Okay a guy that I want to commit to told me we can not get married because of finicial reason I am the bread winner.I still want to be with him even though he do not make that much
2007-03-05 17:17:49 · 10 answers · asked by weeping eyes 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I pretty sure it varies everywhere but all you really need is a license then to get married by a justice of the peace usually available at local city hall or courthouse and bring two witnesses.
It sounds to me that he is making excuses to getting married, I do believe you must sit down with him and ask some questions to why he thinks you need all this money before you can get married or maybe he feels bad because he is with a woman that makes more money then him and is embarassed. You can always elope as well to save money. Or what my wife and I did was just invited very close friends and family intimate wedding and reception around 50-60 people. Also remember getting married in the summer is very expensive especially if you are in a tourist destination spring and fall weddings can also save money. You don't need alot of money if you both want marriage
it will work itself out. Be honest with him and let him know alot of men do not make as much as there spouses and even some guys stay at home and are Mr.mom because the wife has a better paying job. What does it really matter where or who makes the money getting married is for love and devotion to the person in your life period money should not be an issue. When I got married and when most people do parents tend to help out with money as well so he is not winning this battle with you because he has nothing to fight with. Money not an issue you love him/Does he love you as much?
Remember marriage is great if both of the people involved jump into marriage happy but if one may feel pressured to commitment it could lead to unhappy relationship then divorce
make sure your man is ready to commit to you.
BIG QUESTION WHY IS HE MAKING EXCUSES?
2007-03-05 17:49:24 · answer #1 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, of course not. I'm sure a marriage license and a trip to city hall / justice of the peace would be extremely inexpensive... i.e., under $100.
Having a wedding--even a small wedding---can be VERY costly, however. That's obviously his concern. Maybe you two should decide if the cost of a wedding is TRULY why he is not ready to get married or whether there are other unspoken reasons. Alternatively, if you suggest going to the justice of the peace (or whatever) and he's cool with that because it's cheap, well... there you go!
Good luck!
2007-03-06 01:24:22 · answer #2 · answered by Amy K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Weeping eyes, he sounds like he's got cold feet and doesn't want to commit. Try this, take him to your local courthouse and get a marriage license and then next door to the chapel where a Justice of the Peace or County Clerk will perform a very simple marriage ceremony in about ten minutes, then present the two of you with a marriage certificate. The whole thing should cost less than $100. Take his and your parents along for witnesses and have a great time afterward. If he refuses your proposal, then maybe it's time you moved-on to someone who will make a lifetime commitment to you?
2007-03-06 01:29:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No you do not have to be rich to get married. All you need to do is get your marriage liscense and get married by a justice of the peace in a park or on a beach or something. If you really want to get married, it can be done for less than $200.
2007-03-06 01:29:59 · answer #4 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some guys won't be ready to get married until they're a certain age, have a certain education level, or have a certain amount of money in the bank. if this guy's worth waiting for, congrats! if not, find someone more mature. good luck!
2007-03-06 01:35:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
rich,,,well if you think you al ready their,,, for if you find you soul mate, you got something money can not buy,,,,, now it take more than money to live, it take you both pulling together,,,,when i married my wife , ,, i was flat broke,, an had to borrol the money to pay the preacher,lol ,,,but you know, even tho it was hare, we made it, an now , we own out house, an still move on, so no you dont got to be rich, just in love an will, to pull you half
2007-03-06 09:41:00 · answer #6 · answered by ghostwalker077 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you do not need to be rich to get married..
If you can support yourselves, you have enough money..
2007-03-06 01:38:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope.
2007-03-06 01:22:44 · answer #8 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is just bieng honest and knows he can't take care of you, or he doesn't want to marry you, just look at it for what it is.
2007-03-06 01:22:04 · answer #9 · answered by Sxoxo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes 25 bucks where I live ....
2007-03-06 01:21:35 · answer #10 · answered by billtucker67 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋