could i be depressed? i had my baby 2 weeks ago..........?

Question

i haven't been getting along with my baby's father at all. i moved home with my mom to have my baby and moved back to my apartment because I just wanted to be alone and my family doesn't help me clean up around the house. my mom wants me to come home because she says I don't need to be by myself because of depression...so now it's just me and my baby at the apartment. Her father doesn't respect me at all.me and her father have officially ended everything today and I feel everything is just going wrong. I never thought that I would be in a situation like this...I'm 22, not married with a child, sitting out from school, don't get along with her dad, everything just seems to be going downhill. my baby has his last name and now I REALLY want to get it changed.......I try to ask him why does he treat me so bad when we have so much to be thankful for. we have a 2 week old baby girl who is perfectly healthy...he curses around her and disrespects me.

Answer 1

you don't sound depressed. You sound stressed. You can get anti depressents to help you through the stress, but you seem to word things very clearly and are very aware. Sounds to me like you mom is TELLING you that you are depressed so that you will live with her. She may believe it even, but that doesnt' make it true. Good thing you left the ex, you can do better and your daughter doesnt' need that tension and anger and energy around her. The whole energy will upset her. You are stressed and if you want, you can do it on your own. I did it by myself with no child support at 24. I moved in with my mom for a short time and decided to do it on my own. Good luck and enjoy your little one

Answer 2

#1 -- Talk to your doctor about your feelings. You might need medication for depression or your doctor might be able to help with some of the issues you are dealing with.

#2 -- Talk with the county registrar or who ever does birth certificates where you are and see what it would take to get the name changed -- do it right away. Some places you can make changes easily if you do it real quick. Other places it's more work, but it still can be done.

If everything is that bad with her dad, you don't need to be hearing and seeing his name for the next 20 years!!!

#3 -- You aren't "sitting out" life. You have a different kind of life and one that is really special. There are a lot of us who could never have children. Be really happy you have this special gift and do everything you can to be happy and to help her be "all that she can be." Preferably without going into the army and getting shot at.

#4 -- If you like your Mom and you think she would be good for your baby, move back with her. Raising a kid is hard work, she has experience, and the baby needs all the loving she can get.

#5 -- If he doesn't treat BOTH you and your child with respect, stay really far away from him. You don't need that. And she doesn't have the experience and defenses to stand up to that kind of abuse. Protect her! Don't let him make her think poorly of herself. He doesn't have that right, just because he's her biological father. And don't let him make you think poorly of yourself, either.

Answer 3

You need to contact a women's "crisis center" get some good counseling and be around some non judgmental female support! Women who have been in your position. They will help you get your balance back so you can enjoy this time with your baby, they are not little for very long! You have been given an "instant grow up dictate" tell your boyfriend if he can't "rise" to the responsibility of the child he was so quick to cause to come into this world, he should do you and the child a favor and drag down someone Else's self confidence! You don't need it and your darling baby girl does not need to wittiness you being treated like that so that she chooses the same type of male when she grows up!! So if he does not stop cursing and straighten up, lose him. Good luck!

Answer 4

Cursing around the 2 week old baby is not bothering her. Do you know about post partum depression? That is a kind of depression that strikes after you had a baby. However, your life seems hard right now so you really have a reason to be depressed. I think you should call the Dr who delivered your babe and talk to him about getting on something for depression at least till some of the problems with the daddy smooth out. Good Luck and God Bless

Answer 5

You probably have the baby blues but it does not sound like your boyfriend is helping at all. I think if you can get along with your mom then go to her house for a few weeks but do not let her try to take over as the mommy to your baby. If you are feeling that you are depressed then get to the doctor but I have a feeling that you just need a bit more emotional support from those around you.
This is all new for you and it is not easy but it will get easier and you have that baby to love so take it one day at a time.
If you feel your depression is making you not function as you should after a bit, see the doctor. Good luck and you will get through this.
Avoid the boyfriend. He is a jerk!

Answer 6

Sweetheart, You need family, or at least someone who you trust and can help you with the baby- it is SO HARD with a newborn. If you don't get on with baby-daddy, stay away from him- your and baby's safety are very important. Many girls have baby before they're "ready"- one of my girlfriends fell pregnant at 17, had to drop of senior high, she got post-natal and then broke up with her boyfriend; his parents then tried to get custody of the baby....... You CAN get thru this! She is 24 now, has her own house, a degree in teaching, and the sweetest little 6 yr old! If you've got some good friends- use them; ask for their help, join a new mothers group- sounds corny, but it really helps. I'm married and preg with #2, so I know how crummy everything feels after no sleep and inconsolable baby. Your family may be a pain, but they're family, and believe me, you need them- you may need to tactfully ask them to do certain jobs for you, to be helpful. Don't change the baby's name- she does have a right to know her dad, even tho she's tiny; if you've lost touch in a few years, then give her your name. But depression is something you need to talk to your doc about- post-natal depression is VERY common.

Answer 7

You aren't being self-centered at all. Don't listen to that crap. I'm 24 and a single mom, it happens.

Yes, you might have the baby blues, but your hormones are still jacked from being pregnant and giving birth, and it sounds like you've got a ton of stuff going on in your life. Though it is depressing, it might be easier to move home. I had to do it, and yes, sometimes its stressful, but at least there's a roof over my head. If your mom is asking you to come home, clearly she wants to help.

Call the hospital you delivered and ask for the birth certificate office. Ask if there's anything you can do to get the name changed.

Congrats on baby!

Answer 8

You now what maybe he thinks that this baby is not his and he is treating you that way just tell him you want a DNA test to prove him that he is the father of your 2 week old daughter, if he does not want to step up to the plate then you move on and take care of your daughter, do not be depressed because you have a beautiful baby girl to take care of. just make sure you go back and finish school it is very important that you accumplish that in life... also make sure when you do go back to school do not leave your baby with anybody that you do not trust....just ask people that you do trust if it is ok with them if they can watch your baby for a while intill you go to school and come back.. that way they will think that you are going for your future and you want to take good care of your daughter finacly and keep a good bound with your baby because that is all you got is your daughter good luck to you and your baby...

Answer 9

There are a couple of things that you need to take care of. 1) Get to your dr asap, and see about getting on an anti-depressant or something good to help you cope. I hope you are not breastfeeding if you go on a med. 2) Get ahold of an attorney asap, and get your baby's name changed to your last name. And, while you are at it, see if you can get legal documentation to show you have full physical legal custody of your child. This will help for in case in the future. Child support, etc.Also, even for just a little while, if you feel like it would help you, please at least think about living with your mom, if she would be of help. If not, stay in your apt. I wish you and your baby the best. Take care.

Answer 10

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