I need a serious answer please!!! about men.?

Question

Ok my friend came up to me the other day, she told me that her boyfriend had asked her to finger his ass and to make him happy she did it. and he enjoyed it. alot. ok she came up and asked me if this is normal. he said to her dont think he is gay for asking her to do it and he is a real bloke bloke so i wouldnt of thought he was but she asked me if it is normal for a guy to like it and i didnt know what to tell her. does anyone have any knowledge of this please help she is really stressed out and i dont no what to say to her.

I forgot to tell u all that she was on her period so sex was out of the question she refuses to do ti when she is bleeding. don't know why???

Answer 1

There are nerve endings in that area which can produce a pleasant stimulating response in people, which is the reason why it feels good to have a bowel movement. From a strictly psychological point of view, the boyfriends pleasure response and desire is normal. There are plenty of folks, gay and straight, who find it stimulating. That said, it isn't pleasant for your friend and isn't something she enjoys doing for the bf, and that is okay too. No, it doesn't mean he's gay. All it means is this is a practice she is not comfortable with and would prefer not to repeat. That is a matter for her to take up with the bf. She should not feel pressured to do anything she doesn't enjoy or which makes her feel uncomfortable, and he needs to know this is one of those things. From there they can discuss what they need to do about it. There are other ways to stimulate pleasure in lovemaking than this, and perhaps they should explore them. If this is something really important to the bf, though, then they should also come to that understanding. She can then decide if she wants this relationship to continue or not. Perhaps the bf simply wanted to try something new, to spice things up. Perhaps it's something he already knew he liked and wondered if she might as well. But she won't know unless she asks the question and they have the discussion. You can reassure your friend that this doesn't make him gay or abnormal, and her reaction is neither normal nor abnormal. It's her feeling and she's entitled to it. Urge her to have a heart to heart discussion with the bf about this, adult to adult, and without blame or shame. If they can get that intimate in bed, they should be able to handle the conversation about it.

Answer 2

No one ever gets to know you like your spouse. Most guys wouldn't like something like that, or at least I wouldn't. But everyone has a little freak in em. If she can handle it, and he likes it, I say good for them. I admire the guy for having the guts to ask her. What an awkward situation that would have been. Anyway, to his defense I hear it's quite pleasurable and the prostate is the male equivalent of the g-spot.

Answer 3

Little secret: no person cheats with the help of twist of destiny. each and all of the cheaters i've got prevalent we are those with a calming now, consequences later mentality. i won't be able to think of myself cheating, as a results of fact i think in verbal substitute too plenty and if it had gotten to the component the place I felt I had to look someplace else, i could be extra possibly to easily go away the different individual. yet to me, the litmus try could be whether a individual is prepared to bypass to marriage counseling. that should show a actual dedication to creating issues paintings and a willingness to work out substitute ensue to make the relationship paintings. maximum cheaters are additionally very speedy to get teary-eyed, to swear it replaced into an twist of destiny and to vow, promise and promise, yet without concrete action in the direction of the relationship, that's in simple terms a music and dance.

Answer 4

If he was gay, he would of asked for a cucumber. Tell her to stop freaking out! Women expect us to be freakin gumby with them. Why do you think he's gay for asking for a little extra stimulation. Lots of men like it.

Answer 5

You haven't detailed what she is so stressed about but if he were gay, he would likely have his boyfriend sorting out his pleasure spots.

Anyway, he may have been deeply interested in hearing her invitation to return the favour.... so you should advise your friend to open her mind... as they say.. and her butt will follow.

Answer 6

Just because he likes his rear end messed with does not automatically mean that he's gay. Men have prostates and when they are touched during arousal, the men have extreme pleasure. Most men enjoy this type "play." If she's that uncomfortable though, maybe she needs to just talk to him about it.

Answer 7

Honestly, I have known a few guys who have loved this stuff. Some guys like it and are just afraid to admit it. (per my x-beau) So know I dont think he is a gay-boy. Just have fun!

Answer 8

while doing this she was stimulating his prostate gland. stimulating the prostate gland causes pleasurable sexual stimulation in most males so it doesn't necessarily mean that he is gay. not all men care to participate in this type stimulation. it's not something i would personally like to try but some straight men do.

Answer 9

pretty much what these people said...
and she doesnt want sex went shes bleeding b/c thats when your most likely to become pregnant.thats when the egg comes out.

Answer 10

nothing much to worry.. most of the guys wont like such.. and to say, sex is just a play right !!! he might have enjoyed it in that manner.