DO I have to pay?

Question

If I marry my fiance will I ahve to help pay support for his child from another woman...if this is the case I won't marry him b/c I did not concieve this child and have my own so my money should go to her not some other womans kid.

Look, he doesn't think I am shallow, we don't even get to see her...but maybe once every 6 months. I would be willing to buy he clothes and all of her needs while she is at my home, but i dont feel i should have to give up my money so she can take trips and buy clothes for herslef which is what she does with his money now because we saw her once and she told us she wears her mothers hand me downs and shes always alone...we'd like custody..id b willing to pay fro her if she lived with us...but i am not financing someone elses fun. It's not that I wouldn't take care of her just not when shes not with me...if shes with me I know my money is going towars things for her...got it

Answer 1

No, you won't have to pay...but in a round-about way you will be paying. If both your income goes into a common pot, then the bills get paid out of the pot. If something comes up and he has to spend a little of his money on something, then the bills still have to be paid out of that common pot...meaning you'll be fronting the cash for the support.

Oh, and as far as tax return go...you can file and "injured spouse" form so that they won't take your return. However, if he owes back child support, the state can take ALL of the state return and the feds will take 1/2 of the return. So, you kind of get the short end of the stick.

Answer 2

Understand that when you get married you become equal partners in everything. Let's look at some things. If he had a house with another wife and after divorce he kept the house. When you marry him, your name is put on the home title. Now half the house is yours. Is that fair since more than likely part of that house was hers to begin with? If you had a car loan before marriage and when you got married your husband starts picking up the payment, is that right since you had the debt before he met you? Child support is a legal debt that he owes - nothing more nothing less! If you really want to split hairs here you will find that you are wrong here. Your debts are his debts and his debts are yours. Your money is his money and his money is your money. If you love someone and marry them there is no his and hers anymore it all becomes ours. If you don't agree with that then you are just two people living together that only share a name. You have to take the bad with the good. That's why you say I take thee for better or worse. If you don't believe in the vows then don't take them just continue dating.

Answer 3

On the surface, it is his problem not yours. But if you go deeper, your own finance is dragged into it. And it somewhat depends on whether you make about the same income or one is much more than the other.

Obviously, his commitment to child support will take away his contribution to the household. As the child grows up, the expenses increase. So who will pick up the snag? And if you have children later, you will feel somehow that your children are not getting the resources they deserve.

So as soon as his income increases, the other side asks for more and legitimately so. This will go on until the child reaches 18 and depends on if the father wants to help finance the child's college education.

And that hasn't touched on how you want to spend the money you earn if his income is always stretched.

Money is not everything but it is always the reason couples have problems because of lack of it.

Answer 4

This is one of those things that sucks. You will not directly pay child support BUT your income will be included when he fills out his CS calculations. Basically, when he lists his living expenses, your income will factor into mitigating those expenses and the court will assess that he has more disposable income to send to her.

Every state is different but there are federal guidelines. Go to Findlaw.com and look up child support guidelines for your state. You will be able to download the actual worksheet and figure out what he/you will be paying. Generally, 1 kid equals 17% of his salary, 2 kids = 25% and 3+ kids = 32% of his after tax income.

You will have to look up your state's laws (or more precisely the laws of the state where the divorce took place). I don't know if your income will really make a big difference. Download the worksheet and do the math.

Answer 5

When you have a "blended family" ALL children should be treated the SAME.....you are going to base if you marry him or not on $$$$$? Can anyone else say shallow?
They are also HIS Children......package deal my dear.

Your statement "I did not conceive this child and have my own so my money should go to her not some other woman's kid" is what made me say "shallow" Now....if what you have put in your additional statement is true....then I think what you should do is just buy things for his child INSTEAD of giving his Ex cash....that way you know its going to the right place.

Answer 6

It’s not just ‘some other womans kid’. It’s your fiance’s kid too. And, frankly, your attitude in regard to that sounds pretty crappy (just my personal opinion). Maybe you might want to reconsider ever marrying any man who has children.

Would you be legally required to provide child support? No. Would the fact that he is required to provide child support affect you? Of course. For one thing, it’ll mean less money for your household. For another thing, if he doesn’t pay it, then that can affect you as well (ie liens on your joint property, etc).

Answer 7

there is no need for a pre-nup...you will not be responsible for his child support payments, when its time for you all to file taxes together, you would just fill out an application called injured spouse, this form pardons you from any "before marriage" financial responsibilities, that way your money isnt touched. it sounds like you have a little animosity about his situation, remember that when you marry him, you take on his baggage so if you are going to marry him, love him enough to deal with it

Answer 8

I believe the child support payments will be based on his income, not yours.
He should already have a set amount he's paying right now, that will not increase once you two are married.

Answer 9

Indirectly you will pay, either in time lost in seeing the child, losing your husband to crisis involving the child. You are committing to 18 years of step parenting and if you are not involved with this and you do not develop a healthy relationship with this child, you are doomed and out of the picture. consider this a reality check.

Answer 10

The only person who has to pay is him, it is his child not yours so you do not have to pay it and they cannot take your income into consideration when the figure how much support he has to pay. If the two of you have a joint account, then technically, yes you are helping to pay his child support.