MY HUSBAND OF 21 YEARS WANTS TO REFINANCE THE HOUSE WE BOUGHT TOGETHER 6 YEARS AGO. WE HAVE BEEN LIVING APART FOR A YEAR AND THIS MIGHT LEAD TO A DIVORCE. I WANTED TO SELL THE HOUSE AND MOVE OUT OF IT BUT HE WANTS ME TO SIGN THE REFINANCING PAPERS AND WHEN WE DO GET A DIVORCE NOT TO FIGHT HIM IN COURT BUT TO SAY ITS MUTUAL. (HE WAS THE ONE THAT WALKED OUT) IN RETURN HE PROMISED TO WRITE A CONTRACT STATING THAT HE WILL HELP ME OUT BY GIVING ME ALL THE MONEY FROM SELLING THE HOUSE, PAYING FOR DAUGHTERS COLLEGE AS WELL AS OTHER PROMISES...SHOULD I AGREE TO THIS?? HOW SHOULD I GO ABOUT THIS?? IF I AGREE NOT TO FIGHT HIM IN COURT WILL I GET NO ALIMONY?? WHERE AND HOW SHOULD WE DO THE CONTRACT TO MAKE IT LEGAL AND VALID?? WE HAVE 2 KIDS TOGETHER SON 6 AND DAUGHTER 20....IDK WHAT TO DO HE WANTS ME TO SIGN TOMORROW....SHOULD WE MAKE UP THE CONTRACT he TALKED ABOUT BEFORE I SIGN ANYTHING?? PLZ help!!!
2007-03-05 17:30:22 · 11 answers · asked by <3 MISS SEPTEMBER <3 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't sign anything without an attorney looking at it. He will promise you anything that he thinks that you want to hear just to get your signature. After he gets you to sign, what's to guarantee that he'll live up to his promises??
Don't put yourself in a situation that could hurt both you and your children. Make sure you get an attorney!
2007-03-05 17:35:26 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call a lawyer tomorrow. Many will give you your first consultation for free. I am assuming if you have been apart for a year that you will divorce because if not you would have probably worked things out by now.So if thats the case I think you will find that most states are 50/50 states., which means at divorce time you will get 50 percent of all liquid assets. So I don't see him giving you all the money for the house plus pay for all the turition. But if you follow a lawyers advise you are more than likely to get at least half of all the assets. Besides if you agree to finance then sell you will be further in debt if he is taking any cash out of the refinance thus your equity is less at selling time so how is that a good thing for you?...Call a lawyer
2007-03-05 17:42:16 · answer #2 · answered by chcman74 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not go for this. Do not sign your name on the re-fi papers. Even if he makes a contract stating he'd do all that stuff, the law will only hold him to it for so long. Sell the house and split the profit. If you have that much equity in the home, you'll get it back by selling. If you don't want to move, you can buy his share of the house or vice versa.
Why the hell would you agree to anything this guy says when HE WALKED OUT ON YOU. You've got the upper hand. You have house and kids. If you don't have a job, you will get alimony. Get him for child support and keep EVERYTHING!
2007-03-05 17:43:28 · answer #3 · answered by fatcatkeepers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer and have him look over the documents. I wouldnt suggest ever signing anything the indicates you will not fight him in court, he could take the kids from you, make you pay him support, anything he wants. If you both want the divorce, sometimes you can get one attorney to draw up the papers and split the cost. Be sure you read everything before you sign it to protect yourself and your children.
2007-03-05 17:35:05 · answer #4 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO DO NOT SIGN NOTHING... EVERYTHING HE NEEDS YOU TO SIGN HAVE TO BE IN AGREEMENT WITH THE BOTH OF YOU.. GET A LAWYER GET A LAWYER NOW... BESIDES HOW CAN HE TELL YOU TO GO TO COURT AND SAY THINGS ARE MUTUAL AND DO THIS JUST WITH A PROMISE??? GIRL HELLLS NOOO THIS MAN IS UP TO NO GOOD. ALIMONY YOU WILL GET AND CHILD SUPPORT TOO!!! IS NOT UP TO HIM WHETER YOU GET IT OR NOT IS UP TO THE COURTS!!! THE CONTRACT SHOULD BE MADE BY A LAWYER AND ONLY WITH THE BEST INTEREST OF YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN. THE NERVES OF YOUR SOON TO BE EX TELL HIM ***** YOU SEE YOU IN COURT JACKASSS.... PLEASE DO NOT SIGN ANYTHING HE IS NOT GOING TO GIVE YOU ANYTHING. HE SAID WE WILL MAKE A STATEMENT SAYING THAT HE WILL "HELP YOU OUT BY GIVING YOU ALL THE MONEY FROM THE HOUSE SELL" DOES THAT SOUND LIKE SHITTT OR WHAT?? IF THAT IS HIS INTENTIONS WHY GO TO COURT AT ALL?? PLEASE GIRL DO NOT SIGN YOUR RIGHTS AWAY. THIS MAN WANTS TO LEAVE YOU WITH NOTHING THAT IS FOR SURE. GO TO COURT AND FIGHT FIGHT FIGHT FOR YOUR RIGHTS.. GOOD LUCK.
2007-03-06 00:48:32 · answer #5 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET A LAWYER!!!!!!!! before you sign anything. if he wants to write up a contract, tell him to have a lawyer write it up and give a copy to your lawyer. thats the smartest thing that you can do. BUT DEFINATLY GET A LAWYER!!!!
2007-03-05 17:37:59 · answer #6 · answered by mcfly_lives 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to speak with a lawyer for this kind of decision.
2007-03-05 17:57:35 · answer #7 · answered by avavu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't sign anything for him..
Get a lawyer.
2007-03-05 17:34:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you asking this question again? Didn't get the answers you wanted the first time?
2007-03-05 17:34:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Both of you need attorneys, and they have to be actively involved in the process. An attorney will look out for your interests.
Also, you need to disengage the caps lock immediately, and spell P-L-E-A-S-E!
2007-03-08 08:37:44 · answer #10 · answered by eviltruitt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋