okay again this is dealing with my engagement ending I been to counsolers I do take medicines for my depression when the break up happened i did everything possible everything i could think of to get him to stay i would call try to send txt message talk to his granny his sister any one of his family members i just couldn't leave this poor guy alone i just lost it when he said consider it broke he was meaning our relationship it has been about a month maybe two months since i last seen him before that i hadn't seen him since august i really miss him i tried the hole thing like i moved on what ever i don't know if he bought it though or not i tried showing him how stronger emotionally i was now i really miss him alot i'm trying to give enough information so you can help me with my question but i don't know what else to add
2007-03-05 16:35:21 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You don't need counselors or medicationsl you need to get a grip on reality and let time do its healing, and the medicine is just going to impair any learning potential from this expierience.
When somebody breaks up with you, you can't get them back, and you don't want them back. Period. No second chances after somebody calls it quits. Your ego got bruised, and you humiliated yourself in an attempt to contol him, and the only person you can control is YOU.
It's over. You're just going to have to cope. It isn't anything that hundreds of millions of people don't deal with every year. Over time, things will get better, so you just have to concentrate on holding your own life together (self-control again) until that happens.
You are supposed to be learning about self-control and how to recognize a good partner from this experience.
People rarely learn from their successes, but failure can be an excellent teacher if you make the most of this experience. The trick is not to make a habbit out of failing exactly the same way over and over.
You don't need anybody else in a romantic relationship to be happy. In fact, it's easier to be happy alone than it is when you are paired up with the wrong partner (probably because you've got your own things to work on). When you get back to being happy being alone, you'll be stronger and hopefully wiser.
2007-03-05 16:57:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
bad things happen to us, its our perception that causes the pain. if he has told u it is over u need to accept that, and give up on it. theres no way we can change people's minds, or try to change their minds, even if we do all the right things, make changes to get them back, it may not work, because maybe it had nothing at all to do with us in the first place, maybe it wasn't our fault. maybe he is the one with the problem, when life gets us down, u need god in your life. doesn't mean god will bring this person back into your life, just means u will be able to deal with the circumstances better. best to give it time, give him space, you really do need to move on, you can choose to stay in the pain, and wait on him to change his mind, or you can see it another way, that perhaps this man was not the right man for u anyway.
2007-03-06 07:47:00 · answer #2 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on soul sister..really quick..............MOVE. I had this man who lied to me that I was literally heartbroken for a few months I was so sad..because he lied and he was "my world" and now I am so angry about him lying..because we were adults...I avoid him totally. I no longer miss him. Honey, you are obsessed..leave him go.....avoid his hangouts..believe me he isn't giving you the time of day....you were hurt and it does something to you....who cares if you are depressed you deserve care and kindness. Get busy and make new friends or pick up a little side job.
2007-03-06 00:46:38 · answer #3 · answered by AlphaFeGreatWhite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so - you cannot push yourself to be better and a stronger person it takes time and will happen when you least expect it.
I would move on find yourself and then find a new man
2007-03-06 00:49:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put it to him just like you put it to this forum. His reply is your final answer. I don't think he's coming back, though, because it has been a while since you were together. I hope I'm wrong. Good luck...
2007-03-06 00:42:03 · answer #5 · answered by ardy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hasn't come back by now, he isn't going to.
He has told you it is over.
He made it clear he doesn't want you.
You will have to accept it and find someone else.
2007-03-06 00:46:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have to find yourself and then him!
what you got is a need to be needed and thats not good for either of you right now.
2007-03-06 00:40:43 · answer #7 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some new friend's find someone stay away from him he don't want you get the picture
2007-03-06 00:52:37 · answer #8 · answered by Alice S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU WERE TO BE MARRIED RIGHT I DON'T KNOW WHAT HAPPENED BUT IF YOU LOVE HIM GO GET HIM BACK IF YOU HAVEN'T THOUGHT OF SOMETHING YOU WILL AS I DON'T KNOW HIM GO FACE HIM AND TELL HIM POOR YOUR HEART OUT TO HIM TELL HIM YOUR MY NIGHT AND SHINNING ARMOUR ILOVE YOU DON'T YOU KNOW THAT I DON'T KNOW IF I CAN LIVE WITH OUT YOU I LOVE YOU SO MUCH
2007-03-06 00:54:16 · answer #9 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋