Please help an expecting father?

Question

I am recently re-employed and have a baby coming April 11, 2007. I have a job that is commissioned and I need to know if there is someone that can assist me. I want to fly back to Iowa where the baby's mother lives. I want to be a part of this baby's life and don't have the monies to purchase a ticket when this baby comes. I can't take off more than a few days from work and am unable to predict when this baby is going to be born. I want to be there for the paternity test and the birth. I want to have no regrets if this is my responsibility. I have to act fast, if I hadn't lost my job a week ago then I would have been okay but I have rents due and started a new job today. Please, if anyone can help it would be greatly appreciated. I am a father that is trying to take care of what is mine. I have straightened out my life since I heard I had a child on the way. I am needing to fly out from Phoenix, Arizona to Waterloo, IA. Please advise!

First off, thanks everyone for your advice. This is a very true and sad story. I have a mother that lives in Phoenix with cancer, possible terminal (we'll find out Wednesday March 8) and her mother moved back to Iowa to go through chemotherapy also for cancer. The mother is not happy that I didn't get my life together before they had to move however I moved as quickly as I possibly could. I landed a great job and have a future here. I want the mother to come back here. She has two boys currently and yes I have gotten myself in a fix. I still love her and want to try to have something in the future but I know in my heart that if her mother comes back to AZ then she will follow. I speak with her sister who also lives here. The family wants me to be there for the child, the mother has mixed emotions because she feels I abandoned her. I don't want charity..I will work for what I have to get. I am merely trying to resolve this so I can have this child in my life someday.

Answer 1

It is pretty difficult to answer this as a question. It seems that you are looking for someone to buy you a ticket to go to the birth of a child which may or may not be yours. But how can anyone even verify that this is true and you aren't just looking for free round trip airfair for a golf trip or something. The 11th is on a wed. which would make a great long weekend. The second question is why did you leave a pregnate woman by herself in the first place? Were you just passing through town and accidentally knocked her up or were you in a relationship? I am just trying to understand why you left or what happened.

Now for the advice, if this is the mothers first child and she is caucasian, more than likely she will be late. There is no way to tell when a woman will go into labor. A due date is pretty much just an estimate. A baby will come when the baby is ready to come, and it could be early too. In this case, if you have a plane ticket already purchased, then you are locked into to that date. I would suggest that you wait until the last minute to purchase a ticket. US Air offers cheap last minute flights, I purchased a ticket recently, for $84 one day before I travelled.

I do think it's nice that you want to be there for the birth, but does the babies mother want you there for the delivery? It is most important that she is comfortable and not stressed during her labor. As Granny says, they don't call it labor cuz it's easy. So maybe you should talk with your babies' momma and see when the best time for you to come is.

Please post again and give the details of how you got into this situation and what your true intentions are and then one might be more apt to helping you. I wish you luck and may you have a beautiful, happy baby.

Answer 2

The only person that can make this happen is you. If it is your child and you want to be in his/her life, you need to make it happen. I agree that you should speak with your employer about taking a little time off. When is the baby due? Unless it's within the next week or so, I'd say you have plenty of time to save some money and buy a ticket....
if you can't afford a plane ticket, try the train... it may take longer, but it's cheaper.
It's your child. Nothing else is more important.

Answer 3

First of all, I would suggest that you talk with your new employer and see what (s)he says about taking the time off work. In many cases, they will work around the schedule.

Secondly, check to see which airlines connect from DesMoines to Phoenix or other major cities nearby. I checked the discount airfare tickets on the website and actually saved money by getting the tickets directly from United Airlines.

Sorry that I can't help you financially, but your best bet is to purchase the tickets ASAP to save money.

Answer 4

is there a way for her to move in with you till the baby is born at least, so you both do not need to travel back and forth, or are you able to move in with her, maybe you can transfer jobs or just find a new job completely in her area so you can be close to the child even after the baby is born.......... try southwest airlines, priceline, orbitz, travelocity, greyhound

Answer 5

You may have to wait until she goes into labor, a bus is slow and cheaper but you may miss the delivery. The delivery isn't as important as being a good father. Good Luck and God Bless.

Answer 6

first off relax i give you props for wanting to be a good father and maybe with your new job you could explain your situation and they'd give you the time off. and you could ask you family or friends with help financially. good luck and congrats

Answer 7

Why not ask your pregnant girlfriend to move to Arizona with you?

Answer 8

Just take it slow, the answer will come in time

Answer 9

Very touching. You want us to commend you for straightening out your life??

How about the vast majority who never screwed up their lives??

Good luck, but you're on your own.