Tips on staying postive in a negative world?

Question

The spring semester started about a month ago, it started out really tough for me. I was getting kicked out of my parents house (we are ok now, but I still had to move out, a mutual agreement), my labtop crashed, had to find/buy a car, get my loan signed, etc.etc. So anyway, heres my story. I was under a lot of stress in the beginning of the semester and as much as I tried to put on a mask (happy face) in front of my college peers, I couldn't help but show it. I finally begin to realize that a lot of people were feeding off of my sadness like a parasite. Has this happened to you before? They saw it as a opportune time to bully me pyschologically (as girls do all the time; catty). The girls were throwing mean remarks to me indirectly and I noticed a lot of nonverbal communications (body language) from them showing a sign of disrespect (i.e. blocking me from a circle by standing right in front of me while I'm speaking).

Well, I have to see these people for the next 2.5 yrs because I'm in the nursing program. Girls are evil man! Plus, I've moved out recently and been having the blues...I know this is normal but I want it to go away. I joined a club at school and joined a church in the hopes to surround myself around positive people. There are good people out there, but most girls my age (early 20s; i'm 23) are very insecure...and they feed off of other people's shortcomings. I'm not denying my insecurities, but I would never get a kick out of another person's sadness. There are just obvious signs that my classmates do not like me at all. Why do I care? I don't care much anymore like I used to but it bothers me because I have to see them so often.

Answer 1

...Having insight doesn't always help a situation suck less :-)! Hang in there! You are a fantastic woman and you will realize your dreams.

It is important to try to find other sources of support so you don't get burned out, so take a few social risks to do so...

There are lots of great tips for dealing with people who don't always deal in positivity - my favorite is to send them all love. Can't go wrong there, trust me on that! It'll come back to you.

I have been in a similar situation. This book really helped me (and I don't suggest books lightly):

http://www.amazon.com/Four-Agreements-Practical-Personal-Freedom/dp/1878424505/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1/103-0612996-1733443?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1173160147&sr=8-1

At least consider reading about the four agreements on the internet. It changed my life anyhow.

If you are really struggling, consider seeking counseling. Many schools and communities offer free or reduced fee services if money is a problem. If worst comes to worst, you can (and should) ask local practitioners for a referral to a free or reduced cost service. You'll get help finding someone right for you pretty quick with that approach.

Stay strong, concentrate on celebrating your power and inner light (and not the power of those around you)!

I'll add you to my prayers for the night :-).

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I just wanted to add (using copy and paste) a breif description of the four agreements (taken from a review on Amazon.com):

Be Impeccable With Your Word: Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

Don't Take Anything Personally: Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.

Don't Make Assumptions: Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

Always Do Your Best: Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.

Answer 2

Everybody in this world gotta go through the same shet that u gotta go through. Even me. You gotta keep ur head straight always. To tell u the truth, people who are around u are not ur real loyal firends. B'cos they suppose to give a hand when ur down in ur case they kick u when ur down.

Don't listen to what other students say what's good what's not. Make ur Own decisin. Remember this: ( Make ur choices or else the choices will make u).

Do what u think is good. If u cannot cope up go for counciling. To let all ya stress out. One more thing start working alone in the gym without any friends; to get ur stress level down. Trust me It works.
One more thing just keep on going; Don't give up!! And try to stay away from the people who doesn,t give a shet about u. Stick wit da people who cares about u & give u a hand when u are down.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

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Answer 5

They are not true friends, you dont need them. You will find friends that are there for you. Dont worry. Focus on yourself and what you can do to better yourself. You will be rewarded.