Why do we always hurt the ones we love?

Answer 1

hmmm... but the question is, do I really intend to hurt her? They say, intimacy builds contempt. We became too complacent that everything will be just fine. She will love me for being myself. And I believe and trusted her for that. In the process, I tend to neglect her feelings and hurt her. Its the most stupid thing I did.

Answer 2

All the answers I have read are correct, but missing one thing.
If you are hurting the one you love, chances are you are afraid of confrontation. You live your life in frustration because someone has wronged you, ...you turn the other cheek because you dont want confrontation.....at the end of the day, who is there? A loved one, who did nothing to fire up your anger, they were just there.
Loved ones will be there for that.......but not forever.
If you find yourself treating loved ones this way, it could be a sign you need to change your scenery from 9 to 5, or grow some balls so your loved one wont have to put up with your crap at the end of the day.

Answer 3

loving someone means that you give them all your heart and hope that they wont break it when we know that eventually they will. we are all human and even though we know that mentally our hearts still in a way say "why"!!!when love is envolved all emotions are magnified esp hurt and pain. you have to let the good in with the bad when you love someone and that includes the possibility of heart ache. the better question should be how to we make things right when this happens with out placing blame people are responsible for actions but we also have to understand the simplest of feelings and they come with no real faults to any one. when someon gets there feelings hurt ( i knw this sounds corny ) but they have a right to that feeling wheather or not the actions that induced the feelings were simple and unintentual or not these feeling still exist and have to be acknowledged. dealing with that issue is the answer to this. i hurts more when someone we love "hurts "us but htat comes with love and if you werent ready fr that your werent ready for love...

Answer 4

F A M I L Y

I ran into a stranger as he passed by,
"Oh excuse me please" was my reply.


He s aid, "Please excuse me too;
I wasn't watching for you."


We were very polite, this stranger and I.
We went on our way and we said goodbye.


But at home a different story is told,
How we treat our loved ones, young and old.


Later that day, cooking the evening meal,
My son stood beside me very still.


When I turned, I nearly knocked him down.
"Move out of the way," I said with a frown.


He walked away, his little heart broken.
I didn't realize how harshly I'd spoken.


While I lay awake in bed,
God's still small voice came to me and said,


"While dealing with a stranger,
common courtesy you use,
but the family you love, you seem to abuse.


Go and look on the kitchen floor,
You'll find some flowers there by the door.


Those are the flowers he brought for you.
He picked them himself: pink, yellow and blue.


He stood very quietly not to spoil the surprise,
you never saw the tears that filled his little eyes."


By this time, I felt very small,
And now my tears began to fall.


I quietly went and knelt by his bed;
"Wake up, little one, wake up," I said.


"Are these the flowers you picked for me?"
He smiled, "I found 'em, out by the tree.


I picked 'em because they're pretty like you.
I knew you'd like 'em, especially the blu e."


I said, "Son, I'm very sorry for the way I acted today;
I shouldn't have yelled at you that way."
He said, "Oh, Mom, that's okay.
I love you anyway."


I said, "Son, I love you too,
and I do like the flowers, especially the blue."


FAMILY
Are you aware that if we died to morrow, the company
that we are working for could easily replace us in
a matter of days.
But the family we left behind will feel the loss
for the rest of their lives.


And come to think of it, we pour ourselves more
into work than into our own family,
an unwise investment indeed,
don't you think?
So what is behind the story?


Do you know what the word FAMILY means?
FAMILY = (F)ATHER (A)ND (M)OTHER (I) (L)OVE (Y)OU

Answer 5

It's almost to easy to hurt the one we love because there a part of us.

Answer 6

i don't think if u really love someone u are going to hurt them. maybe its actually about how one feels toward their self, but its the other person who gets hurt. we hurt those we love because of wrong thinking, and no control over our emotions.

Answer 7

Because we take for granted that they will continue to be there for us. Generally we treat strangers that pass us by with more kindness and regard than we would if we were to bump into a family member walking opposite directions down the hallway

Answer 8

Because it's impossible to hurt the ones you're apathetic to.

Answer 9

its just a thing that happens its not delibrate.. people change things happen things just dont stay the same people dont stay the same and in these changes the ones we love do get hurt....

Answer 10

Because we are around them more often, therefor having more opportunities to hurt them.