Why do women get involved with men that are taken?(married or dating)?

Question

It hurts people and degrades yourself. Why do it? Why let your feelings get the best of you? Why let yourself fall for a taken man?

I'd also like answers from the other woman. And by almost personal experience I know you can control your feelings because I've controled mine. I knew it was wrong and stopped before it got in too deep.

I know that it goes both ways but I want to know why women do it.

Answer 1

It's not so much the man that the women want; it's the relationship that they see the other woman having with that man. Sure, they feel attraction to that particular man, but they also see that he and his partner are having(at least until the trouble starts) what appears to be a good relationship. Wanting that relationship, they decide they want that man and pursue him in hopes of having that relationship for themselves. It's irrational, but that's how it is. And, it's only later that they painfully realize: "Once a cheater, always a cheater." This, of course, is after some woman decides she wants the relationship with that man badly enough to do to that woman what she did to the first woman.

Answer 2

why does men fall for taken women it's 2 sided and it works both ways. why you might think it degrades them but thats your opinion and you have that right to that. there is a number of reasons and everyone may be different or the same. some need the attention that they aint getting from there husband or boyfriend, they could have a open marriage, there partner doing the same and just getting back. don't have the money to get a divorce. so ther is number of this and it could go on. some people don't ever plan on anything happening it just happens. yes it may hurt people but it's a part of life. most of the time people wouldn't have to worry about it if they give there partner what they need and happy. then they wouldnt go else where. everyone will same something differnet. i my self don't agree with it. but it's none of my business what others do and no need to judge them for doing something you may not think is right. and it's not my job to tell ther partner about it. every dog has their day and they will get caught. never sweat the smallers things in life. you can hurt someone by saying something to someone. so thats reasons.

Answer 3

The thrill of the chase perhaps? Most likely though a woman that stoops to hooking up with a married man is compensating for what's lacking in the self esteem department. The "oh I can take him from her" syndrome.....makes them feel better for the moment. This doesn't apply to women that are fooled into thinking the man is single when he's not.....that is all on him.

Answer 4

My wife says that it may have something to do with pretending to "play house". Here's this married guy who is secure, has a job, provides a nice home, knows how to treat a woman with respect - it's like an instant dream come true. Except for the wife. And, the kids. But, the attraction is so overwhelming that the woman finds ways to justify and diminish the importance of those two factors in her twisted mind. Now, if the guy starts to confide in her how unhappy he is and how he is ignored and taken for granted, she has a fertile ground for her little escapade.

At least, that's what my wife says. Me? I haven't got a clue. Who knows the mind of a scheming woman....except another scheming woman?

Answer 5

Sometimes it's the chase. Some women would rather be with someone who they know is already with someone because it saves them from the hurt of being cheated on later. Some women feel that this may be someone who is ment for them, and they don't want to let them, "get away" There are lots of reasons. Who is to say if any of them is right?

Answer 6

they do it to live the life his wife is living, she sees he is in a long term relationship, where most of her other loves have disappointed her, so she sees this man who is basically a good man, she sees his home, what his wife has, and wants it. she persues him with a vengeance just to see if she can get him to leave the wife. she may have no self worth, no morals, no character, unable to control her impulses, and has no sense of right and wrong, at least this is how i perceived the woman who broke my marriage up. she was not happy in her relationship, and we had a few problems, so she took advantage of it and seduced him, and he went for it. she was just a woman who had nothing in life, and thought she was going to be living in my house, but she got fooled. they really don't care if the man is taken or not, if he suits her fancy she will per sue him with the least bit of attention. its often times about competition and just wants to see if she still has what it takes to get any man she wants.

Answer 7

Because it's natural to do so. You weren't expecting that, were you? But it's true. You want this guy because he already demonstrated virility. After all, he has one woman already, doesn't he? It's the same thing about tapping into a woman's maternal instincts. I know a woman whose brothers would come by on weekends to take her kids out to the Dairy Queen in order to snag dates. It worked, and it worked well. Unless you admit that you have this weakness, you're a slave to it.

Answer 8

There is little to no guarantee that a man outside of a marriage or relationship will be willing to commit to the level that a lot of women desire. So someone who has committed is more appealing because they have that quality that women are looking for.

I know my fiance went through a time that she desired that commitment from me more than I was willing to give it, but now that that commitment is there, it is a quality she loves in me.

Ultimately commitment is a very attractive quality in anyone so we have a tendency to draw towards them.

Answer 9

Forbidden Fruit.
For some reason some women find men that are taken more attractive, and like the fact of having to work for it rather than taking someone who is available.

Answer 10

From a man who has been in this situation before, I was married and my wife was out of town attending to her ill mother, when I innocently asked this 19y/o girl if she could house sit and to take care of our dogs for a weekend, while I attended a business conference in Las Vegas. I was 37 at the time and when I came back, she had made me dinner, done all of my laundry, vacuumed the floors, bathed my dogs, and was sleeping in my bed. I asked her about this, she said that she wanted to move in with me and that she thought she could love me more than my wife ever could.