its really freaking me out. he isn't touching me like where he shouldnt be but i still feel uncomftorable [like around the waist, back, shoulders]...he even called me once [idk why...it was weird] and he has a book on sex in his room [not a sex ed teacher] and he's really scaring me...i don't want to tell because he's an awesome teacher...and then there's my boyfriend...well lets say he'll go all jackie chan on his a** [he doesnt even do karate!] so what do i do? i really know i should report, but still...
2007-03-05 15:16:10 · 42 answers · asked by lauren 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
what i mean by awesome teacher is that he's really preparing me better for college...but that's it really...i really hope he isn't doing this to other girls...i don't want any rumours spreading around the school though, thats why i'm afraid to tell anyone.
2007-03-05 15:25:27 · update #1
Any time someone keeps touching you and it makes you feel uncomfortable, then you should talk to a school counselor about it or the Vice Principal/Principal just in case. It might not mean anything, but you should not have to worry about feeling uncomfortable specially in a learning environment. He might not realize that he is touching you in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable, but still he needs to be aware of what the touching might convey. If you talk to the school counselor, then he can be told to watch how he touches students and he should ease up. If he continues to do it and you have complained, then something should be done with him since he might be doing it intentionally. In any event, don't let yourself become a victim. If you feel it is wrong, then say something. Don't worry about what he thinks. If he is a good teacher, then he should know the difference between right and wrong. As far as the BF, don't tell him anything just yet. He might go off when it's not necessary. Please consider talking to the VP or a school counselor. Other girls might be having the same issue too. Take care.
2007-03-05 15:26:40 · answer #1 · answered by San Jose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that this whole situation can be really confusing. This teacher has seemed like a cool person, and since he's not touching you in very private areas, you may feel like you don't want to get him in trouble.
I have been in a situation very similar to this in the past. I was very uncomfortable around this person, but I did not tell anyone because he hadn't touched me or said anything that was out of line. All I knew was that it made me uncomfortable.
Until one day he did.
Afterwards, when I had reported it and the whole thing was said and done, I was talking to someone (an adult and superior of his) about how I had felt so uncomfortable earlier. She told me it would have been perfectly okay to come in earlier, because anything that makes you uncomfortable is not okay.
So please, talk to a counselor, a parent, or another teacher. Or any adult you trust, really. Despite what others say, I would not talk to this teacher directly, as a safety issue
I know that it will be very scary. You may even feel like it isn't worth reporting, because you haven't been touched in intimate way. But it is. If you are uncomfortable, it totally is.
Good luck and be strong.
2007-03-05 15:35:57 · answer #2 · answered by alc051001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell someone if you're sure he's being inappropriate. School is difficult enough with enough pressures, you do NOT need to be uncomfortable in the classroom, especially not due to your teacher's inappropriate actions. Trust your instincts, if he's making unwanted advances, he's NOT an awesome teacher - an awesome teacher's first priority is the well being of their student. Do not be alone with this man. In fact the best advice would be to report to a school counselor. They will listen to you and not move too hastily without gathering your facts, and they will be discreet. But they will resolve any issues there may be. Getting your boyfriend involved isn't necessary, this is an adult issue. Let them handle this guy. You're using words like "uncomfortable" and "scaring me" . . . it's time to talk to someone!
2007-03-05 15:31:26 · answer #3 · answered by Bruce S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah this doesnt sound good.. I would try and avoid him.. or when you do speak with him make sure its far enough away so that he cant touch you.. If he's doing it on purpose to be a sicko then he will notice the fact that you are avoiding him... If it happens again though I would DEFINITELY tell you parents or your councilor at school.. it IS a big deal and you are probably not the only girl he is been touching.. its NOT okay no matter how cool he is..
2007-03-05 15:20:38 · answer #4 · answered by callmecouture 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First tell him you feel uncomfortable when he touches you and you prefer he didn't. He is a teacher and should understand. Then if it doesn't stop he knows he is doing something wrong and should be reported. Stay safe , do the right thing. There is absolutely no reason he should call you. that's wrong. Talk to your guidance counselor and your mom or dad they will have a mature approach and instincts.
2007-03-05 15:20:09 · answer #5 · answered by Dulce 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to report it, maybe just tell the teacher that it makes you feel really uncomfortable when he touches you. If that doesn't do any good, you may have no other choice than to report him. Don't keep letting it go, you never know what may be going through his mind and how far he may take it.
2007-03-05 15:20:45 · answer #6 · answered by Maymie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get Jackie Chan
2007-03-05 15:19:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you feel uncomfortable with your teacher touching you, then it is completely inappropriate. He is invading your personal space and should not be crossing that line. You should politely tell him that you feel uncomfortable with him touching you in those ways, and if that doesn't work, tell your principal or parents. He may be an awesome teacher, but that doesn't give him the right to make his students uncomfortable in his presence. I'm sorry that someone is putting you in that situation!
2007-03-05 15:22:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him to stop touchin you. if he put his hands on you just pull away that should give him the idea that you dont want to be touched. but you need to be firm. dont pull away one day and the next not do anything. i would encourage you to really tell someone cuz you mite not be the only one that he is tryin this with. and them other girls mite not be as stong as you to stand up for them selves or to say something. this is really about doing the rite thing. if you choose to keep quite about this that would be really sad. its because of men like him that so many innocent young children are being violated everyday. just think if you have a younger bro or sis or cousin that you really care for. what would you do if someone was doing that to them. because when you leave he will just choose someone else. i hope you can find it in your heart to do the rite thing. good luck.
2007-03-05 15:29:41 · answer #9 · answered by azeris23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you tell your teacher what you've said to us just now -- or put it in milder terms if you don't think you can flat out give it to him. you don't have to report him to the principal if you think he's a great teacher and that idea would make you uncomfortable. but it is best for you to judge how innocent his approaches are -- you don't want an obnoxious pervert to create discomfort (or worse) for other students. if his behavior is not checked, he may very well end up somewhere that could have tragic consequences for somebody. if you don't think you could do it upfront, perhaps you could write a letter (you could always leave it in his mailbox in the teacher's office) explaining your situation. good luck.
2007-03-05 15:22:42 · answer #10 · answered by Thrasymachus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋