We already have one little girl . She's 3 and we love her beyond words.Now we have another one on the way and I am thrilled that it's on the way but I havent acted like I am excited.But it's only because I am worried about things like "are we gonna be able to feed another kid?" " Are we going to be able to raise it for 18 years without messing up it's life?" We went through all of those emotions with our first baby.I would have thought this time we wouldn't be so scared.I feel bad that I haven't acted exctied about this.But really I am!
2007-03-05 17:52:09 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You are SO normal. I remember with my second one that I thought, "how can I possibly love this one as much as I love the first", but I do. I also had dreams that I'd forget the baby in the closet. Fears about having a second child are normal. I pray about it. It might help you to have a parenting plan. Talk with your spouse about what you want for the kids. Talk about how you want to parent now that there are two kids. I know for us, it helped a lot that we talked about our expectations, fears, and hopes before our second little girl arrived. That put a lot of my fears to rest and helped me get more excited. Another way to help be more demonstrative is to get your 3 year old involved. Have your daughter help put away diapers or sort through tiny clothes. Have her help put up decorations. Getting her excited may help you be more obvious in your excitement. Best of luck to you and congratulations on your upcoming blessing.
2007-03-05 17:57:36 · answer #1 · answered by Susan B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is normal! It has been the 3 of you for 3 years and now someone else is coming into the picture and you responsibilities grow exponentially.
Good for you for being honest about your feelings.Try to focus on the joy and the excitement so that your 3 year old doesn't become scared too.
Pregnancy and parenting are a giant exercise in leaning how little control we have over anything. That is why it so important do the best you can.
Even if you don't believe in God, say The Serenity Prayer for your own sake everyday.
"God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference."
All my best to you and yours and Congratulations!!!
2007-03-06 02:01:13 · answer #2 · answered by bunnieslie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you're tempted to worry, remind yourself that worrying never ever gets us anywhere. It has never ever improved a situation, prevented a situation, or made anything beneficial happen. It serves no purpose. Don't put yourself through the thought processes of worry. You'll be an awesome parent I'm sure!! When this worry starts to creep in, turn the thoughts automatically to something about "expecting" that makes you smile... inside and out!! Good luck to you.
2007-03-06 01:57:45 · answer #3 · answered by squealy68 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very normal that you worry about it. But in a short while you'll get over it.. Always remember that single kids are lonely and usually they turn out to be selfish people. It's very nice for your 3 year old that she'll have a sister/brother and she won't be brought up lonely in life, off course it's the same for the younger child. God will help you with your new baby to feed her and bring her up..and i'm sure you'll smile reading this question 2 years from now..
2007-03-06 02:08:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is very normal, just know that as long as you love your children and it definetaly sounds as you do, everything else will fall into place just as they did with the first child. It is alot to think about though, taking care of another life is the ultimate task,but you know deep down you can do it. You wouldn't be a caring and loving parent if you didn't worry a little.
2007-03-06 02:02:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Noone gets to tell you how excited to be and when. You have valid concerns, and it's good that you are thinking about them. I've seen a lot of people on here that aren't responsible enough to concern themselves with such minutiae, especially the teens, and I have to tell you, you're a breath of fresh air. You'll show your excitement outwardly soon. Get more sunshine. It will help you feel more relaxed and ready to face the new "season."
2007-03-06 02:01:04 · answer #6 · answered by Lesley M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is normal to be scared. You been thought it already with one kid and what it cost to take care of,it will be just as great as the first one. Just be thankful it will be healthy,everything will fall togeather.When you see the baby your thoughts will be forgotten. Good luck and think positive about everything.
2007-03-06 02:09:36 · answer #7 · answered by nene 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RELAX!!!!! Normal to think about it MORE the second time around, because now it's twice the responsibility. Chill and just put your baby around good people who have a vested interest in wanting to see him/her succeed and you won't go wrong...you're not raising a baby alone believe it or not. Remember "you are who you hang around."
2007-03-06 02:00:08 · answer #8 · answered by Adam A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude I have no children but it sounds like if I had real parents I would want you as a father. You rock of course you worried scared or what not as long s you don’t flee you rock in my book. Take stock in the fact that you are awesome. If you don’t believe me just wait till the kid can talk. He/she will tell you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-06 02:01:23 · answer #9 · answered by Joe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its completely understandable. Having a baby changes everything and puts a whole lot more responsibility on your shoulders.
2007-03-06 01:55:45 · answer #10 · answered by Amanda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋