If I marry my fiance will I ahve to help pay support for his child from another woman...if this is the case I won't marry him b/c I did not concieve this child and have my own so my money should go to her not some other womans kid.
2007-03-05 15:56:17 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Look, he doesn't think I am shallow, we don't even get to see her...but maybe once every 6 months. I would be willing to buy he clothes and all of her needs while she is at my home, but i dont feel i should have to give up my money so she can take trips and buy clothes for herslef which is what she does with his money now because we saw her once and she told us she wears her mothers hand me downs and shes always alone...we'd like custody..id b willing to pay fro her if she lived with us...but i am not financing someone elses fun. It's not that I wouldn't take care of her just not when shes not with me...if shes with me I know my money is going towars things for her...got it
2007-03-05 16:27:11 · update #1
I don't think you should have to pay anything because it is not your responsibility nor your own child. I believe that your fiance should be the only one paying for that child since he is the one who helped conceive the child and it wasn't yours so you should have to help pay save your money for your own expenses, and make sure you bring the topic to your fiance attention so that he knows where exactly you stand in this situation -K- Good Luck!
2007-03-05 16:10:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He pays child support not you. But if you marry him the income given to his first child will have some residual effect on your family income. Best bet is to go to a financial planer and see where your finances are and if you can merge the incomes.
The sad thing is your attitude about his responsibility to support a child from a previous relationship. It indicates a lack of maturity on your part and a selfish attitude that will probably kill the relationship unless you get counseling!
2007-03-06 00:04:05 · answer #2 · answered by Roll_Tide! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't have to pay child support...they aren't your children. However, most states will allow your income to be considered when setting how much HE pays in child support.
Support is based on the income and expenses of each parent as well as how much time each parent has custody. Your boyfriend's attorney should be able to give you some idea how much the support order might change if you married him.
2007-03-06 00:01:49 · answer #3 · answered by Carl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until after he gets a final judgment for child support to marry him. They Will not be able to take your income, but it Will be considered. After the final judgment it can not be amended for two year in most States. So regardless to how much comes into the house hold the law says it cannot be amended. Then maybe the mother will leave it as is.
2007-03-06 01:31:32 · answer #4 · answered by Toolegit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know your jurisdiction, but I would guess that--while you are not responsible for this child--once you marry him your property and obligations will be community property and community debt. Thus you would share his obligations.
You can probably sign an agreement that will have the effect of removing you from lifetime responsibility for his child support.
You should really discuss all of this with an attorney who is well-versed in laws affecting community property in your state.
2007-03-06 00:17:21 · answer #5 · answered by Warren D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not technically financially responsible. Hopefully, though, you will all begin to feel like family and you will enjoy treating this child like your own.
2007-03-06 00:05:03 · answer #6 · answered by heathermagoo13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋