We also have a child together that 1yrs old and I have been talking more about marriage lately and everytime I talk about it he jokes about how he's not gonna marry me and just laugh it off and Im confused on if he just doesnt want to marry me at all. I'm doing everything that a woman is supposed to do in a realtionship I dont see why he has not made a move yet what could be stopping him?
2007-03-05 16:43:45 · 7 answers · asked by mscash00 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Honestly, you did the whole thing backwards. You had a child and you do everything that a wife would do, yet there's still no ring on your finger. And, what incentive does he have to put one on your finger when you already do everything that he needs and wants you to?
You could ask him directly why he laughs it off when you are serious. Ask him for an truthful answer.
Good luck.
2007-03-05 16:57:27 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to tell him that it is time for a serious talk about your future together. You have been together 3 years, and you have a child. The next logical step is marriage, but if he doesn't want to get married then you can't really force him. Besides, do you really want to be married to someone who doesn't want to marry you?
If he doesn't want to be seriously committed to you, then maybe it is time to move on. Personally, I would just get out of the relationship if he wasn't ready to commit to marriage after a child and 3 years of dating. It is up to you, though.
2007-03-06 00:57:36 · answer #2 · answered by iloveeeyore 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The hard truth is that he now has no reason to marry you because you have had his child out-of-wedlock while living with him. He has the best of both worlds.
If you want a man to marry you, find a decent man who wants to be a father and husband. It will probably end eventually and you will have custody of the child. I suggest focusing on being a good single mother and not worrying about his contribution unless he is actually serious, willing to pay child support and making regular visits.
2007-03-06 00:55:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Face it, you have already blown any chance to get this guy to marry you. All of the things you could have withheld to negotiate the relationship have been given away. You have no bargaining chips left.
Stop trying to get him to marry you. You've made your nest. If he's faithful, provides for you, and is a good father, you've probably got it about as good as it is ever going to get. Can you be happy with that? If not, I suggest that you learn how.
2007-03-06 01:01:19 · answer #4 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You meed to clarify what he means.....
He could very well mean that he's not the marrying type, which doesnt mean that he is any less devoted to you......
He could mean that he doesn't want to marry you.....
Or finally he could mean that he is planning on it sometime soon and is waiting for you to stop talking about it so you will be surprised when he finally asks...
You know your relationship better than anyone...... Talk to him, ask him his feeling on the matter and hopefully you get an answer that makes sense.
Good luck
2007-03-06 00:54:43 · answer #5 · answered by kimison_au 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would talk to him and find out what does he mean about what
he was saying, there a reason that he said what he did. if you
are looking for marriage then time to make it clear to him that
what you are looking for, he may not feel the same about it.
2007-03-06 01:07:39 · answer #6 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not gonna marry you. Move on.
2007-03-06 01:00:03 · answer #7 · answered by Atheist Eye Candy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋