of whether or not to have a baby at that age wasn't too hard to make. I was pooping myself too. You don't need to be reminded of the NEED for contraception at your age, and you are old enough to know how you can get pregnant. Your b/f may have SAID he will support you if you got pregnant, but do your REALLY think he meant it? Do either of you have a job to raise this child? Think about all the adult stuff that adults have to think about when they ARE ready to start a family. Welfare should not be the back up plan. If you decide to terminate, probably a good idea. You may regret it for a while, but compared to the consequences of raising an unwanted pregancy, one termination should teach you a valuable lesson (hopefully). If you decide to add to the already over-populated population, think very carefully about whether or not you really are ready, financially, mentally, physically. Reality is harsh, hun, but you need to hear this from someone who's been there and done it all. Good luck!
P.S your parents may not be as angry as you think, just be honest and at least act like you're sorry you made a bad choice not using protection :)
2007-03-05 19:04:16 · answer #1 · answered by I Love My Job 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Take an hpt! Then go to your local heath department or Save a Life so you can get the pregnancy medically confirmed (for free!) before telling anyone. Maybe it's just me, but I'd rather know for sure (meaning a doc confirmed it) before going through the stress of telling someone. The health department can also help you get insurance and an appointment with an OBGYN for prenatal care.
Then just sit down with your parents and tell them what you told me: that you and your boyfriend have been otgether a long time and really do love each other, that you recently had intercourse (tell them what method of protection you used!), but that it failed and you are now pregnant, and that you really need their love and support during this time. They may be angry at first, but trust me...they will get over and it love you AND their new grandchild. It may help to have your boyfriend with you when you tell them, so it shows he is supporting you, or it may help to tell them by writing them a letter, ending it with, "When you're ready to talk, I'm in my room. Please don't judge me or be angry, just support me and love me." Or something along those lines. The sooner you tell them, the better. They'll trust and respect you more if you're honest from the beginning.
It may also help to have plans of you and your boyfriend getting jobs and moving out on your own, if you haven't already, to show your parents that you really are adult and responsible enough to handle a child, because many teen parents just leave the kid to be taken care of by their parents while they continue to party and have no bills, worries, or responsibilities.
Your parents may be upset at first, but remember they are really just disappointed because you didn't turn out exactly as they expected. They probably had dreams of you having a certain career, or of you being married at a certain age and having children after that. You may not have lived up to your expectations even if you hadn't become pregnant, but your parents can find this a real letdown and disappointment...they're just worried about you and want the best for you! Sorry I wrote so much, but I really wanted to help. If you need anything, just someone to talk to, you can email me at jessica_gray_hare@yahoo.com
2007-03-06 02:46:01 · answer #2 · answered by grayhare 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st take a pregnancy test or go to Planned Parenthood and take one. If you are pregnant, and you & your boyfriend decide to keep the baby, then it's best to tell both your parents. If you don't want to keep the baby plz do not consider abortion. Adoption would be the best case.
I pray the best for you.
Psalm127:3
3 Children are a gift from the Lord;
they are a reward from him.
2007-03-06 04:51:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, you may want to do this without your boyfriend present in case your parents get angry at him. I assume at least he will graduate this year, and you may be graduating, I don't know. Buy a pregnancy test and find out for sure if you are pregnant. If you are, find a time where you can be alone with them and have the following conversation...
You: Mom, Dad, I have something to tell you
Mom: What is it honey?
You: Look, I know this isn't ideal, but I'm pretty sure I'm pregnant.
Mom:...
Dad:...
Based on their reactions, take it from there. Be sure to mention that you will take care of the baby and everything. You sound like a good person, and I'm sure you will benefit from this experience.
2007-03-06 02:47:16 · answer #4 · answered by Wocka wocka 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell them. It'll be ok. Really, your parents might not have wanted that from you or for you, but oh well, what can they do? They love you and will support you. (They really have no choice). Just make sure you take care of your responsibility and don't dump your kid on your parents. They raised their kids, now you raise yours.
At first they might express alot of feelings: anger, sadness, disappointment, maybe. But before you know it, they'll be all excited about the baby.
2007-03-06 02:47:04 · answer #5 · answered by MoMoney23 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First take a pregnancy test and if your pregnant then you should have no problems in telling anyone that you are pregnant cause after all did you not act as an adult when you started having sex without the use of birth control?
You know yourself that you are too young for a kid cause your a kid yourself. So is your boyfriend.
I just don't see how anyone can afford to raise a kid when they can't even afford to buy a 75 cent condom.
Get a job, move out and fend for your new family just like the rest of us do.
2007-03-06 02:39:40 · answer #6 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
go to a dollar store and get a home pregnancy test and take it. do it in the school bathroom if you dont want any evidence at home though you need to do it with the first urine of the day. you are way too young for this, but if you already did it, there isnt much to do about it. other than that dont have unprotected sex again.
2007-03-06 02:39:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you taken a pregnancy test? That would be the first thing to do.. and then once you are sure.. just be honest with your parents.. they might be angry and disappointed for a bit but they will be there when you need them! But i suggest that you and the boyfriend tell them together.. not just you telling your parents and him telling his! Get his and your parents together and do it all at once.. it takes alot of pressure off!
i am telling you this from experience!
2007-03-06 02:45:20 · answer #8 · answered by cassandra_robbins88 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything... Just start eating like a pig... Get so huge they would never know the difference. Yeah..that sounds good. Then maybe wrap the child up in a blanket and put it on someone's doorstep and ring and run.
Yeehaw
2007-03-06 08:32:09 · answer #9 · answered by Robo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
having a baby at your age will change your life drastically. if he will help you and stand by you and you can handle it then by all means accept it with open arms. just tell your parents that you need their help with something and vomit the info at them. you'll know right there waht kind of support system you have.
2007-03-06 02:40:35 · answer #10 · answered by tryinthis2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋