If your husband is gone for long periods of time due to work (a year at a time) and he told you that you could have a physical affair as long as you were safe and did not allow emotions to become involved, would you do it?
2007-03-05 18:09:45 · 14 answers · asked by just_wondering_07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I couldn't but that doesn't mean that it's wrong if you want to. The reason why i couldn't is that it's my belief that it's a wrong thing to do and I wouldn't want my husband sleeping with anyone else either.
But if you and your husband are open and honest about it, there is no reason why you can not do it. Also by sleeping with someone else it may save your marriage (in a weird way) if your husband is gone for so long, it may stop you from starting an emotional affair or leaving him because you are lonely.
Goodluck with your decision
2007-03-05 18:18:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the husband said so... I would gather that HE CHEATS TOO... and thus am all right that I can do so, so long there were no strings attached.
That would make me very worried and I reckon we need to address each others sexual needs and wants.
No... once in a marriage I would not cheat.
Unless I need to break the emotional bondage and wanna out of the marriage... then I would cheat and get a divorce.
2007-03-05 18:18:26 · answer #2 · answered by glitzynicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you even with him? For kicks? For the money? Sounds not much of a relationship.
It wouldn't be cheating and it wouldn't be a affair if he knew about it. You don't sound to smart on these things
You can't use sexual toys to get what you need.
If you need a guy for it, you are going to end up falling for the guy and having feelings for him. Emotions are always involved unless...
It sounds like you want a one night stand or a bunch of guys if you don't want emotions involved.
This is a lady, I'm on my fiance's username because I didn't want to lose this question by changing to my username.
2007-03-05 18:21:54 · answer #3 · answered by Randy Jay 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If I had permission to have an affair then yes I would. I admit that I am a player and I love the game. But I have benched myself and resisted temptaions.
But if I were given the choice I would. I know that it is dangerous territory as feelings do often get involved, but its a matter of knowing yourself.
2007-03-05 20:25:45 · answer #4 · answered by timberleigh 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i'm male but if it was the other way, wife was going away. i believe emotions will be there no matter what, if you really want the enjoyment of sex buy toys or a doll. get him to make videos so you can be with him. so my answer would be no, i love my wife and it's wanting to be with her that brings me home from work every night.
sorry if you didn't want a male prospective.
2007-03-05 18:17:44 · answer #5 · answered by mtm 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO, I would never do that. Even if I had permission.
1. I value my marriage
2. I have self respect
3. I don’t believe in committing adultery
4. I wouldn’t want my husband sleeping with anyone else
5. I VALUE MY MARRIAGE!!!
2007-03-05 18:28:33 · answer #6 · answered by Jessie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
HELL NO. You're in a marriage for a reason. Plus, if he's suggesting this, you should know he's cheating on you already!
There are tons of adult toys for you to choose from!
2007-03-05 18:15:03 · answer #7 · answered by fatcatkeepers 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't pretend you women need permission. You women do it all the time without asking.
At least you're considerate enough to ask the poor guy.
2007-03-05 18:26:45 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never. What i share with husband is a special bonding which can nevr be shared with anybody else. even if he is away from or with me. wt i feel is only for my husban and nobody else. Bse of my feeling of love for him we are married and tht cant be shared with others.
2007-03-05 18:18:18 · answer #9 · answered by smitha b 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
of course not!!! what if your husband is just testing the water. men can be deceving at times...
2007-03-05 18:13:47 · answer #10 · answered by lei_427 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋