How do I lose my virginity?

Question

I am a 21 year old male. I feel socialy retarded. I am still a virgin. I am good looing. Ive had opportunities but I guess I was too nervous and inexperienced- how can I just get it over with?

I think the reason I am a virgin is because of the way I think. I need to get over the feelings of not being a good enough person to have sex with. The reason I am still a virgin is because at 17 I was pissed I was a virgin but I had no experience so I put it off cuz I was embarrassed I gues- Now Im 21- and in the same situation- I feel like im handicapped because Ive never had sex but I am in great shape and I think I would be great in bed even if I didnt know what I was doing If I didnt have that fear and nervousness.

Answer 1

Waiting for the right one, once you are in love for someone it will be easy to do it because in love and what you do with love can't be wrong. You aren't socially retarded, you are socially advance and responsible because you have been able to don't do it with the 1ST one you see just because the oppression of the group. Congratulations boy.

Answer 2

Man, I relate. I am 22 and in the same boat. I have had a number of opportunities to "get it over with" as you have, and I agree you do feel socially retarded, especially around people who don't know about your virgin status.

But here is the thing - You don't really want to just 'get it over with.' Yeah the idea is great, but when you think about it, the anxiety of just a hook-up, even a paid hook-up, will really crush you mentally.

My advice, is wait till your time comes. Sure you may feel like a failure socially, but on the other hand, hanging out for something that will be memorable is worth more then a quick f**k in some cheap motel isn't it.

I don't know why it is such a big deal. I blame Hollywood talking it up all the time.

Answer 3

Actually the issue is here is not losing your virginity. The instant you made love with someone automatically as a male, will lose your virginity. It is the psychological aspect of being inexperienced in bed that matters. If you love someone or have a current partner, you should know the proper approach as a guy in making love to a woman. First, if there's a courtship, going out, getting to know each other. After which you are both comfortable with each other, then making love comes next. The intimate relationship between 2 consenting adults is very much important especially if there is love. Not only will you use your virginity, but you will satisfy your self, inner and outer. Try to read books on how to deal with anxiety in making love. This will guide you atleast.

Answer 4

Honestly dude, I have a 23 year old friend that was in the same position as you......he didnt even get into a relationship or have sex until he was 22. Hes fine. The fact is that having sex is no different than any other step in life, its taken at different times for different people. Trust me, nobody will look back in their 40's and be proud of being sexually active when they were 14. I had my oppurtunities earlier in high school, but if she wasnt attractive, or the situation wasnt right it just wasnt worth it to me. It just happens when it does. Sex seems to have little to do with looks or personality, just look at all the stupid ugly people who screw eachother, its just revolting, lol. Dont stress, just put yourself out in more social situations. Having sex is like playing the lottery...but with much better odds. Social situations are like playing lottery tickets. You just need to buy more!

Answer 5

Hey go out and find a nice girl, who is a virgin or has not had very many sex partners. You should date for a month or so and see how things are going. Bring up the subject to her and tell her how you feel. If your worried about being good then you lay on your back and let her do what feels good to her.

Answer 6

Ralph Kramden you are a very sad man. Very disturbing comments. I feel sorry for your family if you are for real.Oh dont worry about it. It will happen naturally. I wouldnt go around with a sticker on your back stating the fact. I am sure the woman who does sleep with you wont even know you are a virgin. So why tell her. When you care for someone go slowly. Dont do it all at the same time. Days of slowly working up to the big day ;-) creates alot more passion, lust all the good stuff. Then trust me you will not need an instruction booklet once you have really developed lust for the woman. Relax.

Answer 7

Is it a wang problem? Get some of that Viagra! Even if you don't need it, it's awesome! Man, I accidentally knocked over a chair the other day when I tried it!
But seriously, just be yourself. And most importantly, be confident in everything you do. Now that dos'nt mean be a jerk... Just be assured in your actions. Girls seem to like that. And you will too once you reap the "rewards".
Good luck man.

Oh, and wear a rubber. You don't want mummy rot down there...

Answer 8

don't feel like a social retard. It's ok. Some women find virgins really hot. You need to find a woman that will want to teach you a little something. Don't be ashamed of your virginity. Just relax, get out there and socialize, and don't forget to have a condom handy :)

Answer 9

Dont 'get it over with'. Wait until you find the right woman. I know its hard at times, but being a virgin might make you even more attractive when you find the right gal. It'll make the honey-moon even more spectacular. Being nervous is a sign your not ready, wait until you feel more secure about 'it'.

Answer 10

I waited to 22, with the girl I'm still with and plan to marry

yeah, I had opportunities, offers, and had to leave rooms to keep it that long, (high school was fun!) but it's the choice I made. I don't feel retarded for it--it's a choice I made and stuck to, although it's tough when you realise all your friends did years ago...