How do I get over my fear of fighting.?

Question

Every time I get into a confrontation I get scared even though most of the time Im bigger than the other person.Every time its time to fight I back down or when someone disrespects me I don't do anything.Recently this behavior has earned me a reputation at school as being a ********* to some people that know me.After every time I back down or let a person slide I wish a had just beat there ***.What should I do I don't want to hear walking away because where Im from thats a ***** and thats how I got a rep as being one.Every thing has to end and being a ***** has to end for me now.I guess Im on here just looking for encouragement.

Answer 1

You rightfully have a fear of fighting.

You should have a loathing also.

Fighting is the last resort. You should first attempt to get your point across in a calm but firm voice. Then, if the other person still insists on using violence to resolve the issue, you need to try to walk away and let it be.

Don't walk away because of fear, walk away because that is what enlightened people do. You need to reason with people. You need to emphasize with them,. In a larger sense, you are them.

I realize that, in your culture, backing down is an anathema. That doesn't make it right. In the larger culture in which you live, this type of behavior is not accepted as being correct.

Look at the bigger picture. Be enlightened and tell your friends that they need to become enlightened to the overall cultural tendencies rather than a small subset which espouses behavior that is outside the norm.